The anomaly of being a person in a space considered as taboo as well as being outside of the space labeled as taboo....as if it is impossible ...one can only be one and not the other too.
The assumptions.
The personal challenge of those looking in trying to wrap their heads around the impossibility in their world of "realities".

A punter must be a weak man. A desperate man. A womaniser....and so many more negative things.


He cannot be a good husband / person , provider, of sound character ...a person in his own right navigating his life the best way he knows without spilling the apple cart at home or professionally and socially.

Of course there are the bad apples.

A woman , label her a streetwalker, whore, prostitute, working girl..and i dont know how many more 'labels' there are for her choosing to be in the sexsensual adult industry too...must be a junkie, druggie, alcoholic uneducated, desperate scammer ...and so many more negative labels.

She cannot be professional, educated, sound of mind and character, an excellent companion , parent , of strong character with morals and scruples...a responsible individual .

And once again....of course there are bad apples.

I have always taught my children, now grown up , university degrees and successful....never start a fight first BUT NEVER back down to a bully....even if you perceive them to be bigger and stronger and could possibly get the hiding of your life. Never forget, the wheel turns and losing one battle means not you have lost the war.
The good and steadfast always prevails in its own time.
And dont be like a weak branch in the wind, without backbone or character, swaying this way and then that....to fit in with the crowd.

Stand your ground.

And when seeing a bully pick on another... always but always see if you can help and nip the bullying in the bud. It costs you nothing. You are strong and resilient ...I brought you up that way.

And proudly when I look at my kids I say....I AM their MOTHER.

And thus a few things that come to mind considering the flow of the forum of late.

Psalm 23:1--61 The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want.

One imagines one cannot be strong and steadfast and unwavering in one's Faith.
To believe in the bigger picture .

Only fools without root, judgemental, maddeningly lost , tortured for they cannot see further than the pain that gnarls at them dare not to admit to their immortality and imperfections


And then this....

Always but always never forgotten , rooted and practiced, not only for myself but openly in the corner of those strong armed and bullied and intimidated into silence.

"...Call it revenge. I call it returning the favour."

YOU are not alone. It is not yours to bear alone nor cower in the shadows . Your pain is felt.

It is ok.

And thus....

This space.

This space many consider taboo and vile....what it does reveal IS the vile and the tortured for, if anything, in THIS space the best of human nature should come out and as I always say the code , " honour among theives" makes society look laughable in their fickle and lost ways.

And then once again....the bad apples.

RB.