[QUOTE;640770;BlackToe33] How would you know?

I agree with BlackToe33. There are many people in this world, in professions that are difficult and yes, most people in better positions show a level of empathy. A car guard for instance on a rainy winters' night. The coal miner, barely able to breath in the conditions they are subjected to and even the waitress who serves your food....

Never judge someones choices when you do not know what options they had to choose from. People generally do not actively seek sympathy despite their circumstances, its up to us as feeling beings to show empathy wherever the opportunity presents itself.

My hat off to all the ladies to keep up with all the different requirements from us punters ... not an easy "job" but somebody must do it to keep us punters happy !!!

Is it hard or tough? The answer is yes, both.

Any self-employed person on this forum has the same trials and tribulations.

Me? December was superb, lower levels of work combined with the traditionally higher fees that the festive period brings. Business in pleasing areas with enough down time to enjoy the area and clients that were a joy to work with.

November... An unadulterated cluster fuck of halfwitted, cheap assed imbeciles in crap holes of note one of whose actions nearly brought about the untimely demise of the Le Roux Estate's chief bread winner, head garden designer, care giver and head honcho!

Good and bad you see. At the same time.

As for the ladies they have the same scenarios, that freakishly high earning month, moments of pap n saus, decent clients, hateful imbeciles, saints demons and everything in between.

Must be tough. Glad I don't have to entertain girls / women. My little one has got a mind of his own - will never co-operate if he doesn't like what he sees...

Thank you to all the wonderful girls entertaining the 2 of us xxx

I have thought long and hard about this, and my answer is as follows: it's hard with the ones who never book, and easy with the ones who do.
The ones who never book are over-critical, hyper-judgemental, super-sensitive (you get my drift). Nothing I do/say/portray per photos is good enough, and thus they try demean you.
The ones who do book-why, it's a pleasure to serve them, from the place of all the gratitude in my heart. And when my client leaves with a happy smile, all I can do is smile as well.
Kisses, Mynx

Life is all about choices...

If you dont enjoy your job... Whatever it is... Its in your hands to change it

Agreed Zerocool09.

MrWWhite: Well done!

My initial response was to the question is this job easy or hard?

I hope my response wasn't seen as an attempt for sympathy, or empathy. I was merely answering the question and trying to enlighten forum users to what the ladies experience.

In fact I have been empowered doing this for a living! Its taught me so much more than what I could have learned anywhere else. Whether it had been at varsity or working in a corporate environment. Here we get to see the truth of humanity. The lowest of the lows and the highest of the highs! And the middle ground of 50 shades of grey!

I have witnessed great sadness and loss, losing friends, punters and working girls, to crime, suicide and natural causes. And yes we are human, and we do feel. Losing a client that has become a friend is tough! We have to hide in the shadows to pay our respects, out of respect to his loved ones.

But then I have had moments of sheer admiration, where I am so proud to be a part of this community because I have seen people come together when others have been in need... and the response has been overwhelming.

This has been both to assist service providers and punters. For example when a punter called G Spot was in a financial bind. We had a social and raised enough money to pay his rent and he had offers for a new job from other punters here on ESA. Thank you To G from Newscafe for always welcoming us and hosting most of our socials.

We had another incident where a wg took her own life and the out pouring from this community to assist in her burial was unbelievable. We have had Easter egg drives and socials supporting an orphanage and everyone gives so freely and willingly.

I personally have experienced so much generosity. My dear friend Vee raised funds for me to have a breast reconstruction after I had breast cancer. I have had clients support me, not financially but just by being there.
A few years ago my son was in a very bad accident and was hospitalized for 8 months. It was my clients and friends I made here on ESA that got me through it. Daporra dropped off a PSP for my son, Dogman bringing me lunch and telling me to go take a break while he watched my child. Spurs for always just being my hero. Great Expectations for his sense of knowing and comfort. Eddie for extending his help in so many ways behind the scenes that so many are not aware of. There are so many blessing in this industry that we cannot help but be grateful for and inspired into paying it forward

This is just a few that I mention. But there are so many more moments that are unforgettable, people that inspire greatness or the will to be a better humanitarian. Kindness without any expectations!

Is this job tough and hard? Yes.

Do I have a Choice? I didn't think so a few years ago because, I had lost all myself esteem because after being in this business for too long you start to believe that this is all you are capable of doing and that you can never fit back into normal society.

I met an amazing man who made me realize my value and self worth and he believed in me even when I didn't. It took me a while to realize. This business does not define who you are or who you can be! And its a long road to changing your mindset and seeing life through a variety of other peoples eyes.

Would I choose differently, yes and no! If I had other opportunities at the time Yes. Would I change what I have learnt and experienced here? No! But I do have options and it takes courage to step out and jump into the unknown, but you wont know until you try.
I am forever humbled and grateful and in awe that even though this is a tough job! I have been bestowed an amazing blessing as a witness to see that even in the depths of adversity where we are unaccepted by society, that HERE in this Purple Land... I have seen greatness! In Humans!

Blessing to each and everyone one of you! Namaste!

Arz

Thank you Ariz for your heartfelt and honest post. I've been watching this site for about 10 years, first as Gregd and now as Americangreg (forgot my password, sorry), and this is the first time ever that I've been so moved that I'm compelled to reply.
Thank you for being you and for the truth and humanity that you speak of, because it's the same for everyone underneath the surface no matter what work you do.
May I please take the liberty of quoting Emily Dickenson here because it's so appropriate to the ESA community and to all of our essential aloneness within this industry.
You are alone, but you're also not alone because of the shared communion:

There is a solitude of space,
A solitude of sea,
A solitude of death, but these
Society shall be,
Compared with that profounder site,
That polar privacy,
A Soul admitted to Itself:
Finite Infinity.