Perhaps friend,family member or colleague..? In my case nobody..well atleast I think so..,but I don't care if anybody finds out..lol..I cause harm to nobody..

ESA service providers ;-)

On 2024-01-27 01:33:00 Littlerascal said:
ESA service providers ;-)

And obviously ESA Admin lol

I think a friend of mine suspects i am having an affair...
Not sure what is the bigger taboo in society - affairs or SPs?

Two friends. They do it too :)

It's not a double life if people know about it ;)

I'm not a very good liar. Plus lying requires a great memory.

So I keep my life simple and make a rule for myself that if it's something I have to lie about, then it's best I don't do it all.

This is me as an advertiser perspective for myself on this side.

Fair point Raph, unfortunately we can't have that posture because let's be honest, if this industry was not considered taboo we'd all be showing off on social media just how much we punt (on the SP side how much they get booked) considering the way people want to show off their so called or perceived successes.

Many people's life would be destroyed should what they do in this industry be exposed. That is why to most punters a major factor when booking an SP for the first time is privacy.

Some punters and SPs however couldn't give two shits about it. If it pays your bills I don't see why you'd have any concerns what others think but on the other hand the person paying can have considerable consequences depending on the industry and society they come from.

Personally I don't judge either.

My wife's deceased brother.

An oracle once told me that his hanging around closely. And considering that he never did like me, every time I punt, I fear this dude gonna mess things up for me. Although, so far, things are going well. Maybe his helping me out as a way to finally get me away from his sister.

On 2024-01-27 12:11:55 skoen-raw said:
Fair point Raph, unfortunately we can't have that posture because let's be honest, if this industry was not considered taboo we'd all be showing off on social media just how much we punt (on the SP side how much they get booked) considering the way people want to show off their so called or perceived successes.

Many people's life would be destroyed should what they do in this industry be exposed. That is why to most punters a major factor when booking an SP for the first time is privacy.

Some punters and SPs however couldn't give two shits about it. If it pays your bills I don't see why you'd have any concerns what others think but on the other hand the person paying can have considerable consequences depending on the industry and society they come from.

Personally I don't judge either.

I completely understand and I support each individual's autonomy to make choices that are fitting for them - even if those aren't the choices that I would make.

You'll find that most of the time when I share, I always share from a place of self and not "other" because I am not others and I will never fully understand an individual's journey because it is theirs to have. But I can respect it and accept it.

There have been life circumstances that have brought me to this place for myself. Parts of my own story where I felt shame or felt that I had to hide (parts completely unrelated to my line of work). It was heavy to carry and I chose to unburden myself.

For others, that may not be the case and that is okay. I respect and support that.

I wouldn't be in this line of work if I didn't accept that because 99% of my clients don't want to share what they do with the rest of the world.

They fear consequence and backlash.

I too have known that fear. But for me personally, I find that secrets keep me sick and that my need for freedom far outweighs my need for validation.

Otherwise I also wouldn't freely live as a man. Yes our world is a lot more open minded. But even if it wasn't. I wouldn't choose to live in fear.

It's a place of total serenity and of self acceptance.

People may not find that place in the way that I do. But I always hope that each individual finds a place of peace that works best for them.

I once used my personal email on a fresh phone with a completely new SIM card for work for a brief amount of time. During this time, I received an email from a social media platform suggesting that user so and so is in your contacts; would you like to follow them? Lmao, I immediately worried that my contacts may have received the same email as mine, especially since this was my business phone with my personal email. I immediately thought half congregation members now know about my hidden side hustle. Was probably paranoid I don't know, however if that was true I'll gladly proceed freely in public. Just saying, lol.haha..