Life can be so fucked up some times. My first wife was very conservative, sex was scarce and when it did happen it was monotonous. I will be the first to admit that I lost interest.

This was a huge catalyst leading up to my first punt although I stumbled on the industry by chance. I had now found a way to satisfy my sexual needs. I played the field extensively.

It did nothing for my marriage. I knew I was cheating. We grew further apart, again more from my side than hers. We could go weeks without being intimate.

The inevitable happened and I had an affair. The sex was amazing, everything I had ever hoped for but hell it was complicated to juggle all those balls. I let my guard down and was eventually caught. Amazingly though, my wife wanted me to stay. We had three beautiful kids and were financially secure but the dream of being with someone who I thought was more suited to me led me to asking for a divorce.

I left the punting scene and married my lover. I of course had regrets but knew this was the path I had to follow. I wanted to be happy. I see my kids every day, pick them up for school every morning. My ex and I make better friends than lovers. In hindsight getting divorced was a blessing in disguise.

I digress however. The sex between my new wife and I began to diminish. I became frustrated once again and lo and behold I find myself back in the industry. I will do anything for my wife but why oh why do I continue to do this?

I really think the problem is with me......

I am, the reason you had amazing sex with your lover was probably because it was "illicit", which can make it all the more exciting. And when it subsequently became "legit" once you were divorced it lost its shine. I know because it happened to me as well, but the one doing the cheating was her, not me. The chemistry between us was amazing and the sex out of this world, but I knew it couldn't last forever. Inevitably I eventually crashlanded back on Earth...

Shuu just reading the different stories is like dejuvu and I can relate to many of the experiences.. second marriage also very much in love .. left "the industry" just to return to it years later.. discovered that love and sex can be addictive so I researched and found "Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA)"... stopped acting out and became "sober" for 3 years.. and then.. went for an innocent massage.. and BANG!!!! back into my old habits.. and its slowly exponentially destroying my marriage.. I know I must stop but the addiction is too strong ... u can google SLAA and do the online test to see if u qualify.. only one way out.. STOP IT!!! how???? minute by minute... its just a matter of time before Im caught out again..

There is nothing wrong coz we are SP and men are made for sex u wont make love to the girl u take.....u just have to let go and relax get all that built up spirm a break to release. Xxxxx Sharon

Any which way we look at it..It's wrong what we do...We all have reasons and try and justify our punts...
mine is a long story....started from abuse.
Then It became a habit...now its in my blood...
There are days I can go with out it....But there are days I never get full...
u can't stop once and u can't stop slowly....u got to work at it....step by step...
I'm getting there and hopefully by year I should be out...
financially it cripples you...to.me it's better than an affair. ....here its just lust....affairs are love...

On 2016-11-07 15:42:04 007PC said:
Any which way we look at it..It's wrong what we do...

Is it ? by whose standard. Having travelled most of the world I can honestly say I see nothing wrong with the industry when it is perfect legal and controlled.

On 2016-11-07 15:56:44 deamonza said:
On 2016-11-07 15:42:04 007PC said: Any which way we look at it..It's wrong what we do...


Is it ? by whose standard. Having travelled most of the world I can honestly say I see nothing wrong with the industry when it is perfect legal and controlled.

Agreed...
Wat die oe nie sien nie maak die hart nie seer nie.(some people would say)
I won't say go out of your way to screw around ...you just don't want to get caught.
If something lack in your relationship..why be in it? I believe you know what you get into the day you tie the knot..some people change like day and night...some grew with there responsibility.
We adapt or we let go..
Easy.. you not a tree... you not stuck in one place...you can move you know.

I am who I am - thanks for that honest response. I'm on the same roller coaster, but in my first marriage, thinking there's something wrong with me. To make things worse, I'm noticing women advancing towards me. I used to deflect these moves, but I'm softening, &@#! It's a matter of time-tick,tock#

To hell with the moral and ethical police, its a fact of life that anything deemed illegal, morally or socially unacceptable makes the act that more satisfying and literally addictive. On that note go out and enjoy any of the wonderful girls on this site, and stop feeling guilty about it.

GaryJ you said it best