So I was brought up to believe women are these fragile little gentle beings that should be protected and cared for. I have lived my life with this in mind.

Now I have a significant other and I feel that sometimes I am being too gentle with her in terms of lovemaking.

You need to understand I am a large man. Nearly 2m tall and closer to 150kg than I would like to be (although I am not obese - just big in general). Dick wise I am average and not hung like a stallion, so I am not scared of hurting her that way, just physically.

My question is, and this is based on how I feel when we make love, is that I am more of a passionate person than someone who pounds away like he is drilling for gold.

Perhaps some lessons in hardcore sex? To see if I am able to cross that psychological barrier?

What do you guys/gals think?

Difficult to answer this as everyone's levels of hardcore will be different. And you dont also always want hardcore...

The only way you will know what your partner prefers is to ask her! All the replies you will get on here is going to be irrelevant.

How do you like it then Sarah?

I did actually write how I prefer it, but then deleted that bit as it wasnt relevant to his question...

I understand what you are saying, the problem I am sitting with is still the ingrained thought of women being the sex we should be protecting and care for.

Even if we agree to try and have hardcore sex I don't know if I will be able to that is what I am saying and asking advice on.

Best thing and always the most difficult when faced with this is worrying too much. If you have this preconceived notion, it is almost impossible to get out of it. Baby steps. Maybe try pulling her hair for starters. Not like in primary school though! But in a sexy way. I tend to enjoy that some times. Also maybe a little bite on the neck or shoulder... Maybe gripping her butt or hips a bit harder than normal.

As I said, there are different levels of hardcore. Try small things first and see how she responds. Maybe while you are fucking say something like "I want to fuck your pussy so hard." and see what she says... EXPERIMENT!!

On 2017-01-25 14:22:45 Sarah said:
Best thing and always the most difficult when faced with this is worrying too much. If you have this preconceived notion, it is almost impossible to get out of it. Baby steps. Maybe try pulling her hair for starters. Not like in primary school though! But in a sexy way. I tend to enjoy that some times. Also maybe a little bite on the neck or shoulder... Maybe gripping her butt or hips a bit harder than normal.

Thanks. I will give this a go. Thank you Sarah.

What does your signifucant other say? She's the one you should be asking.

@ Doublewide : learn the gentle art of sexual domination.
Connect with the Primal predator inside ;)

I'm happy to teach you during the course of a massage.


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