Quite recently i made a cardinal error in a session .
A light conversation was being held on the merits and demerits found in the environment of Service Providers.

Along the way a comment was made on how sad an event turned, due to a misunderstanding that led to much anger and feelings of anguish.

Without thinking i asked

"And who was involved?"

The gentlemen simply said,

"I mean u no disrespect B but, sorry, best no names mentioned. I think it would be disingenuous of me to share."

If i could have sunk into the ground, i would have. I felt so stupid and dont know what possessed me to ask!?!?!?!......for, i myself, would have reacted the same way.

Like in any professional environment, a confidentiality clause is signed on employment. Sharing of information that could be detrimental to the business or giving unfair advantage to ones competitors by disclosing facts private and confidential, can lead to a warning letter or instant dismissal depending on the gravity of the indiscretion committed.

It is interesting to see the flippancy with which pm's ( private messages), sms's, whattsapps and any other form of communication shared between Service Provider to Service Provider, Punter to Punter, Service Provider to Punter and visa versa ....is easily disclosed and shared with any "Arthur or Martha".

And for those who do not see the grievous harm done in sharing info that should not be shared....it simply states how delusional one is as per this space we find ourselves in.

If anthing, greater confidentiality and privacy should exist. Except in instances where there is an endangering of Service Provider or Punter.

But sharing intrigue, spreading rumours and discussing others can lead to nothing good.

It stirs the embers of uncertainty, anxiety, anger, jealousy....
Information shared in this environment is like playing "broken telephone" ....everybody likes to add their "2c" worth....and by the time it comes out the other end......it is a serious piece of "shitty" information.

And more importantly......taking information shared out of context....wanting to cause further intrigue is a dangerous game to play.

Choose who u want to share what with.

I have already identified who can be trusted and who cannot.
How? By simply sharing information only they have....now that many more know.....well .....says a lot.

The games people play.....why so prominent in this space.....why is it that there is no respect and understanding granted to "privacy"?

Xxx
B.

Hi Miss B,
I really don't believe for a minute it is only prominent in this space / on this forum.
It is a sad truth that people love to gossip.
I trust you will have an awesome day.
Kisses - warm, soft and deep.
K.

Kiss u back dearest K.

Gossip is one thing....information shared given in private is another matter all together. ....and should not be shared methinks....that i consider disingenuous sharing.

Xxx
B.

Miss B, I have once shared some information regarding a lady to a fellow punter with truly the best intention and he showed her the link, most probably to discredited me. She asked me about the link and i could explain the contents and it was resolved in a adult manner, we are much better friends now. It backfired into his face !!!

It is a subtle differentiation Miss B, but I totally agree with you on the incorrectness of the sharing of private information, just as much as I dislike the spreading of rumors.

Xxxx
K.

Greetings BOOBS

Sometimes, as has been the case recently with me too, it is sad when one finds out the true value of a person one thought highly of and were confident to share info with.

Though, i do have to admit, the titbits i share, i care not their disclosure with all honesty...otherwise i wouldnt have shared.
Just interesting how others need to use it in the hope of ....what?

for me:
should anybody consider sharing a personal fact about themselves with me....how telling of my character that is....and i walk prouder and taller than i did before the info was shared.

How stupid some people can be and small minded in their insecurities....and yes dearest K, a subtle differentiation it is....and agree with all you have written.

xxx
B.

My opinion and philosophy is was and will always be that anything personal discussion remains personal and can not be disclosed to a third party unless there was specific consent from the disclosing party to share......
Trust is earned daily and in every aspect and never a given in my books and should never be taken for granted

SoS

Trust....a big word that.

Wonder how many know the true value of that. To those who trust me....i am honoured...beyond any words or money.

xxx
B.

Dear Bridgitte

Trust.... massive amount of meaning attached to the word, and have to agree not understood and probably valued by all

"to believe that someone is good and honest and will not harm you, or that something is safe and reliable"

Massive responsibility and not easily earned in my opinion

SoS

On 2016-11-01 12:10:16 Russian Bridgitte said:
The gentlemen simply said

And who is he?