I have read the discussions above and the opinions vary, the key with the forum and rules are respect.

I am the Punter that got stood up. I shared my disappointment and frustration and got taken to task by punters and providers for doing something stupid like paying up front.

I have also mailed ESA the chat with Kim and did say I do not want to compromise my membership and also do not want to see someone else gets banned.

I will try and keep it short:

I shared a fantasy role play with Kim we agreed a date and time and cost and she said she may need some wardrobe items to dress like a PA and I sponsored that and paid for the booking upfront as I wanted it to be a fantasy and not spoil it by someone having to ask for the fee, count it and then resume a role.

Booking was for 11 Feb and confirmed and then a no show.

Posted my disappointment after she went quiet.

Another meeting was agreed for 25 Feb and canceled by her on 24 Feb

We then discussed a refund and she asked for month end (March) but we then agreed for the 8th of April.

8 April - No show and no message.

I cannot break ESA rules but many years ago I had a no show and gave the lady another chance and she became a regular.

Did I make a mistake by paying upfront - Yes
Did I do so with a reason - Yes.

The older punters will know not to pay up front but often we as humans make a mistake.....

I do not want to harm her business but based on the comments and some advice she could actually learn and improve.

Did I learn a lesson yes, but I also took one for the team and shared my lesson.

I wish her well but I will not review her unless I see her and that seems highly unlikely as that would be a grunge punt. Since the last booking made and confirmed she has not answered any communication.

The economy is tough and things may get tougher, finding new clients can be hard. This topic though R500 for an odd chance is steep. It may be a ghost that wins the booking.

I did say to ESA admin I want to not post again but had to comment and apologize but will no refrain from further comments Perhaps ESA can lock this thread. MY GM membership and duration of membership is more important than carrying on. Karma sorts matters out...

Interesting theory - if this raffle was done by a popular SP would you still feel the same?

I noticed the forum has its popular SP favorites, bullies, and trolls. Im sure if this was done by a popular SP and she wanted R1000 it would have been done.

I haven't met Kim (active ad) dont necessarily agree or disagree on her post but just think of things in retrospect. This mean girls mind set is far too common on every post - isn't there a private ladies forum to take your motives and vendettas to

The main thing is, it's not a free 90 minute session, u paying R500 for the raffle ticket...mayb a better choice of wording...

On 2022-04-13 14:38:05 Kooni said:
I have said it before and will say it again.

With an attitude like yours @boob guy, punting is not for you, try chess or something less risking.

Those ladies mention .... are there because they were given a change. They also started as "newbies", with no reviews or reputation. To be honest a year or 2 ago they were not the "fan favorites" they are today. It took hard and honest work to get there.

In my humble opinion, it started for them, when they joined forces not to long ago. If not mistaken this is their 2nd attempt at joining forces, the first attempt did not last that long.

You're entitled to your opinions as am I. Thanks for your comment but I prefer not to deal with children. If you really want someone to join your chess club so much start a forum topic about it.

Be careful you might be freeloading.

If youd like to have a conversation pm me

Wonder how many fools paid for a "Ticket"

On 2022-04-13 16:36:59 AweTHum said:
Wonder how many fools paid for a "Ticket"

Be prepared for a response such as :
"thank you all for those that purchased a raffle ticket"

What are the chances that there is no winner.
If this lady scammed the punter as mentioned. Who says that she just collects the money and create a fake winner.

On 2022-04-13 16:18:05 Boob guy said:
On 2022-04-13 14:38:05 Kooni said: I have said it before and will say it again.

With an attitude like yours @boob guy, punting is not for you, try chess or something less risking.

Those ladies mention .... are there because they were given a change. They also started as "newbies", with no reviews or reputation. To be honest a year or 2 ago they were not the "fan favorites" they are today. It took hard and honest work to get there.

In my humble opinion, it started for them, when they joined forces not to long ago. If not mistaken this is their 2nd attempt at joining forces, the first attempt did not last that long.

You're entitled to your opinions as am I. Thanks for your comment but I prefer not to deal with children. If you really want someone to join your chess club so much start a forum topic about it.

Be careful you might be freeloading.

If youd like to have a conversation pm me

Thanks for the conversation invite, but will not take you up on it. I prefer to talk to those that see an individual for who he / she is and not paint all with the same brush.

I don't tell ladies they are all "scum", and then expect them to deliver a mindblowing session when I put money on the table.

I prefer to always treat them with respect, something us elders were raised with.

On 2022-04-13 16:44:42 Potatoejetguy said:
What are the chances that there is no winner.
If this lady scammed the punter as mentioned. Who says that she just collects the money and create a fake winner.

Actually I had the exact thoughts.

On 2022-04-13 16:44:42 Potatoejetguy said:
What are the chances that there is no winner.
If this lady scammed the punter as mentioned. Who says that she just collects the money and create a fake winner.

Obviously. There was never any intent to honor this raffle.

Kim, babe, stop being lazy and trying to scam guys. Put in the work. Once you burn bridges it's difficult to rebuild.