On 2023-09-18 09:41:57 Hazel Arabia said:
Butch43 - not only am I not going to attack you, but I'm going to apologize as I can take accountability when I'm in the wrong and I understand entirely that what I said might've sounded like I was trying to devalue the ladies who charge less. For that, I DO apologize. And acknowledge that I could be wrong, as it's very easy for someone to earn / work just as much as me and accept lower rates when they have fewer expenses.

Someone might host from a house that they could've inherited, or maybe they have to spend less on lingerie because their clients buy them cute outfits. Get your bag, girl! I have absolutely nothing against my fellow woman as we all do what we need to in order to survive.

Having said the above though, I want you to truly take a step back and read what has been said about those of us who charge 1500 > in this forum. I urge you - go and read through it again. When I wrote that, I was thinking of all of the MANY factors that contribute to my rates being "high" but also, to the many complaints that people will come to the forums with. It's DRAINING, wanting to make everybody happy, when they don't understand all of the work you put in or how many things you're responsible for. All I wanted to offer was some perspective.

I don't want you to ever confuse my words for coming from a place of privelage. I come from absolutely nothing, and I didn't grow up dreaming of doing this either. I also know what it's like to have a strict budget. Just a couple years ago I was broke, a student, with a R1k budget for the month. It has taken more work, and more traumatic, shitty experiences than you know, for me to get to where I am today. I've had to be robbed, and haggled, and left out to dry MANY times before I learnt to set boundaries and decide what I believe my time is worth.

And you know what? When I didn't have money to engage in certain luxuries, I didn't protest outside of the salons because i couldn't afford their expensive colour treatments. I didn't angrily yell at the people I'd see walking into restaurants because I couldn't afford to go out to eat. I definitely didn't try to get my friends to stop attending events because I couldn't buy tickets.
I stayed in my lane, and I sat home and WORKED MY ASS OFF finding alternate means of bringing in extra income. I worked and worked and continue to work, to afford the things I want. Even earlier this year, suffering from massive burnout that made me physically ill and unable to work for 5 long months. Only then did I reap the benefits of my hard work, having harnessed great relationships with my regulars, who I always go over and above for.

So no, this doesn't come from a place of privelage. It comes from a place of exhaustion.
It could be so easy for me to charge less, answer every call, accept cash on arrival etc. But I didn't spend the last year or two of my life, learning to code, teaching myself about marketing and SEO, focusing on improving the parts of me that need it, only to be told that my rates are too high, by men who think that I accept payment for pussy. I've turned down MANY who were "looking to get laid" as my services are out of their scope. Period.

Further, anyone who reads all of what I said and is still committed to misunderstanding me, too fkn bad. I'M done. Cus like I said, and like the data has shown me - of the dozens of clients I see per month, a very small percentage of them are members, and even smaller an amount of them have the time to argue on forums all day. So actually, I don't need to justify a single thing. The men who know and understand my worth, who can appreciate all that I continue to do... they're not on here fighting, they're in my bed, having their feet rubbed, being told how beautiful they are. Period.