Thank you for the responses. It does seem like people on both sides are, in some way, looking for a kind of "rescue" or relief. Whether that's emotional, physical, or just a break from their everyday lives.

I've met one or two WGs I would have genuinely liked to know better outside the context of the encounter, and even here on the forum there are people who express themselves in ways that really resonate.

I think part of it is that the fantasy of the encounter heightens the sense of connection. The situation itself creates a bubble where people feel seen, understood, or momentarily cared for, even if those feelings don't translate into real-life compatibility. It's like the setting amplifies whatever spark is already there.

But it could also be the:

1. Low expectation of future consequences

When you believe you'll never see someone again, your social risk feels lower.

You may disclose more because there's no anticipated relationship to maintain.

This is why strangers on planes, trains, or in waiting rooms often exchange surprisingly deep details.

2. Reduced fear of judgment

With no long-term reputation at stake, people feel safer revealing authentic or unfiltered parts of themselves.

The WG has no prior image of you to tarnish.

You don't expect them to impact your social circle.

3. Emotional anonymity

A one-off encounter provides psychological anonymity even when your identity is known.

You're "emotionally anonymous" because there's no social history.

Anonymity makes self-disclosure easier and defenses lower.

4. Momentary intimacy

The context creates a temporary sense of connection.
These settings feel outside normal life, almost like a bubble.

Inside that bubble, people often share more than usual.

5. Humans seek connection under uncertainty

Brief, unexpected interactions can trigger a desire to form rapid rapport. Evolutionarily, quick bonding was beneficial in unfamiliar environments.

Our brains tend to fill in positive assumptions about a stranger we're momentarily aligned with.

6. No relational "cost" to being honest

Honesty or vulnerability can threaten ongoing relationships (arguments, awkwardness, obligations).

In one-off interactions:

Honesty is simpler

There's no relational maintenance work

No fear of hurting or complicating a long-term bond

7. Emotional overflow

When someone is already stressed, lonely, grieving, or carrying an emotional burden, a one-off encounter can become a safe outlet, especially with a neutral listener.

There's this one girl.....sigh

Only for one hour. Wink.

Yes, Agreed shoeguy... There's this one Gal...

There's this one girl

www.esa.co.za/escorts/viewEscort.php

She can move in today.

Most of us are here as a result of that matrimony kak.

On 2025-11-27 08:54:21 Griffindude said:
Most of us are here as a result of that matrimony kak.

Lol, too true. Probably the biggest cause of punting.

JP69

On 2025-11-27 09:19:17 JackParrow69 said:
On 2025-11-27 08:54:21 Griffindude said: Most of us are here as a result of that matrimony kak.

Lol, too true. Probably the biggest cause of punting.

JP69

If only all the men claiming matrimony kak punted...sighhhhh.


I wonder if it may boil down to something else maybe?...and not just "matrimony kak".


:)

RB.

I was going to write a whole long essay on this.

A year of co-habitation gives me insight.

My lady was Thai. I was a generous SG. We also had a lot of fun. Not only the 5 star hotels, but doing simple fun stuff that provides daily Tik Tok, FB and IG content for everyone back home to see was fun. Of course my generosity was not enough as the "debt back was also just a little more".

I suspected things, but in general the rose tinted glasses came off and I was sleeping next to someone who didn't know her own country's history never mind my job or current affairs anywhere.

After dumping her, it took her 10 days to move in with a customer and get a tattoo of him on her body. The guy was really regular and I saw on her comms he irrigated her by pitching up if she didn't answer and wanted to spend the full time he paid for all the time.

Mine swallowed pills when I broke up with her once. Cost me a a lot of money. She was comatose for 2 full days so don't give me any comeback of how yours is different.

Anyway, here is the lesson. This is a wild place. These WGs are mercenaries. They don't give a damn about you. The only thing that didn't make me lose my mind, was that I broke up with her first. Being low priority for a WG is the bottom. What's going in that room is back ups being developed. Never get what number 1 gets. But you are not the only guy in her life when she works, and probably after.

On 2025-11-27 10:03:46 Russian Bridgitte said:
On 2025-11-27 09:19:17 JackParrow69 said: On 2025-11-27 08:54:21 Griffindude said: Most of us are here as a result of that matrimony kak.

Lol, too true. Probably the biggest cause of punting.

JP69

If only all the men claiming matrimony kak punted...sighhhhh.

I wonder if it may boil down to something else maybe?...and not just "matrimony kak".

:)

RB.

Most are too scared unfortunately. They stand to lose everything so they sit at home and wank, hence the proliferation in porn and content sales. Even that too gives them a moer skrik in case their owner catches them. Any man would rather actually fuck but most have their balls in a jar under lock and key.

JP69