On 2022-04-23 19:35:56 SloJoeJhb said:
On 2022-04-23 10:13:03 Raphael_ Xclusive said: On 2022-04-23 09:32:35 carlfine said: On 2022-04-23 07:36:32 doctorevil said:

Great post @Raphael.
It shows your congruence, comfort and confidence with who you are.

A number of the "men" that post hate on this forum could take a leaf from your book.

@SloJoeJhb thank you so much <3

This is just my opinion. If I was a code 3, I probably wouldn't say I was code 3 cos I wouldn't have had an easy life accepting I was born in the wrong body, go through the psychological turmoil and then get together the money for the whole medical procedure and everything that hoes with it. By me saying I am code 3 invalidates everything that made me go through with whatever I went through.It would invalidate who I am. I would probably hate who I was born as? I dunno, I am just trying to put myself in their position and I could also be totally wrong. I think there is a lot more to identify as code 3 than simply stating it. If I go around identifying as code 3, it would mean that all I went through is null and void cos now I must identify as a 3rd gender, I am still not a woman and life has played another trick on me.
Another point - hardly any of them or very few are reasonably literate in English well enough to be able to express themselves without being misunderstood or being made fun of. So although there is merit to this post, it will be of no consequence. Its like me trying to make my point in German when all I know is a rew conversationa/social phrases. Even reading what I wrote, I didn't nearly express myself well enough in my home language.
Raph is exceptional and better adjusted than almost anybody I know. He is extremely intelligent and has navigated his way around his identity. Not everyone gets to that place like he has done (which is the sad part, many just never get there).

You know, in many belief systems around the world which involve reincarnation (which I also believe in), a trans person is someone who was the opposite gender in their previous life or lives. Subconsciously they still have memories of that experience.

So for me, as long as she identifies as a woman, behaves and looks like one convincingly, I wouldn't be too bothered if she turned out to be a code 3. I have a preference for Asian women so I'm sure I've been with a code 3 before. I just judge by the pictures. If I can't tell otherwise, it's a woman to me and I think nothing more of it (it's good thing I can afford to travel to Asia where I don't have to inspect beforehand haha)

On 2022-04-24 09:09:13 Bbw Nadia said:
This is just my opinion. If I was a code 3, I probably wouldn't say I was code 3 cos I wouldn't have had an easy life accepting I was born in the wrong body. By me saying I am code 3 invalidates everything that made me go through with whatever I went through.It would invalidate who I am. I would probably hate who I was born as? I dunno, I am just trying to put myself in their position and I could also be totally wrong. I think there is a lot more to identify as code 3 than simply stating it. If I go around identifying as code 3, it would mean that all I went through is null and void cos now I must identify as a 3rd gender, I am still not a woman and life has played another trick on me.
Another point - hardly any of them or very few are reasonably literate in English well enough to be able to express themselves without being misunderstood or being made fun of. So although there is merit to this post, it will be of no consequence. Its like me trying to make my point in German when all I know is a rew conversationa/social phrases. Even reading what I wrote, I didn't nearly express myself well enough in my home language.
Raph is exceptional and better adjusted than almost anybody I know. He is extremely intelligent and has navigated his way around his identity. Not everyone gets to that place like he has done (which is the sad part, many just never get there).

@Bbw Nadia always love reading your contributions to posts, because your mind is wise and brilliant. You also often have the ability to look at things from other perspectives. Ps. Thank you for the compliments.

You've made very valid points.

I didn't want anyone to know for a long time. I felt that being a transman did invalidate me being a man. But in my teens, my friends would often out me and speak on my behalf, which made me incredibly mad. But even more so, broken, because it was for no other reason than to belittle me.

So I chose to start speaking up and living openly, because I needed my own voice. I needed more than anything to speak for myself and it also helped narrow down those who were meant to stay in my life and those who were not. I never want to be robbed of or belittled because of my truth.

But I also had to learn through a lot of trial and error to stay where I am celebrated. My grandmother, who passed on a few years back, also aided me in this. She was in her early 80s and she would send me guys toiletries and male products/clothes. It was beautiful to see that a devout woman of God, born in a time full of so much prejudice could give me that unconditional love, support and acceptance that I looked for amongst others. Not realizing that there was someone in my family just waiting for me to reach out. I robbed myself of many years with her because I was afraid of being ostracized, like I had been amongst others.

The pain and hurt is part of the process. It's part of the healing and the self acceptance.

At the end of the day, we are not responsible for how others see us. Any of us, that is, not just trans people.

No matter another's perception, our reality and our truth remain the same. Not even we can run away from our truth, no matter how hard we try.

I'm now incredibly proud of myself and how far I have come. I may still be in a female body, but I will always be a man. There is nothing that can invalidate that. I may be sexual and enjoy sex and no pleasure, or how I grow or cut my hair, being in this skin or another skin, can strip me from my identity. Nor another's opinions. It's as natural as being born with a certain eye colour. It's in my DNA or my genetic make up. I didn't choose a gender identity and neither did these women.

Why choose a life of ostracization, possible violence, hate crimes, abuse and down right disrespect? Plus everyone having an opinion on something they have absolutely no clue about?

That would be a no from me.

Anyway, stay blessed and everyday, I pray that I remain teachable and that others have compassion. Sending you all so much love because I too, don't know your journeys.

One man's meat is another man's poison.

But meat is meat and Man must eat.

Unless you're Vegan,then you're gonna have to avoid the Asian cuisine laden with MSG altogether,& stick to plant-based,plus don't forget to let everyone know about it,because it's uber-important in Vegan subculture to let the guy enjoying his beef know he's making a huge mis-steak.

So,in short,our genders are not defined by our genitalia or lack/replacement thereof.

IDK why I wrote this instead of keeping it to myself.

Must be because I received a reply in the PM function from RB,now I'm feeling lekker.

P.S. is a transwoman's jizz in my mouth gluten-free,and if so,will they charge extra for it?

There's a long week ahead,on with the Fuckery.

And please be mindful of everyone's mental health,good evening all.

I went for a booking and was horrified to find a code 03. It has a manly face and gruff voice, broad shoulders. I stood my ground and said no, not booking and left. However there was defintely photoshop pics to cover up what i actually saw. Do i blame esa ? No. Its there business to advertise. But the provider should state it somewhere they where men at some point.

On 2022-04-24 19:16:56 Forsyth P Jones said:
One man's meat is another man's poison.

But meat is meat and Man must eat.

Unless you're Vegan,then you're gonna have to avoid the Asian cuisine laden with MSG altogether,& stick to plant-based,plus don't forget to let everyone know about it,because it's uber-important in Vegan subculture to let the guy enjoying his beef know he's making a huge mis-steak.

So,in short,our genders are not defined by our genitalia or lack/replacement thereof.

IDK why I wrote this instead of keeping it to myself.

Must be because I received a reply in the PM function from RB,now I'm feeling lekker.

P.S. is a transwoman's jizz in my mouth gluten-free,and if so,will they charge extra for it?

There's a long week ahead,on with the Fuckery.

And please be mindful of everyone's mental health,good evening all.

Based FPJ lol

On 2022-04-24 19:16:56 Forsyth P Jones said:
One man's meat is another man's poison.

But meat is meat and Man must eat.

Unless you're Vegan,then you're gonna have to avoid the Asian cuisine laden with MSG altogether,& stick to plant-based,plus don't forget to let everyone know about it,because it's uber-important in Vegan subculture to let the guy enjoying his beef know he's making a huge mis-steak.

So,in short,our genders are not defined by our genitalia or lack/replacement thereof.

IDK why I wrote this instead of keeping it to myself.

Must be because I received a reply in the PM function from RB,now I'm feeling lekker.

P.S. is a transwoman's jizz in my mouth gluten-free,and if so,will they charge extra for it?

There's a long week ahead,on with the Fuckery.

And please be mindful of everyone's mental health,good evening all.

....u do know I am "in lust" with u.

Knowing to be mindful is the first step to compassionate understanding of others state of mental health. :)

By the way...I am going to eat u...ALL of u... and I know there ain't gonna be no 'miss'-steak. Licking my lips.


RB.