On 2022-07-22 23:18:56 Arizona said:
I don't know if I should even comment on this thread. ..... snip....
So if you want to chat privately, please whats app me.

Love

Arz

This is how you do it if you want to intervene.. you go the extra mile, you in it for the long haul.. you do it regardsless of the emotional and financial cost..you do it not knowing and fearing that it wont work and at the risk of maybe jeopardizing the fragile relationship between you and the person you trying to help.

I am so glad to read that all you went throught and are going through are showing the possitive results you hoped for. May it just get better and better.

You are an amazing women and mother, never ever doubt that. You family is blessed to have you and so are we that got to know you through the purple pages.

Sending you hugs.
Xxx
L

I have seen what drugs do to a person and the effect on his / her loved ones. No matter their occupation, and or skills level I will not support them in destroying others.

Making use of and pay them for any service, is enabling them to destroy their own life, and those that loves them.

In the end, its each and every persons choice, how where the spend their money. Mine is not to enbale someone else's drug habits

On 2022-07-23 06:51:50 Kooni said:

In the end, its each and every persons choice, how where the spend their money. Mine is not to enbale someone else's drug habits

I hear what youre saying, Do you feel you are helping them by not booking them?

Sex is also a drug!
My question is how do you tell if an SP is using harmful chemical drugs? Keen to hear from others what the signs are and how to spot

On 2022-07-22 09:30:46 FeralInstincts said:
If you know a SP is addicted to drugs or alcohol would you still use there services?

Just a ethical dilemma I have faced a few times.

Definitely not. A recreational user is hard to spot but an addict will almost always be under the influence during a booking. Are you comfortable going through with a booking while she's not of sober mind? If yes, then go for it.

@Arizona
Thank you for sharing. should your young man need further assistance please do PM me as I volunteer (am an ex Director) for an organization that helps drugs addicts.

For those saying fuck this, just fuck her and go, you shall understand the meaning of that when you are at the cop shop arguing that she stole your priced watch/iphone while you were in the shower.

My comment is in relation to the SP's space.

This is a heavy space occupied, no matter what anybody might think. It is demanding on body and mind and yes...spirit.

Some know to navigate it and make it part of their life and enjoy it like any other 'job'.

BUT.

To many it becomes a down spiral of self.

This 'job' does not afford openness, support, understanding and an infra-structure that one could turn to when needed.
A sort of self alienation takes place. Ones social life becomes non-existent and family relations are not as open as they could be.

The abuse does not have to be physical to impact on the psyche. It can be verbal, financial thru short payments or no-shows and false money sends etc etc, behaviour disrespectful and forceful in sessions.

With time that choice made to take the first sniff or first drink because it is considered a social share in a space emotionally charged or it softens the edges of loneliness or other worries or indulging in something becasue it will bring money thru the door becomes a habit, thinking it will be easily controlled.

Sometime back, on this forum, someone asked for prescription drugs for a lady friend and that blew me.
THAT is knowingly enabling someone. THAT is a crime in my eyes.

How does one not enable or, help someone who is visibly spiraling toward self destruction?
Easiest for me is, by not participating or enabling the person by bringing along some drugs or alcohol in the first place if one is aware it might be a problem

and secondly

if one truly worries and has the time...TELL them u care and see they struggling, tell them u see them , ask them " How can i help?"

But.

We know the most favoured answer to that.

It has been given on this thread.

.....it is about sex after all and self gratification and, she is advertising her wares so, what is the issue?

Ps. written without prejudice and out of true care and concern.


RB.

On 2022-07-24 10:43:45 Russian Bridgitte said:
My comment is in relation to the SP's space.

This is a heavy space occupied, no matter what anybody might think. It is demanding on body and mind and yes...spirit.

Some know to navigate it and make it part of their life and enjoy it like any other 'job'.

BUT.

To many it becomes a down spiral of self.

This 'job' does not afford openness, support, understanding and an infra-structure that one could turn to when needed.
A sort of self alienation takes place. Ones social life becomes non-existent and family relations are not as open as they could be.

The abuse does not have to be physical to impact on the psyche. It can be verbal, financial thru short payments or no-shows and false money sends etc etc, behaviour disrespectful and forceful in sessions.

With time that choice made to take the first sniff or first drink because it is considered a social share in a space emotionally charged or it softens the edges of loneliness or other worries or indulging in something becasue it will bring money thru the door becomes a habit, thinking it will be easily controlled.

Sometime back, on this forum, someone asked for prescription drugs for a lady friend and that blew me.
THAT is knowingly enabling someone. THAT is a crime in my eyes.

How does one not enable or, help someone who is visibly spiraling toward self destruction?
Easiest for me is, by not participating or enabling the person by bringing along some drugs or alcohol in the first place if one is aware it might be a problem

and secondly

if one truly worries and has the time...TELL them u care and see they struggling, tell them u see them , ask them " How can i help?"

But.

We know the most favoured answer to that.

It has been given on this thread.

.....it is about sex after all and self gratification and, she is advertising her wares so, what is the issue?

Ps. written without prejudice and out of true care and concern.


RB.

Thank you RB.

This touched my soul to the core. I have more I would like to add, but I need to process my thoughts logically and put my emotions in check before I respond irrationally to some of the less positive comments made on this thread.

Love

Arizona

Are you guys as interfering with your drs, plumbers, lawyers, and and? What other people do with their money is their own choice. We all have free will, and nobody can make choices for us other than ourselves.

On 2022-07-23 00:34:39 Ruth Kaizer said:
On 2022-07-22 09:30:46 FeralInstincts said: If you know a SP is addicted to drugs or alcohol would you still use there services?

Depends on what she looks like.
Missing teeth || phuza face || looks 50 at 25 || malnourished

Can't do it

Ha ha ha ha ha!!! I forgot about the term 'phuza face'