On 2016-09-22 13:00:21 Meg said:

If a person doesn't like me because I am not wearing a brand name pair Jeans, well then they can just make sure the door doesn't hit them in the arse on the way out of my life. I really just can't be bothered with that kind of shallow bullshit.

I joined this forum a couple of years back thinking it would be full of sexist blokes and loose women. Yes there are the posts about "my pu$$y is wet and needs taking care of" and "why aren't there any good (insert race here) SPs out there. But ultimately what I have found here is that those on the forum at least are mostly finding their way in life and looking for real connection. For some of us that connection is physical - and these days it's not easy in our busy worlds to find people to grow a relationship with and develop the emotional and physical connection.

So many of you ladies on here have taught me about dropping the bull$hit masks that we all wear and becoming real. I'm reminded of the wonderful short story by Margery Williams, The Velveteen Rabbit:

Becoming Real doesn't happen all at once, you become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand.

Thanks for the great conversation and good people here!

Tao,
Chapter 36.

Worldly passions make man weak.
Resoluteness fills man with power!
Worldly passions cripple man.
Resoluteness elevates man and strengthens the consciousness!
Worldly passions enslave man.
Resoluteness makes man free!
That which is
dispassionate, gentle, and yielding conquers
that which is
passionate, hard, and coarse!

Lao Tse

I read this chapter 36 to my Grandmother and when I finished reading she looked deep into my eyes and said,
"Never listen to a man
who has not first
listened to God".

Ma'am Sibyl and Mr SoS could you help me please, do you know if these writings were inspired?

On 2016-11-23 13:10:03 otbm said:


Ma'am Sibyl and Mr SoS could you help me please, do you know if these writings were inspired?

The definition of God, has a different meaning for different people. To some it is Nature, to some an Idol,to some pure Energy, to some an Animal or Bird, to some a Spirit, to others a Person................inspiration can be found in different things, different places, different gods.

Imo, it matters not what or who inspires a person to share wisdom. All that matters is that the wisdom shared, has a positive effect on another human being and his/her life....

Thank you for a perfect summary Sibyl

SoS

On 2016-09-21 11:31:32 SoundofSilence said:
Dear Sibyl

Agree with your view wholeheartedly and if I may this is my opinion on other people's view and or opinion of me:

"Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner." -- Lao Tzu

It is human nature to want to be liked and accepted. However, this often leads to people worrying too much about what others are thinking about them.

This kind of excessive worrying can have a negative effect on your life. It can be so debilitating that it interferes with your ability to feel at ease with yourself and around others.

Here are ten reasons in my opinion why you should not care about what others think:

1. It's Not Their Life, So It's None Of Their Business

2. They Don't Know What's Best For You

3. What's Right For Someone Else May Be Completely Wrong For You

4. It Will Keep You From Your Dreams

5. You're The One Stuck With The End Result

6. People's Thoughts Change On A Regular Basis

7. Life Is Simply Too Short

8. You Reap What You Sow

9. Others Don't Care As Much As You Think

10. The Hard Truth: It's Impossible To Please Everybody

You can make a conscious effort to stop giving a damn; to let yourself free. It's a skill that needs to be practiced, like meditating. But once you truly understand how to let go, you will see the world as entirely different.

Once you give up catering to other people's opinion and thoughts, you will find out who you truly are, and that freedom will be like taking a breath for the first time.

SoS

Think I'm in love.....:p

On 2016-09-21 10:31:30 le roux said:
There is a significant cross over between what people consider to be self esteem, self-respect or general respect and ego, arrogance or the refusal to understand that other people have different values, principles and ways of life.

Self-respect is the introspective monitoring and maintenance of grace, honour, good will, health and humour. Respect is the outward projection of these values. Self-esteem is being the better person and being able to live comfortably in one's skin happy in the knowledge that you have acted properly, risen above slights or provocations and have done your best.

If you call me a P##s because I voted ANC, spilt your beer or dared to step in to the road when you wanted to drive on it, you have not disrespected me but have shown me you have no sense of self-respect.

If I impose my personal values, principles, morals and sense of justice upon you I am not respecting you.

Do you realise what we are doing here. Associating with harlots, hookers, those that society in general agrees are without morals and who endanger all with the iniquity of their chosen trade. How can we possibly respect ourselves? We are an anathema to all that is right and correct.

Do you respect the dude with the trolley that goes through all of our garbage picking out the plastic paper and glass? Look at him, he's uneducated, wears rags, he probably hasn't had a bath in months if not years, the dude is a disgrace, a danger to traffic and quite frankly should be barred from entering this otherwise pristine suburb!

I happen to believe that Pandas should be farmed commercially for their fur and that the world would be a far better place if it included Panda Paw Fricassee.

Self respect and general respect is being able to deal with the above and simply walk away understanding that there is no helping such people.

Respect is understanding that that "hooker" is a person with a heart and feelings and understanding that no matter the provocation that angered you, you are there of your own free will and can simply walk away.

Respect is appreciating that the trolley guy works harder in a day than you do in a week and does it because he has not been deemed worthy of the chances and opportunities you were given.

Pandas have nothing to do with respect but can assist in understanding good taste and common sense. You should never Fricassee Panda Paw, a shallot infused red wine reduction is by far the tastier option.

Umm, maybe I'm just horny. 2 men with a brain that think beyond the little big boss? Could it be???

On 2016-09-22 13:21:38 Sibyl said:
On 2016-09-22 13:11:49 Ben Layden said: This stream of self conscious claptrap on this thread doth not ameliorate the Luciferian pride and superiority complexes I witness everyday.
Perhaps it may help you in dealing with it in a different manner and in that way make things a tiny bit better?

My answer : No.

I thank you for your condescension.

On 2016-11-23 20:09:03 Ben Layden said:
On 2016-09-22 13:11:49 Ben Layden said:

My answer : No.

I thank you for your condescension.

I apologize if my response to you came across as condescending and for offending you, that was not the intention at all. My suggestion was made from my sincere belief that it may be of benefit to you, nothing more.

Miss V
Horny or not.....
Thank you for the compliment
SoD

Ma'am Sibyl,

Thank you so much for your reply, much appreciated.

Mr SoS,

Thank you for your confirmation

Super Thursday to you both

the Noblesavage