Hi People

I been single, never married.

Have not had a relationship for many years.

Let me tell you, it does get lonely,I keep myself occupied with my businesses, expensive toys, travels etc. But nothing replaces the companionship and having someone share your life experiences. Booking all these lovely ladies from this purple world is just a small coping mechanism but does not fill the void, this is purely a sensual or sexual need being fulfilled.

One sometimes just wants to chill on a sofa with someone and watch a movie, simple pleasures.

Loneliness is terrible but then again, I blame myself for not venturing out and looking for the right companion, so it's my choice but yes it does get to you sometimes.

You have to ignore it love because the more you think about it the lonely you become and that makes youu desperate to find someone but by the end of you might end up with the worst partner. Ignore it and take your time in life

Hugs and kisses

DAISY

On 2023-09-18 16:16:57 BendOver said:
Hi People

I been single, never married.

Have not had a relationship for many years.

Let me tell you, it does get lonely,I keep myself occupied with my businesses, expensive toys, travels etc. But nothing replaces the companionship and having someone share your life experiences. Booking all these lovely ladies from this purple world is just a small coping mechanism but does not fill the void, this is purely a sensual or sexual need being fulfilled.

One sometimes just wants to chill on a sofa with someone and watch a movie, simple pleasures.

Loneliness is terrible but then again, I blame myself for not venturing out and looking for the right companion, so it's my choice but yes it does get to you sometimes.

OMG, this is so my situation to the tee, its as though i had written it.

Im too much of a nice guy, who can never say no to any friend/family member that needs my help. I just cannot bring myself to change that.

Sadly those that need your help, remember you only when they need you, but when you see their happy socialising pics on whatsapp, facebook etc, you see that you were excluded from their happy times.

Ive never had luck in relationships even though i think im mostly a nice guy - but as others have said ,even those are married or in relationships still feel crushing loneliness.

Its hard to describe, even though you feel this way, sometimes with company, you just feel you want to be left alone.

Has the lonliness become a vicious circle??? Sigh :-(

It's not just the single person's... I'm married, and also tend to feel lonely now and then. Sometimes life gets in the way, and in today's world, it's tough. Work, kids, etc etc take over our lives to the extreme. And it's really tough making time with a partner, quality time as mentioned above.
You certainly not alone, not even between the married folk.

"....Its hard to describe, even though you feel this way, sometimes with company, you just feel you want to be left alone...." quoted from Mr Nobody

Because it's tiring,... heavy, consuming....feels As if you looking in?


Angst, fatigue due to work work worrrrrkkkkk, concerns and life challenges even thouhh one might not realise it... and as I have mentioned before, I still hold to the point that SA is not conducive to a healthy social lifestyle.

Feeling on one's backfoot most of the time due to many unique issues specific to SA.

And for the more elderly...an extreme nightmare.

Imagine having lived a fruitful life...many memories good and bad and then fopped off to an old age home, reliant on children and family for that weekly possible visit,POSSIBLE visit at the mercy of the kindness and care of others , the social circle limited and forced upon one, still hankering to be loved and seen and laughed with and hugged and kissed...age doesn't stop one being the human one is.

Age is a thing the stupid laugh at and try shame aging forgetting none of us stay young....and THAT is telling of the society we live in.

To reach out is already a win, to know to understand where one is at any present moment in one's life can be a hard pill to swallow and can make one hanker and long for bygone days...Wishing.

A dangerous place to be...especially if there isn't much round one, no matter family or friends, for they may not understand one's frame of mind.

And sometimes exactly that which is around one reminds one even more how lonely one feels.

It truly can be a "disease" of the mind if one knows not how to help oneself.

It all depends on one's situation and surroundings.

I do hope anybody feeling this deeply lonely takes courage from this thread and knows they are not alone and maybe just maybe venture out in a different way or reach out for more professional help if it truly feels tooo heavy to understand or deal with.

Courage and strength.

Loneliness does not have to be eternal.

RB.

To do lists help and constantly evaluating them. Even as introverts we are social animals and being accepted acknowledged important. What about hypnosis sometimes the subconscious hides secrets we choose to hide from and choose not to acknowledge?.

Bendover don't feel bad. What's stopping u from venturing out now. There's many social clubs etc. Just depends on how much and how passionate u are about companionship. Being with wrong person worse than death. Sometimes companionship without the written commitment can work. All what u want and need within yourself. Search within. And write and analyse. No better person than yourself to do that.

what the original op was refering to was not lonliness in tne normal sense , CS Lewis had an answer to that question in some of his appologetics books

Do not worry.
You cannot be lonesomes for too long time if you having the WiFi.

That is all connection you will need to be ok,ok?

Are some of us doomed for eternal loneliness???[/QUOTE]

Nope