I can be there in 3 hours Sarah ......

From the advice point of view , whether a client or lover, the first priority is plenty of lube and time.

The right partner is going to be patient and will take all the time you need. A guy leaping on your back and piledriving with vigour is not something you want the first time, or any time for that matter.

The right partner will know that this is about you even if he is paying for the privilege.

Start small with a well-manicured and lubed finger (no recently cut nails as they are sharp!) slow motions. You know what pleases you so tell him.

Build up to maybe a well lubed small toy, something vibrating maybe. And so it goes until it is something equal to the width of your chosen hero. It could take 15 minutes (unusual) of an hour or more before you are even ready to consider a chap entering.

Once he is in, no thrusting just small movements until you get comfortable. And that is the secret, comfort. There is the whole pleasure in pain thing, if it hurts a little but you like it then great, but as soon as you feel uncomfortable take a break or go back a step or two.

The real secret is in choosing the right partner the first few times. Whether it is a trusted and special client or a lover that understands your desires they should allow you to be in total control until you are ready to let go.

You are in a very vulnerable space when you do this for the first time. You need to have total trust in your partner. If you don't then wait until you find someone that you do.

Maybe you'll love it, maybe you won't or maybe it will just be a bit of a disappointment. Enjoy trying, take your time and what will be will be.

Oh did I mention lots of lube!

On 2017-02-03 20:00:33 Kimmylee said:
. Too bad now I don't anymore.....:(

:'(

On 2017-02-04 10:40:27 le roux said:
From the advice point of view , whether a client or lover, the first priority is plenty of lube and time.

The right partner is going to be patient and will take all the time you need. A guy leaping on your back and piledriving with vigour is not something you want the first time, or any time for that matter.

The right partner will know that this is about you even if he is paying for the privilege.

Start small with a well-manicured and lubed finger (no recently cut nails as they are sharp!) slow motions. You know what pleases you so tell him.

@ le roux...I think that you are one of the right people who would be the perfect sweet candidate.

@ Sarah....Adult stores sell anal gel/lube 2 types I know) specially for Greek that helps to numb the anus for a much better/less painful insertion with an "erected" penis at least 30 minutes before the coitus. That's how I prepared my Greek sessions to full enjoyment not forgetting smearing more around the penis while I'm at it.

One must be very gentle to begin with and by the time your head starts spinning with excitement Sarah, you won't be complaining any longer cause the sensation is very different from the vaginal coitus.

Warning Sarah: Get rid of the waste first, wash the choco fountain clean, before the deed. Read between the lines....lol

@ Nightcrawler69...Sorry boo boo, it's still too bad I don't.... Ncwaaaaaa!

@kimmylee. I too am sad I'll never get to go there with you. After my close encounter with you once before, I figured I'd finally get to see you on that rare occasion that I find myself in the Cape or you decide to come back this side. You are, after-all, the embodiment of all my ultimate fantasies.

robbycolonel....No need to figure anymore. We can still make use of those other fantasies. What do you say? You're so kind. I'll be home soon, keep that in mind....*kisses*

stopping and restarting as a part of lovemaking itself and doesn't differentiate them from the act. He'll be more tender and more attentive to the needs of your body. It's an added bonus if the man you are with is in tune with you enough to know when to do these things without you having to tell him. (That's not always possible, though, so tell him if it starts to hurt.)
Only you'll know if you can see these qualities in one of your regulars.

Kimmy mentioned numbing lubricants. I'd advise against these. Pain is your body's way of telling you that something's wrong - and you want to know when something's being done wrong while you have time to correct it. Use a good (read "expensive") well reviewed silicone or thick water based lubricant. Anal lubes are not the same as vaginal lubes. They're thicker and last longer. Of course, all lubricants are not created equally , so do your homework and buy something proven to be good. As for additives, Jojoba based lubricants may help your muscles relax and aloe base lubes soothe and may speed up healing of microtears.
There's no such thing as too much lube, however, getting lube all over your hands and the outside of your butt is messy and not very effective. Lube shooters work well to deliver the lubricant to where it needs to be. They're slim and smooth, so getting one in should be easy. Warm lube helps the anal muscles relax more than a cold syringe. It should be at, or just above body temp (about 37 to 40 degrees) - not much more. Your rectal mucous membranes are sensitive to heat and it will hurt if the lube I hot. If it feels hot on the inside of your forearm, cool it down before using. Remember to thoroughly lube your partner's penis.

Prepare beforehand. A bowel movement before attempting anal sex always makes it a less shitty experience. Consider doing a douche to make it more pleasant afterwards. Finding a mess on the tip of his penis when he pulls out can be a turnoff for both of you - unless you're into that kind of stuff, in which case, enjoy. Douches are not exactly a "must do" for everybody. Some don't need to do them at all.
Be careful not attempt what you seen in pornos - not the first time anyway. These girls often have years of practice, lots of professional preparation before and breaks in between takes.

You say you haven't found the right partner outside of work, so you're considering a punter. That's actually fantastic cause there's no one pressuring you into anal. This means you have time to get to know your body. So why rush? Buy a small, slim butt plug. Test it ( after lubing thoroughly.) Butt plug training sets can be purchased online and should be a great set of tools to help train your mind and body. The sets include small medium and a little more than medium (often not actually large.) As you progressively accept the larger training plugs, you'll learn techniques that work for you and help you relax - all in a clean, safe environment. Take your time. Try vibrating toys, dildos and butt plugs. Vibration really helps muscles relax. Things that wouldn't go in before, often go in relatively easily once vibration is added. Consider also using a vibrator to help relax your anal muscles during your first time with a partner. Just remember to put a condomn on it if you plan on putting it back in your vagina during the same session. Double penetration, using a soft skinned vibrator in your vagina, during anal sex can be pretty intense for the both of you. But that's for more advanced sessions.

Whatever you choose to do, have a great time doing it.

You still haven't done it! Sarah, you've been thinking about this for way too long. Email the client with the thinnest weiner, who actually knows how to use it and tick it off your bucket list already. When you like it, you'll have opened up a new income stream.

and if all this advice doesn't put you off for life nothing will .... :)

@Doc63......Indeed...lol