A few things

1) I have sent through my bank details so, people stop saying "just take the refund..."

but 2) this is pretty much the first time she has acknowledged me since it happened so no I'm not obsessive but over and above the refund I am actually interested in getting to the bottom of what the hell happened - why I ended up sitting in a coffee shop for hours on end like a doos, waiting to hear from her.

and 3) related to that - a lot of what she has said is just simply not true. So yes, I'm going to respond. What is the point of 'naming and shaming' shitty behavior if after that the guilty party gets to respond with whatever bullshit they feel like and the wronged party must then just shut up?

On 2022-11-23 15:02:02 JP82 said:
A few things

1) I have sent through my bank details so, people stop saying "just take the refund..."

but 2) this is pretty much the first time she has acknowledged me since it happened so no I'm not obsessive but over and above the refund I am actually interested in getting to the bottom of what the hell happened - why I ended up sitting in a coffee shop for hours on end like a doos, waiting to hear from her.

and 3) related to that - a lot of what she has said is just simply not true. So yes, I'm going to respond. What is the point of 'naming and shaming' shitty behavior if after that the guilty party gets to respond with whatever bullshit they feel like and the wronged party must then just shut up?

Part 3. Call her out on the untruths with proof though so we can all see?

On 2022-11-23 14:59:10 Kate said:
@vox - I booked the room prior so yes room fees are still payable as the room could've been used by another lady if I didn't book it, and it was a late afternoon booking,So it was still payable as the house also had to make its money. Outbooking fees are payable to venue/house owners. Stipulated rule at the house I worked from and no infact I didn't make extra money as my fee was R1500 per hour and an outbooking Fee towards the house was R300 per hour which meant I had to pay R600 towards the house outbooking Fee. I'm sure the house owner will gladly confirm to this.

So you saying that his 3 k didn't cover the venue fees for both the in and the out call and you ended up forking out from your own pocket to pay the balance?

Yet you still prepared to take a further knock to pay him back 3k just to have some peace?

Wow...

On 2022-11-23 15:02:02 JP82 said:
A few things

1) I have sent through my bank details so, people stop saying "just take the refund..."

but 2) this is pretty much the first time she has acknowledged me since it happened so no I'm not obsessive but over and above the refund I am actually interested in getting to the bottom of what the hell happened - why I ended up sitting in a coffee shop for hours on end like a doos, waiting to hear from her.

and 3) related to that - a lot of what she has said is just simply not true. So yes, I'm going to respond. What is the point of 'naming and shaming' shitty behavior if after that the guilty party gets to respond with whatever bullshit they feel like and the wronged party must then just shut up?

You already started the name and shame did you not?

Initially I thought it was just a mere misunderstanding but now I am not so sure.

I believe you inlove with her she rattle your cage and it's hard to walk away.

However if she don't want u Nothing u can do. Btw you do sound very persistent.

On 2022-11-23 13:45:48 Arhwen said:
On 2022-11-23 12:43:37 Kate said: THIS IS GETTING BEYOND FRUSTRATING!!! IF YOU NEED THE R3000 THEN PM ME THE BANKING DETAILS AND LET ME GO ON WITH MY LIFE AND VISA VERSA.



In my personal opinion no scammer has ever offered to pay back the money they scammed from someone.

But I can be wrong.

Has anyone ever been refunded by a scammer?

I have

On 2022-11-23 14:54:41 kelv87 said:
On 2022-11-23 14:41:39 Teletubby said: Ah. That's your mistake - there aren't only two reasonable options. "I care *MORE* about the friendship than the money, but won't accept losing both" is a perfectly reasonable position,which is perfectly compatable with OP saying "I'll let it go to maintain the friendship".
Maybe this is where we just agree to disagree because I don't believe a real friend would say "let's rekindle our 'friendship' or you pay me". I believe, and you can disagree of course, that a real friend (in this very specific context) would accept the demise of the friendship and not let the payment of this supposed "debt" be contingent in any way on the rekindling of the friendship.

I mean thinking about it now..."if I can't have you then I want my money back" is quite shitty.

I do disagree. "I can forgive a friend a small transgression, but why should I forgive someone who is not my friend" seems pretty reasonable to me. "I'll just forgive everyone who scams me" seems like a good way to be a sucker

On 2022-11-23 15:07:51 seanc said:
On 2022-11-23 15:02:02 JP82 said: A few things

1) I have sent through my bank details so, people stop saying "just take the refund..."

but 2) this is pretty much the first time she has acknowledged me since it happened so no I'm not obsessive but over and above the refund I am actually interested in getting to the bottom of what the hell happened - why I ended up sitting in a coffee shop for hours on end like a doos, waiting to hear from her.

and 3) related to that - a lot of what she has said is just simply not true. So yes, I'm going to respond. What is the point of 'naming and shaming' shitty behavior if after that the guilty party gets to respond with whatever bullshit they feel like and the wronged party must then just shut up?

Part 3. Call her out on the untruths with proof though so we can all see?

Post the facts or let it go! Lesson learned, move on!

On 2022-11-23 15:12:41 Kommerq said:
On 2022-11-23 13:45:48 Arhwen said: On 2022-11-23 12:43:37 Kate said: THIS IS GETTING BEYOND FRUSTRATING!!! IF YOU NEED THE R3000 THEN PM ME THE BANKING DETAILS AND LET ME GO ON WITH MY LIFE AND VISA VERSA.



In my personal opinion no scammer has ever offered to pay back the money they scammed from someone.

But I can be wrong.

Has anyone ever been refunded by a scammer?

I have

Seriously? Did you take them to court?

The way I see it if JP is telling the truth he can take her to court.

If Kate is telling the truth she can take him to court for deformation of characters.

It's ok to fall in love with escorts and clients.sir you were In love with the girl.had plenty date nights ,now that you got dumped everyone must know.Eish men ..,