This is like the chicks on Tinder saying "No hook-ups!" and being angry that that guys are trying to hook-up on the hookup app.

Sorry you have to go through that Shakira. You'd swear this industry is filled with immoral disrespectful perverts that may be go as far as breaking the law.

People must stop going to a butchery and asking for meat when they offer vegetarian.

It's plain down pathetic.

On 2021-05-11 18:36:46 Gretchen said:
Firstly, sorry Shakira that you have to go through that. Especially when you clearly state on your profile what to expect. I do the same, and still get calls asking whether I do submissive bondage (what!!) My suggestion would be to make it very clear beforehand what the guy can expect. If you have to, say it again as you start massaging. If he still asks after that, firmly reply "what part of the no full house / oral DID HE NOT UNDERSTAND"?

Please u keep ur mouth shut.
U were just banned, dont jump on the bandwagon here

Eish it's sad that in this day and time guys are so jaxed, if the add says massage then why book expecting more....

I wish all MG who does not offer extras would put that on their profiles.

Thanks to those who do. Makes my life alot easier. I can avoid those who does not offer the service I may be in the mood for. Im sure as shit not going to waste my time begging for something I have to pay for at the end.

On 2021-05-11 22:03:00 Stguy007 said:
Eish it's sad that in this day and time guys are so jaxed, if the add says massage then why book expecting more....

I don't get why they look for plain massage here and an adult site. I mean, at the prices for an hour I have gotten full and half day couples spa experiences including breakfast and lunch done by highly qualified therapists and beauticians.

On 2021-05-11 22:12:38 Need4Passion said:
On 2021-05-11 22:03:00 Stguy007 said: Eish it's sad that in this day and time guys are so jaxed, if the add says massage then why book expecting more....

I don't get why they look for plain massage here and an adult site. I mean, at the prices for an hour I have gotten full and half day couples spa experiences including breakfast and lunch done by highly qualified therapists and beauticians.

Dude yes this is an adult site , you get too see more than what you would get to see at a day spa hence the price, it's only fair for Shakira to note down her request if punters are not happy then book someone else simple

I used to actively contribute to this forum when it first started. We had mutual respect for each other back in those days between Punters and Service Provider's. Threads offered constructive and informative advise. And then it became a World of Word's of War between Client's and Ladies hiding behind keyboards 'using every opportunity to lambast and be derogatory towards each other? I then chose to stop contributing. I was always here to promote and encourage the best that this "Purple" world could offer.

I read this thread and I am reminded and cringe at why I chose to stop commenting on the forums! But at the same time I am abhorred by the comments of some of the posters. What has made us become so apathetic, desensitized to the point that we show no empathy for another human being?

No! Means NO! It doesn't even equate or is justified an excuse on any Level whether it is personal, business, sexual or physical!

Arizona

Shakira, I understand your frustration.
I must be honest and I am sorry to be the bearer of bad news, they will never stop asking, ever.

No matter what your ad states or whether you're listed under massage or girls, they will always take their chances. Not all of them, but many.

17 years I have been in this industry and this is unfortunately one of the cons that you need to work around.

(This is not only for fh, but any boundary)

When you have a person who asks once, tell him no and don't take offense.
When this person pushes the boundaries, you immediately ask him to leave, no second chances ever. Don't take any disrespect.

I have a block list longer than I can actually care to count, boundary pushers, chancers, foul mouthed, arrogant or rude, can't take no for an answer etc.

I have this list not because I think I can walk on water, but to protect my mental health, keep my self respect and to have a safe work environment.

You have to learn to say no with conviction.
There is no nice way to say no, you are not dealing with children.

I cannot emphasize enough to state your boundaries clear on the phone, when the person oversteps refer to the information given and stop the session when the person doesn't listen.

Over time, if you intend to do this for a while, you will be less offended and more self assured that when you say no, you don't need to convince anyone, you mean it.

Many fail to understand that this doesn't just pertain to fh with massage girls.

This is for any service a person doesn't feel comfortable to provide.

Who wants a bj from someone who detests giving them?
Who wants to go down on a girl if she actually cringes at the thought of oral?
Who wants to kiss someone who doesn't enjoy kissing?
Who wants to sleep with someone who doesn't want to be slept with?

Obviously someone who enjoys rejection.

It is simple, we provide services we feel comfortable with. Pushing a boundary doesn't only get you another notch on your ass hole belt, you are breaking down the very unit the SP has to protect themselves.