truth is I always feel guilty after each punt but I have no choice and will not consider NSA because I don't want any attachment. I know for the next 30 or so days I will get no action at home. You see she will be praying and in the process any sexual need takes the back seat

truth is I always feel guilty after each punt but I have no choice and will not consider NSA because I don't want any attachment. I know for the next 30 or so days I will get no action at home. You see she will be praying and in the process any sexual need takes the back seat

Jis dude that's really kak. I feel for you. I really do. Can't be fun to have a marriage like that.

shit happens after 20 years seems taken for granted that we will always be married and now more for companionship than anything

@Seankhu....date her again. Ud girls also get bored and comfortable in the relationship. So, start again. Like you just met her and you need to impress and seduce her, all over, from scratch. You might just love the results.
Kisses, Mynx

My spin on this.. the reason I punt.. yes, I love see. Obvious lunch bar. And also it's the variety thing. I admit I love girls of colour, black, coloured, Indian etc, any girl outside my race and culture basically. Personal experience for me - black and coloured girls do it for me big time! But for me to meet them in "normal society" proves near impossible in my experience. Race, culture, too many obstacles stand in our way hmm mm. South Africa is not as Rainbow as we might think..

And Even NSA has been impossible for me to find..since there are always Damn strings on every thing nowadays. So I pay to meet beautiful girls instead. Simple. But yes, admittedly I would like to meet a beautiful girl, even in this industry (crazy dreams I know) and perhaps give it another try hey.. Good luck to me.. ;)

Oh and on Mynx's reply to Seankhu's comment.. Please don't take this the wrong way, I really don't mean any disrespect to either of you fine people at all.. it's a really sweet idea, that whole re-wooing, re-seducing thing, but I find that some woman usually use that as an excuse to bring up all the shit you did wrong in the past. So the end result of all that effort may the opposite of what you originally intended. Anyway, Good luck with the re-wooing buddy. I've been down a similar road myself with a woman before. It doesn't end well at all. Well just my 2 cents.. but hope it works out for you though.

Peace to all and happy and safe punting in 2017.

@Ruby. Maybe/maybe not i was the guy you were refering to getting bored at home, when it is mostly available on tap.

Let me first say that i do feel quilty about punting and what i do to my wife and famm. But as some has said, the urge just becomes so big for the exciting stuff, that you the tiny guy down there, rules the brain & hart. Unfortunately. Whether that is DNA, simply an inability to control lust and hormones, i dont know. But yes, it is sad (more so from a woman's perspective).

Since i am a rather horrible person, let me give you another justification for punting. Shit, it is incredibly boring doing it always in the same position, maybe once a year another position - but never something really "new". We have done like 3 or 4 different positions in 15 years.

Now the really bad comment from me. I have told her for probably the past 5 years she needs to look after herself (principally loosing weight). At first, as nicely and politely vaguely hinting/joking so as not to harm her. Had no effect. With time i have become more direct. Still no effect. In fact, she told me over the holidays, she is not interested in loosing weight.

Make no mistake, i am absolutely no oil painting. But i do excersice and watch a bit what i eat and drink. I have gained no more than 3kg in 20 years... (less than that since we got married). I feel she has still physically got the guy she married 15+ years ago. (Even if i was an ugly fuck to start off). Plus she (we) lives a good life, i earn many multiples of what i earned when we got married. She no longer works. We got a domestic 5 days a week. 4-6 holidays a year, of which one is overseas.

Not disputing that she is still my best friend, and that she does everything else to run a good home and famm. But i often feel, she can rather neglect all the other stuff and get back to the girl i married (looks wise), which i could not wait to get into her panties...

Now, i am just no longer interested. Even when she initiates, i am cold. She is no longer the sexy one i crave... Yes, probably 90% my faullt and if i stop punting, i might be more into her.

But, (wrongly i know) justify my punting that after all i have given her, she is not willing to put in the hard effort to become and stay uber sexy - like when we met....

Terrible, i know. But wish woman can understand that for us marriage is sooo much more than being good friends and partners. We (or at least me) crave sex with a sexy lady.... Never ever neglect that if you want to keep your man....

For me I enjoy being with a (preferably) long time WG regular. there is minimal emotion but just great sex between 2 people with a connection & comfort in each others company. In a so called loving relationship the quality of sex seems to get lost in all the emotion.
"Making love" is for Hollywood and/or teenagers. Sex is a physical activity- finish and klaar - so if one is lucky enough to find a working girl that you "like" and are on the same wavelength, then a couple of hours of bliss is there to be savoured.

Stommerik your situation and mine are pretty much similar ( minus the holidays ! ) I think wife has too much time on her hands she stopped working 15 years ago drives an expensive car lives in an upmarket area etc but in the process has forgotten to move on with life. Her own sisters have repeatedly told her about her dressing to no success. ( have tried wooing her again and was terribly disappointed the few times I tried it's one step forward four back ) I can never take her with me to corporate functions because I would only embarrass myself

Although I don't punt regularly I enjoy every punt I have with no guilt. I love my wife and sometimes the sex is good sometimes it feels like she's doing me a favour. My appetite probably stems from having dated or slept with girls from almost every country on the planet (yes I was quite the slut). The hunt, the chase, the seduction and constant obsession with beautiful women and worshipping their bodies was an endless thrill regardless of the race, colour or creed. Over the past couple of years I've slowed down with my energy being focused on building my career and personal asset Base. However I still make the time to find an occasional stunner off the purple pages or public and enjoy an hour or three of sheer sexual bliss. I am what I am, no excuses no apology. I punt because I enjoy sex with a variety of women.