Where I'm going with this is, is over-familiarity to service providers and others punters not risky thing to do? Especially considering that most of us here are not real friends should there be a fallout with others we would be putting ourselves in difficult situations where we could be extorted or having this secret life out? Perhaps over-familiarity is flying too close to the sun?
Edited: 2023-11-28 14:10:50
I find it hilarious how often men overlook the gigantic elephant in the room, saying things like 'punters have more to lose' in reference to the wives they choose to cheat on, meanwhile there's a HUGE power imbalance at play and quite literally, we risk being raped, beat, murdered with every new client we see.
choosing to risk your relationship is incomparable to the risks we do not choose - the risks that are inherent to being a sex worker and more importantly, being a woman in South Africa.
when you choose to see reputable providers - no, they will not be extorting you for no reason. they know that there's way more money to be made keeping you as a regular. they dont have time or energy for fake cop bullshit. and the only way they WOULD resort to any of the above is if you're a shitty human being, who threatened their safety or livelihood.
y'know in other countries 'punter phones' aren't even a thing. providers do screening, based off your actual name, your real phone number etc *solely* for the purpose of having a leg to stand on, should you assault her.
here, despite us knowing full well that there ARE men who want to harm us among you, we do what we can in terms of sharing descriptions or phone numbers, but what is it worth when that rapist can just spend R10 on a new sim and go on to the next girl?
the OP you speak of, I wasnt around at the time so I cant speak on what happened - but if there's a court case being made, I would assume that (as many do) the punter thought that he could hide his illicit behaviour behind the screen of an internet cafe. to you, he may seem to be a victim. woe is me, his wife found out about what he was choosing to do behind her back. but seriously, what fantasy world is the purple world, if punters cant be held accountable for their behaviour, but SPs can lose their livelihood with one swift thread being posted?
do any of you actually have a clue, how often the words "gold member" have been whispered in the ear of a provider tried to say 'no' - by men who use their "power", who know that SPs need to work to feed and clothe and put a roof over their heads, so they dangle in front of them, the possibility that they could very well take that all away with one review.
cus obviously the circle-jerking hobbyists will run to his aid with sympathy and 'I'm sorry this happened to you bro' gluckgluckgluck 'you should NEVER pay a h0oKeR uPFRONT BRO!!?' gluckgluckgluck just sucking his dick and immediately believing him because he's a poor sweet punter and she's just an insidious, money-hungry "WoRKinG GiRL" who doesnt have any reason to do a decent job once she's been paid.
For real, I read those comments and its SO 'flippen obvious' to me WHY these guys are attracting that type of provider.
As within, so without. Assumption is stronger than manifestation. and if thats what a man thinks of us, then that is PRECISELY what he will receive.
On 2023-11-28 13:08:20 ThatTittyMan said:
I saw a thread from 2008 about a user who got served summons for his/her activity on this site. That made me think about instances where punters have service providers on WhatsApp and there are private altercations which are brought here. With that, I keep questioning myself about the privacy, or lack thereof, that certain punters tend to subject themselves too. Not to say that service providers have nothing to lose, because they do have something to lose, but do punters not often have more to lose by having their presence here exposed?
Where I'm going with this is, is over-familiarity to service providers and others punters not risky thing to do? Especially considering that most of us here are not real friends should there be a fallout with others we would be putting ourselves in difficult situations where we could be extorted or having this secret life out? Perhaps over-familiarity is flying too close to the sun?
Interesting assumption...
Power is loyalty.. Loyalty is power Would trust the ladies on this site more than society out there
Every profile you see on the purple pages are a girl with courage, strenght, endurance put through life's greatest tests and trials
This is no coincidence
You will either feel you can share or not safe to share
One thing is certain The secrets we keep just like a coca cola recipe... is and will always remain secret...
You just need to have the right counsel buddy
The round table never sleeps...
We shouldn't waste the opportunity to reflect that a thread like this one brings.
We are all human beings dealing with other human beings who, like us, are much more than what we see in these purple corridors.
We all have fears and we all have faults and, more than anything, we should keep this in the back of our minds as we interact on the forum.
On 2023-11-28 13:08:20 ThatTittyMan said:
I saw a thread from 2008 about a user who got served summons for his/her activity on this site. That made me think about instances where punters have service providers on WhatsApp and there are private altercations which are brought here. With that, I keep questioning myself about the privacy, or lack thereof, that certain punters tend to subject themselves too. Not to say that service providers have nothing to lose, because they do have something to lose, but do punters not often have more to lose by having their presence here exposed?
Where I'm going with this is, is over-familiarity to service providers and others punters not risky thing to do? Especially considering that most of us here are not real friends should there be a fallout with others we would be putting ourselves in difficult situations where we could be extorted or having this secret life out? Perhaps over-familiarity is flying too close to the sun?
By summons are you referring to legal summons as in a directive to appear in Court?
Please share the link here or via PM
On 2023-11-28 13:08:20 ThatTittyMan said:
I saw a thread from 2008 about a user who got served summons for his/her activity on this site. That made me think about instances where punters have service providers on WhatsApp and there are private altercations which are brought here. With that, I keep questioning myself about the privacy, or lack thereof, that certain punters tend to subject themselves too. Not to say that service providers have nothing to lose, because they do have something to lose, but do punters not often have more to lose by having their presence here exposed?
Where I'm going with this is, is over-familiarity to service providers and others punters not risky thing to do? Especially considering that most of us here are not real friends should there be a fallout with others we would be putting ourselves in difficult situations where we could be extorted or having this secret life out? Perhaps over-familiarity is flying too close to the sun?
Most service providers are single mothers trying to support their children. Some with a former spouse or partner who will try and take their children away. They have more to loose.
You do get the rare hell banshee that will try something like extortion but they are the exception and the signs are usually there.
Firstly i have saved many marriages because of negligent ment who couldn't cover their own tracks. Bent over backward for them because they always treated me with respect. Would do this even if the guys was a asshole.
However sharing information with ladies on the forum is a different story. If you have a problem with your information being shared amongst service providers you probably deserve to be mentioned and these are most likely the guys who will have a issue.
Gentleman who behave as such have nothing to fear.
However ladies need to be alerted if they guy is a trouble makers bad clients who people need to be aware of then well i guess you will have reason to worry.
Though remember it stays there amongst service providers unless some desperate/inconsiderate sp breaks the code.
So ask yourself which kind of punter you are
On 2023-11-28 13:58:07 Hazel Arabia said:
I've got a massively unpopular opinion (well actually, its only really unpopular in SA - in other countries it is the norm) but I just know JP and the likes will come for my head so I'll try to make this quick -- discretion does not mean anonymity.
I find it hilarious how often men overlook the gigantic elephant in the room, saying things like 'punters have more to lose' in reference to the wives they choose to cheat on, meanwhile there's a HUGE power imbalance at play and quite literally, we risk being raped, beat, murdered with every new client we see.
choosing to risk your relationship is incomparable to the risks we do not choose - the risks that are inherent to being a sex worker and more importantly, being a woman in South Africa.
when you choose to see reputable providers - no, they will not be extorting you for no reason. they know that there's way more money to be made keeping you as a regular. they dont have time or energy for fake cop bullshit. and the only way they WOULD resort to any of the above is if you're a shitty human being, who threatened their safety or livelihood.
y'know in other countries 'punter phones' aren't even a thing. providers do screening, based off your actual name, your real phone number etc *solely* for the purpose of having a leg to stand on, should you assault her.
here, despite us knowing full well that there ARE men who want to harm us among you, we do what we can in terms of sharing descriptions or phone numbers, but what is it worth when that rapist can just spend R10 on a new sim and go on to the next girl?
the OP you speak of, I wasnt around at the time so I cant speak on what happened - but if there's a court case being made, I would assume that (as many do) the punter thought that he could hide his illicit behaviour behind the screen of an internet cafe. to you, he may seem to be a victim. woe is me, his wife found out about what he was choosing to do behind her back. but seriously, what fantasy world is the purple world, if punters cant be held accountable for their behaviour, but SPs can lose their livelihood with one swift thread being posted?
do any of you actually have a clue, how often the words "gold member" have been whispered in the ear of a provider tried to say 'no' - by men who use their "power", who know that SPs need to work to feed and clothe and put a roof over their heads, so they dangle in front of them, the possibility that they could very well take that all away with one review.
cus obviously the circle-jerking hobbyists will run to his aid with sympathy and 'I'm sorry this happened to you bro' gluckgluckgluck 'you should NEVER pay a h0oKeR uPFRONT BRO!!?' gluckgluckgluck just sucking his dick and immediately believing him because he's a poor sweet punter and she's just an insidious, money-hungry "WoRKinG GiRL" who doesnt have any reason to do a decent job once she's been paid.
For real, I read those comments and its SO 'flippen obvious' to me WHY these guys are attracting that type of provider.
As within, so without. Assumption is stronger than manifestation. and if thats what a man thinks of us, then that is PRECISELY what he will receive.
Some guys think that because we do this business it accuses from human and civil rights.
On 2023-11-28 15:19:44 Nickey Blue said:
On 2023-11-28 13:08:20 ThatTittyMan said: I saw a thread from 2008 about a user who got served summons for his/her activity on this site. That made me think about instances where punters have service providers on WhatsApp and there are private altercations which are brought here. With that, I keep questioning myself about the privacy, or lack thereof, that certain punters tend to subject themselves too. Not to say that service providers have nothing to lose, because they do have something to lose, but do punters not often have more to lose by having their presence here exposed?
Where I'm going with this is, is over-familiarity to service providers and others punters not risky thing to do? Especially considering that most of us here are not real friends should there be a fallout with others we would be putting ourselves in difficult situations where we could be extorted or having this secret life out? Perhaps over-familiarity is flying too close to the sun?
Interesting assumption...
Power is loyalty.. Loyalty is power Would trust the ladies on this site more than society out there
Every profile you see on the purple pages are a girl with courage, strenght, endurance put through life's greatest tests and trials
This is no coincidence
You will either feel you can share or not safe to share
One thing is certain The secrets we keep just like a coca cola recipe... is and will always remain secret...
You just need to have the right counsel buddy
The round table never sleeps...
100% correct always listen to ones gut at all times. Don not be gullible because you will get burnt.
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