Curious to understand how the married men on this site grapple with the "morality". I mean, we are all generally happy at home, but lack that sexual fire sometimes.

Thoughts?

There certainly is a bit of guilt on my side. I suppose I justify it in my head that I am in the prime of my life and not getting any at home. Wife is older than me and menopausal, so zero sex drive. The justification is that it is "just" sex and I treat SPs the same way I would treat a doctor/dentist - I go to them to get a service and there's not further interaction after. It's better than ending up shagging some person you meet in a bar and end up with "feelings" involved.

I agree with this thread I myself am not in this trade for money. I am a WG but only work when I'm horny & unfortunately I'm also in the prime of my life and being horny is mostly 24/7. The fire burning inside is overwhelming at times but have to handle it somehow and learn to control it. It's difficult at best to say the least. And then you see someone more than often it's even more difficult to hold emotions at bay. XOXOXO Ellie. 0660807984

On 2024-07-02 11:51:28 irondick-2024-07 said:
Curious to understand how the married men on this site grapple with the "morality". I mean, we are all generally happy at home, but lack that sexual fire sometimes.

Thoughts?

You are obviously talking about the morality taught by various religions, which often have double standards.

Who is to say if sex is moral or immoral? Is it not the most natural thing in the world?

So what is the difference if we pay?

Is it worse to visit a SP in a country where sex work is illegal or in a country where it is legal or decriminilised?

We're horny AF and if the wife is not seeing to those needs enough one goes to seek it elsewhere. Skommelling only gets you so far before you lose your marbles. As always a shout out the ladies of the purple world for keeping our sanity

I think he is more referring to the morality of infedility taking place with married men seeing WG's not the morality of payinf for sex as such.

I agree much with henrygums notion. Rather do ethical indedility of there is such a thing.

Yes I definitely don't give a shit about the morality of it in the sense that society may look down on the practice of paying for sex. I am more surprised that not more people are doing it. For me it is purely a situation where I would hate for my other half to find out as it would badly hurt her.

I would love if people would stop equating sex and love. Before I did this I had "friends with benefits" and saw how much fun and pleasure I could share with men, without getting romantically involved.
Now I am in my prime, so I am horny as hell! So I am loving having sex without the "feelings". We are adults, we can have as much fun with our bodies as we want. No other adult has a say- I vote full body autonomy! Hahaha

This is a interesting question and like many I find myself constantly having to justify my choices to myself.

I've slow eroded my personal values around honesty. Its really not something that can be restored - not while in a relationship and having a habit of deceit while trying to find love and affection.

As an old punter, I am well know person in my professions, with a great family (which I've tried to protect). Over the years, I have a built a persona as a mask. It is a false narrative of name, work, habits, phone, etc. I even have an older car which I use when I punt. All to protect myself from being caught out again.

I was separated, the first time my wife found out about my punting habit and casual sex with women. With marriage counselling we got back together, but the trust was broken and like most women she never forgave or forgot. So with time, I started punting again, but this time I got wiser. I started creating a double life.

Now I have 2 persona's, 1 to my family and friends and the other to the ladies to visit and casual sexual partners I encounter when I'm away from the family.

Outsourcing my unmet sexual needs to keep the home front harmonious, while started as a fun escape has ruined my personal life and has prevented my from living an authentic life.

I'm just a lie - often torn by quilt and shame, but I still try to find connection and warmth from punting rather than in my marriage!

A cautionary tale

It's more like being in a moment, well for me. And my sex drive also come in handy.

I would like to think of it helping family/marriages..when men are frustrated by heavy load on not getting enough as they WiSH ..they can be grumpy .. so after round or 2 they seem to be a lot nicer. As the is a lot going with us women...kids, work,home and hubby and the is no enough time to jump in bed like rabbits..

Let's just balance and be HaPpY
Xo
Viv