How reserved we are when with a lover of long standing. All of a sudden that Adam and Eve innocent beginnings of nakedness, through much shared and discovered, revealed and enjoyed, demanded and given and unashamedly admitted to...suddenly,shyly needs that fig leaf.

Where the garden of eden, in its unrestricted naivety allowed lovers to prance and cocketishly flirt with sensuality and sexuality, what is it that taints and mars that unashamed enjoyment of each others body and mind one experiences in the beginning?

Why is it so much easier or, one so much more courageous to be most naughtily kinky and naked with a total stranger found on a sexy site?

Is it because one has found people like minded who would understand the growing need and not be judgemental?

Is it because from the beginning one did not honestly share ones lusty desires and needs, sticking to acceptable protocol between potential "husband and wife"?

Is it because life changes demand a focus of a different sort and thus one losing focus of all that defined the "once upon a time" lovers dalliance

Or

As I have mentioned before... does familiarity breed contempt?

Whatever it may be, that search for the Unicorn begins and some will claim there ain't none and some will claim they have come across it.

Life is long. Life is for the courageous. Life WILL throw u that curveball.
How u catch that curveball is upto u.

As to finding that Unicorn on a site most Purple?

I think they are there.

It all depends on what one may be looking for.

It may not be the full answer to what is amiss BUT, it most surely can relieve a bit of the nagging need that throbs demanding as well as give another perspective as to why it is ok to be sexy and desirous and how to change it up a bit to make it work for oneself and ones long standing lover.

RB.

...His emotional turmiol got me to thinking.

What would it be , the search for that elusive Unicorn?

Mention is made of a new idea, a new fantasy, never really thought of and, all of a sudden reading the purple forum, one develops a curiosity and need to experiment.

New terminology learnt, a picture painted, the imagination stirred and nipples and bums and thighs and waists desired most lustily.

Sometimes an image captures ones attention...be it an ambiance a mood set, a pose taken, a sensuality obvious.

In all of that...because one shall dabble more than once , is there any true connect to the intimate share, other than the need and want and craving being met?

Simply put...is it as base as satisfying a sexual desire and then moving on or, is there more to it?

There was a thread, not too long ago, about retiring from punting and some mention was made of the reasons why retirement was considered.

I wondered if i punted, would i get bored of it, and that even the best SP's would not satisfy me after a while.

I mean, it is a dalliance that should not encourage emotional attachment. A dalliance that should not be overthought or taken out of perspective?

Then why the consideration to retire from a bevy of naked beauties and services one can pick and choose from?

Possibly because after a while it becomes the same old , same old and one becomes more critical and expectant of what it should be about.

In that case best to step away for a while, otherwise just like a bad relationship, it shall leave a bitter taste in the mouth the longer one fools oneself that it is the SP's to blame rather than admitting it all lays with ones choices made and expectations being unrealistic?


RB.