TURNING ENDINGS INTO NEW BEGINNINGS

1). LET THE THINGS YOU CAN'T CONTROL GO -- Most things are only a part of your life because you keep thinking about them. Positive things happen in your life when you emotionally distance yourself from the negative things. So stop holding on to what hurts, and make room for what feels right. Do not let what is out of your control interfere with all the things you can control.

2). ACCEPT AND EMBRACE REALITY -- Life is simple. Everything happens for you, not to you. Everything happens at exactly the right moment, neither too soon nor too late. For everything you lose, you gain something else; and for everything you gain, you lose something else. You don't have to like it, but it's just easier if you do. So pay attention to your outlook on life. You can either regret or rejoice; it's your choice.

3). CHANGE YOUR MIND -- Change is like breath -- it isn't part of the process, it is the process. In reality the only thing we can count on is change. And the first step toward positive change is to change your outlook. Prepare for the positive. Prepare for the new . Allow the unknown to take you to fresh and unforeseen areas in yourself. Growth is impossible without change. If you cannot change your mind, you cannot change anything in your life. Sometimes all you need to do is look at things from a different perspective.

4). HOLD TIGHT TO THE GOOD THINGS -- When life's struggles knock you into a pit so deep you can't see anything but darkness, don't waste valuable energy trying to dig your way out. Because if you hastily dig in the dark, you're likely to head in the wrong direction and only dig the pit deeper. Instead, use what energy you have to reach out and pull something good in with you. For goodness is bright; its radiance will show you which way is up, and illuminate the correct path that will take you there.

5). REST AND RE-GROUP -- Strength isn't about bearing a cross of grief or shame. Strength is about choosing your path, living with the consequences, and learning from them. Sometimes you do your best and end up with a mess. When this happens, don't be discouraged. You tried. That's really all you can ever do. You have not failed; you just learned what not to do. So rest, regroup, and begin again with what you now know.

6). TAKE CHANCES -- Making a big life change or trying something new can be scary. But do you know what's even scarier? Regret. So realize that most of your fears are much bigger in your mind than they are in reality; you'll see this for yourself as soon as you face them. Don't let them stop you. Live your life so that you never have to regret the chances you never took, the love you never let in, and the gifts you never gave out.

7). KEEP CLIMBING -- Every person who is at the top of the mountain did not fall there from the sky. Good things come to those who work for them. You gain confidence and grow stronger by every experience in which you truly push yourself to do something you didn't think you could do. If you are standing in that place of in-between, unable or unwilling to go backwards, but too afraid to move forward, remember that you can't enjoy the view without being willing to climb.

8). APPRECIATE WHAT YOU HAVE LEARNED -- Nothing is more beautiful and powerful than a smile that has struggled through the tears. Don't regret your time, even the moments that were filled with hurt. Smile because you learned from it and gained the strength to rise above it. In the end, it's not what you have been through that defines who you are; it shows you got through it that has made you the person you are today, and the person you are capable of being tomorrow.

9). REALIZE EVERY STEP IS NECESSARY -- Nothing is ever wrong. We learn from every step we take. Whatever you did today was a necessary step to get to tomorrow. So be proud of yourself. Maybe you are not as good as you want to be, or as great as you one day will be; but thanks to all the lessons you've learned along the way, you are so much better than you used to be.

Thank you for sharing Stormpie....Such wise words...I know there is allot that I can take out of that!! Dammn!!! Just so hard to do!!

Thank you... agreed Minime x We will need a bit of CBT for that (cognitive behavorial therapy).. Stormpie you sound like a very happy person to be around!!

Mandy...CBT?? Sounds more difficult than some of the KamaSutra positions!!

Selfesteem...and letting go of the past......there is my whole... WHOLE problem! Are there a Pshyciatrist in the room?

Stormpie is a lovely person to be with. Her laugh and smile is contagious...who dont love to smile and laugh?

@MiniMe007... aaaawwweee thank you for once again a beautiful compliment wow!!!

Soooo...selfesteem you say??? Wth??? Why in the world will a awesome man as yourself not have a self esteem... see the big thing in life is to learn...look and see yourself in the mirror and find what YOU want and love and find yourself... you passion...your dream...your goal... it's never ever 2 late!!! As mentioned above every ending is a new beginning...

Why in the world would you even think of the past my skat we all have a past no single person on this earth is perfect even the ones that act to be... but we are all uniques... we all have a little something that makes us special... dont ever look at your past YOU AINT GOING THERE... future... now that is excitement... TOTES!!!!

Groot drukkie MiniMe007 stay awesome!!!!!

@Mandy wow what a nice comment from an absolutely stunning woman!!! I would say i'm just a very optimistic person probably tooooooo much... i will rather see good in everything in life than bad... i hate negativity around me makes me run... life is short and i'm like that song "i feel so alive for the very first time" think the band is life... i live everyday as if its my last... thank you for taking the time 2 read my thread it touched my heart and just had to share...

Kisses xoxo!!

Its just training your thinking patterns xxx

True that!!!!

Stormpie... not letting hurtful things harden our hearts and still staying soft is a very hard trait nowadays and i fully understand why ppl do get bitter, angry @ the world... so your words were a good reminder!

I'm really glad my words came helpfull what is the saying "to have a soft heart in a cruel world is courage not weakness"