Morning

In line with another thread and discussion last night the following.
A tongue in cheek remark coupled with a personal experience in the last few weeks prompted the following:

People are told so often that self-respect is very important, and that they need it for many different reasons. The amount of self-respect we have varies greatly; some people have too little and perhaps some have too much. It's necessary to therefore ask the question.... why self-respect is important, and whether there is anything else more vital for a person's happiness and well-being?

The primary reason that people need self-respect is that without it, they will be unhappy and not take care of themselves. Without self-respect, many people will fail to realize that what they want and need in life does actually matter, and because of this, they will go through life being miserable. They are also more likely to take risks with their health and the law, because they don't think that their life is worth all that much, or that people don't care what happens to them. Self-respect is necessary to having a happy and satisfying life, so everybody needs to have respect for themselves.

The second important reason that people need self-respect is that you need to respect yourself before anyone else will respect you. If someone has so little self-respect and self-esteem that they are unable to stand up for themselves, no one is going to respect them. One very good example of this is the case of peer pressure. A person who gives in to everything will not be respected by their peers at all: simply expected to do the next big thing that they're pressured to do.

People who care about themselves will care enough about the body and their life to refuse things that they don't want to do. Because of this, they will not only be able to demand respect from their peers, but also live a happier, healthier life where they don't do everything just to please others.

However, having plenty of or too much self-respect is no good if it totally outweighs the level of respect that we have for others.

Respect is a two-way street, and if you don't treat other people with the respect they deserve, you may respect yourself but nobody else will.

In conclusion, there's no doubt in my mind that self-respect is important. We all need a certain amount to get what we need out of life, and get the respect that we need from others. But, respecting others is equally important.

Ultimately, if the world were a more respectful place, where we respected ourselves and those around us, it would be a happier place in my humble opinion.

Enjoy the rest of the day

SoS

And there lies the crux SoS.

Your post in relation to this space...

This weeks posts are proof
that many punters have the view that Service Providers have no self- esteem, self-respect and are nothing more than a handwank, a body-slide, a fuck . They are considered hypocrites should they have a view on matters related to morals, scruples, integrity, honesty and ethics.
They are not expected to be logical, intelligent, reliable, professional, successful....worthy.
Simply.....how could it be a woman who opts to intimately share of herself in a space as THIS be worthy?
Over and over i muse at the hypocrisy, arrogance, stupidity, egotistical and small- mindedness of some who post.
The Service Provider defined by sex....and nothing more.
Her life is sex. Her thoughts are sex. She eats sex. She lives sex. She thinks sex......really?

There is one person here....and this i trust comes across as a compliment....for that is how it is meant......who consistently shows and understands that a Service Provider is just on a job.....and that job is just that.....once out of the environment.....she is a person like any other.

Oraljim......

Sir. As i have said before.....u do make my blood boil, but u are fair.
Thank u.

How we percieve ourselves is then the other part. Should i be shamed at my choice, at such a late stage in my life, to be here?
Not at all! Do i advertise it? Not at all!
Why?
Not because i feel shame but, because, as has been proven here...society considers me a degenerate. A threat to the percieved "norms" of society.

What a sad state of affairs.

You dear one....SoS.....u are a wonderful conversationalist.

Xxx
B.

On 2016-09-21 08:49:11 Russian Bridgitte said:
They are considered hypocrites should they have a view on matters related to morals, scruples, integrity, honesty and ethics.
They are not expected to be logical, intelligent, reliable, professional, successful....worthy.

I must be honest we must be reading different forums you and I. I admit I haven't read every post on every thread but I've seen no evidence of attitudes like this. I'm glad. If I'd seen such it would just have made me angry.

On 2016-09-21 08:49:11 Russian Bridgitte said:
Oraljim......

Sir. As i have said before.....u do make my blood boil, but u are fair.
Thank u.

Sorry I make your blood boil dear. I was aiming for keeping it at a low simmer :-D But seriously, I thank you for the compliment indeed.

Dear Bridgitte

Further to your comment and specifically related to self perception my view if I may....

To really perceive someone as they perceive themselves, you really need to step back and take a look into their intentions and their situation. Don't think about the consequences or your perceived meaning of their actions, but rather think about what circumstances led them to act in that way.

That way we may just be a bit more tolerant and accepting which can only be good in the long run?

SoS

There is a significant cross over between what people consider to be self esteem, self-respect or general respect and ego, arrogance or the refusal to understand that other people have different values, principles and ways of life.

Self-respect is the introspective monitoring and maintenance of grace, honour, good will, health and humour. Respect is the outward projection of these values. Self-esteem is being the better person and being able to live comfortably in one's skin happy in the knowledge that you have acted properly, risen above slights or provocations and have done your best.

If you call me a P##s because I voted ANC, spilt your beer or dared to step in to the road when you wanted to drive on it, you have not disrespected me but have shown me you have no sense of self-respect.

If I impose my personal values, principles, morals and sense of justice upon you I am not respecting you.

Do you realise what we are doing here. Associating with harlots, hookers, those that society in general agrees are without morals and who endanger all with the iniquity of their chosen trade. How can we possibly respect ourselves? We are an anathema to all that is right and correct.

Do you respect the dude with the trolley that goes through all of our garbage picking out the plastic paper and glass? Look at him, he's uneducated, wears rags, he probably hasn't had a bath in months if not years, the dude is a disgrace, a danger to traffic and quite frankly should be barred from entering this otherwise pristine suburb!

I happen to believe that Pandas should be farmed commercially for their fur and that the world would be a far better place if it included Panda Paw Fricassee.

Self respect and general respect is being able to deal with the above and simply walk away understanding that there is no helping such people.

Respect is understanding that that "hooker" is a person with a heart and feelings and understanding that no matter the provocation that angered you, you are there of your own free will and can simply walk away.

Respect is appreciating that the trolley guy works harder in a day than you do in a week and does it because he has not been deemed worthy of the chances and opportunities you were given.

Pandas have nothing to do with respect but can assist in understanding good taste and common sense. You should never Fricassee Panda Paw, a shallot infused red wine reduction is by far the tastier option.

You know, sometimes I read through what I write, take a sideways glance at the mirror in my office and say "Le Roux" you really need to step back from the keyboard. WTF is going on in my mind today?

A philosophical debate le roux?....dont step away from the keyboard.
Please.

Xxx
B.

On 2016-09-21 10:33:59 le roux said:
You know, sometimes I read through what I write, take a sideways glance at the mirror in my office and say "Le Roux" you really need to step back from the keyboard. WTF is going on in my mind today?

Lol also like to know.... but it does make sence.

@SoundofSilence & le roux, very profound posts indeed.

Imo self respect is based on inner peace regarding choices made. Like most things in life, self respect is subjective.
It costs nothing to be tolerant and respect the choices and perspectives of others, even though I may disagree with it.

The way I see it, unless the opinions and choices of others affects me directly in terms of my life and my business, why should I allow my psyche to be troubled over what another person chooses to do or their opinions?