Before I start my rant, as old toppies are bound to do, I clearly understand that this is a tough Industry and many a pitfall to all involved but always of the expression that adults choose what they do?

Met so many wonderfull ladies who love what they do and render an immaculate service which I believe they almost enjoy as much as we males do! Over the the years? Many examples of this? Robin, Roxy, Foxi, Veronica, Kirsty, Meg, Gabbi etc

But it is so sad that some ladies get caught up in the Evil Circle of doing it to get drugs and then doing drugs to do it? I am ashamed if ever I was one of those to facilitate this....

Reason for my rant?

In the last 3 weeks saw the following:
- Previous top 10 Girl on a street Corner in Edenvale
- Top 10 girl fall from no 1 to unlisted in 2 weeks and I know it was " rocks"
- To be called at 23h00 to beg for rent money by a high profile top rated lady
- again a very controversial contributor asking for R8500 to get her children home?

And the last reason why? To be stood up yet again by a gorgeous beautiful lady with star rankings because she had to quickly meet a " friend down the road to pay rent?"

Alas my days to retirement now due!

Sadly this is the true reality of this business, for many who do enter into this business.

Girls pretending to love what they do, but hate what they do, take drugs to cope, but to get the drugs that they need to cope, they gotta do what they hate.........a vicious circle on a never ending loop.....then there are those who make a lot of money and are not junkies, but spend it as fast as they get it on god only knows what and have absolutely nothing to show for it, yet another vicious circle....

Just like in the "outside world", trying to help people who live in this purple world, is pointless. Only the addict can help herself/himself.

My advice, do not feel responsible for perpetuating their descent into the abyss of self destruction, because you are not.

I know I may sound heartless, but for my own peace of mind and sanity, I refuse to feel sympathy for them nor will I help anyone who squanders their money or who are addicted to drugs.

Very sad indeed !!!

If you think, even one lonesome lady- on this site or in this industry genuinely gets thorough enjoyment from these activities, you are mistaken. Merely ask at your next encounter whether this would be her first choice of occupation.

Should she have a moment of absolute honesty- your perspective may be adjusted to equilibrium.

I find it difficult to say that i do not empathise and sympathise with addicts of substances. And this for no other reason than having worked in environments where substance abuse is brought about due to circumstance or situation experienced.
That inability to understand or grasp the effects on loved ones and others near, when lying and promising oneself and the world, it is the last time one shall dabble in a drug Soul destroying. Yet somewhere deep within, the fight horrific....the reasoning there, wishful hope there...the strength not...will power...?
For those strong of mind and will, like myself and many others, it makes no sense...seen as an excuse...the easy way out.
Maybe so...but, i have seen how despondence deep and immaturity can reason a very wrong choice right.
And that is when the bud should be nipped...
This environment conducive to substance abuse...advocated openly behind closed doors. Girls to girls. Punters to girls....the hypocrisy of many....

And when i had just entered this environment...a year and half ago....how many offers of drugs, alcoholic over-nighters ...tempted with offers of R20 000...i shall not lie....my financial situation dire at that time....somewhere the call was strong to go to Emperors and collect the monies....it would only be a night...what harm could be done?

My saving grace? My maturity, my fear of addiction, my fear of belittling myself and my values....where did that come from...i think it goes back to when i was small and what i had been exposed to ...blessed by many around me showing me, guiding me, disciplining me, never spoiling me....taking the time in me.
I do not claim that is what works for all but, i can say, it has helped me understand and dig deep in the psych of humans and always drives me to look for solutions possible or answers just out of reach.
In this environment....?....the lies should stop as should the finger pointing. And again i say....a creation of an infra-structure for one of the most intimate potentially Soul destroying professions since time began. And reiterate....not a safe house. But a ways and means of helping and pointing many in a new direction in the hope of breaking away from the fangs of this industry, with as much self-worth preserved and dignity in place.

B.

Well said everyone.

But do not, for one moment, think you walk away from this world unscathed, be you punter or service provider. Be it drugs, alcohol, addiction in any form. Mentally, emotionally, spiritually or physically. Immersing yourself in your work, or a passion, or a distraction. Escaping a bad relationship or for whatever reason.

We all walk a path with consequences. Whether of our own choices or the choices of the people we allow into our lives. At the end of the day, they are our choices!

You are only responsible for yourself, once the decision is made. You cannot undo the hands of time!

I know this, because I have lived it daily, yearly, in this industry, and in life. I have seen beauty. I have seen ecstasy, I have seen heartbreak and agony. I have seen the best of both worlds. I have seen the loneliness, the isolation. There isn't much I haven't seen. And worst of all I have experienced the personal loss of choices made, that I cannot undo. And wish I could! But I have also seen it self destruct! In the most beautiful of strong souls. There is not a day where I don't question my own choices or feel a deep sense of admiration and guilt for the friends I see self destructing. In this world and the so called normal world.

And I wish nothing more than to impart my experience on those considering this lifestyle, but they are just words, that fall on the ears of those that will not hear!

Arz

This is one thread that i will keep my eye on. Had some experience with drug addiction from people close to me. Through all efforts made, watching them 'self destruct' is one of the worst feelings in the world.

There but for the grace of God, go I....John Bradford.

If anybody thinks its not happening outside of the industry, catch a wake up. If you think your kids don't do drugs, catch a wake-up. If you think guys on this forum do not do drugs on bookings, catch a wake-up. There is a member who seems to know every single lady who did/does drugs. My thinking is he does drugs w them. Thats how he knows. I posted on a similar thread a year ago and got a call from an advertiser telling me I have no idea who in this forum does drugs, which members do drugs on bookings. She didn't want to say who she was, she didn't have to, I picked it up in her posts. Too many things posted were almost word for word what she told me. I was shocked by her identity. Dunno why I was shocked. Her name had been circulating in punting circles as a user but I didn't believe it. Quite frankly it doesn't matter what I believe. All I know is that we all battle our own demons. And if people looked a little closer in their inner circle. they'll see the scourge of drugs is a lot closer than the sex industry.

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The abuse of alcohol and substances are rampant. And not just here on the purple site, but in all walks of life, although in my experience it is much more prevalent here.

Many reasons, like I need it to get through the day. Using weed like it is siggies, telling all and sundry that it has medicinal value. Not really.

Coupled to drinking as early as 09h00 in the morning, Vodka of course, it makes for a lethal cocktail of abuse that will send you down that black hole of despair, as the volumes used this week will not be enough for the next week, and you will need more.

Your circumstances not really improving, as you are still stuck in the rut of being in this profession. Granted the unemplyment rate is 25%, which in layman's terms means 1 in every 4 people economically active is without a job.

When you start using drugs and alcohol on a regular basis, you become an addict and/or alcoholic. Alcohol is by far the most used/popular substance to alleviate perceived pain, that is why alcoholics far outnumber druggies. Used together, it creates a downward spiral of emotional shit of epic proportions, and while you think that it is helping you, no darling, it is not. Helping you cope ? No sweetie pie. Helping you further into the gutter ? Yes baby, but I don't want to hear it.

They will always tell you that they are "functional addicts". That my dear, is a contradiction in terms. You are not functioning. You are an addict.

And this is usually coupled with the bevy of fucknut friends that seem to surround you, where virtually anything goes. Bareback sex in your zoned-out state, just one of the side effects. Your body being ravaged from the inside by the incessant use of substances and alcohol. You thinking that you are stronger than this.

Catch a wake up.

IT WILL BE THE DEATH OF YOU.

Harsh words, but I believe correct.

I don't have an answer, and the many times that I tried to help by promoting a better lifestyle just a monumental waste of time, to the point where even I have become numb to the plight of someone hooked on alcohol and drugs.

We in the real world also have problems, and lots of it. It is not an excuse to be a substance abuser just because you are on this site. Look in the mirror and start living life like the rest of us.

Here endeth the lesson