I have this long term regular who has turned into a monster,we where once very closed.we enjoyed each others company,but until he crossed a line and tried to force himself on me.what hurt me the most was that,he is one of the people I shared my past with.he knows what happened in the past

I was left with no choice but to ask him to leave,and I asked for a cancellation fee.which pissed him off to the core

He later told me that he will never ever book me again,I told him it was a good idea.because I hate it when someone mistreat me

But after sometime he called and asked to come over so we can talk about his behaviour,instead of him to apologize but he told me.he wasn't sorry about it,because he was drunk so he doesn't remember

I asked him to leave,then I blocked him on my both phones.

Today I went to the mall,when I was there.i got a call from one of my neighbour,saying I have a visitor at the gate.

I told her I wasn't expecting anyone,if I did i wouldn't have gone out.i asked her to ask him who he is,it turned to be him.

But when i asked one of my client,if it's okay for me to get a restraining order again him.he said it's not a good idea because I will be exposed for what i do.

My question is since,him and i we both on one of dating site.Can I just say we met there? And get him off my back

On 2022-04-30 19:39:19 Miss Barbie Doll said:
until he crossed a line and tried to himself on me.

Sorry just want to clarify, he tried to what himself on you?

This is difficult.
Firstly
As a woman. No matter what the situation or the background story, you have the right to get a restraining order if you feel threatened.
Secondly
Your regular is reading this now. So expect a backlash.
Thirdly
Protect yourself and apply appropriate action for the risk!

Keep safe.

On 2022-04-30 20:11:48 Johannesjacobs said:
This is difficult.
Firstly
As a woman. No matter what the situation or the background story, you have the right to get a restraining order if you feel threatened.
Secondly
Your regular is reading this now. So expect a backlash.
Thirdly
Protect yourself and apply appropriate action for the risk!

Keep safe.

You are right he might be reading,because a lot of guys always say there are not on ESA.when there are actually there,he was one of the best regulars I had...

But now I despise him unfortunately,I am not a really forgiving person.once I have had enough of something

I'm sorry to hear about this Miss Barbie.

There is never a justification for abuse. Accountability and changed behaviour is the best apology.

May you find the best way forward to find peace and to be safe. Sending you *big hugs* and all the love <3

It's not so easy to get a restraining order. It's not instant, unless there's a history of domestic violence and you're beaten black and blue. When applying for a restraining order, the magistrate, will A. Give you a court date (months later) for both parties to appear in court, so both side of the story can be heard or B. Set a date for both parties to see a mediator - this is to see whether the problem can be solved without having to go to court. I mean, he only turned up at your gate, and you weren't there. That's hardly a reason to get a restraining order. Trust me, I've been through it twice, with much more severe circumstances than someone just turning up at my gate. I dont believe that a magistrate will think that it is restraining order serious if he only turned up at your gate.

On 2022-04-30 21:11:59 Raphael_ Xclusive said:
I'm sorry to hear about this Miss Barbie.

There is never a justification for abuse. Accountability and changed behaviour is the best apology.

May you find the best way forward to find peace and to be safe. Sending you *big hugs* and all the love <3

Thanks babes I will be okay:))

On 2022-04-30 21:14:40 Gretchen said:
It's not so easy to get a restraining order. It's not instant, unless there's a history of domestic violence and you're beaten black and blue. When applying for a restraining order, the magistrate, will A. Give you a court date (months later) for both parties to appear in court, so both side of the story can be heard or B. Set a date for both parties to see a mediator - this is to see whether the problem can be solved without having to go to court. I mean, he only turned up at your gate, and you weren't there. That's hardly a reason to get a restraining order. Trust me, I've been through it twice, with much more severe circumstances than someone just turning up at my gate. I dont believe that a magistrate will think that it is restraining order serious if he only turned up at your gate.

Eish sorry you had to go through that,but he did more before he could at the gate:(

Jesus,that sounds scary, keep that guy far away from you. If you can get a restraining order, please get it!

Hi. So sorry to hear about your issue.
Instead of a restraining order you can also look at getting a protection order.
This you can get from a police station.
The trick is to get it delivered to him if you dont know where he lives or works.