On 2022-04-30 11:27:26 Galaxy The Original @ Be-sensu said:
On 2022-04-30 11:03:58 Jakeburns78 said: Surely looks play a part, if there is an initial attraction to the punter then you I assume you can get into it quicker?

Jake

Ok so yes, you see this extremely sexy guy across the road and as we are all human, that does get a person all hot and bothered, until they start speaking and poooooof... that feeling just disappears.

Take for example the initial telephone call. The way the punter speaks and how he comes across over the phone, lays the groundwork for the session already. Most of the time just by speaking to him, you would want to go for a braai with him as he is just a lekker oke on the phone. Without even knowing what he looks like, there is an instant connection... or on the flipside he could come across as obnoxious or arrogant over the phone, which could leave you dreading the encounter.

I hear you @Galaxy but its got to play a part, say I walk through the door alongside some guy with a chiseled jawline, tight buns and a six pack, i know exactly which man you are looking at first

Its just the way it is, some of us are not models :(

Jake

For (most) men, attraction is mostly about what they SEE...

For (most) women, attraction is mostly about what they HEAR...

On 2022-04-30 12:48:58 Jakeburns78 said:


I hear you @Galaxy but its got to play a part, say I walk through the door alongside some guy with a chiseled jawline, tight buns and a six pack, i know exactly which man you are looking at first

Its just the way it is, some of us are not models :(

Jake

True... But who is going to leave a girl breathless and with trembling legs... You or Mr Jawbone? LOL... More often than not my bet wont be on a pair of tight buns. Sometimes eyecandy is just that. Eyecandy and nothing more.

On 2022-04-30 13:07:28 Vrik said:
For (most) men, attraction is mostly about what they SEE...

For (most) women, attraction is mostly about what they HEAR...

HEAR yes. And FEEL.
But its true... Alot of men are very visual

Judging by my success rate of great steamy hookups with really some of the hottest girls here, I'd say looks are definitely not the deciding factor :) Of course cleanliness, grooming, presentation and all that jazz do factor into the equation.

But your question might be on a more philosophical level and when all else equals; then I don't know the answer but I would assume that looks do play a role. The ladies are human too.

P.S. And the Randelas speak!

#Galaxy said it in a nutshell. It's all about the chemistry, not the looks or size of his member (which so many guys think we sit and drool over). Respect goes a long way for me, that I find very attractive. That's why I insist that a first time client actually CALLS me, that's the only way one can sense whether there's a connection or not. More often than not, punters who only use Whatsapp to communicate, those bookings tend to be less successful.

I once had a poor inner dialogue and often "needed" to pursue people "way out of my league." But this was because I couldn't connect with myself and it was to maintain an image of myself, to be more socially acceptable.

Nearing 30 and having joined the industry, I have now learned that there is so much more to people.

I want to be seen for WHO I am, how I identify and for so much more than this vessel.

Every time a new client walks through the door,I have the most authentic connection and experience, because it is the most loving and sincere experience.

We only choose what we are attracted to, to boost our ego. That's not genuine.

But when I can laugh with another human, have my body embraced regardless of what I lack or what I have, be seen and I can offer the same to another. To connect, but not just skin deep, that level of intimacy is Hella sexy and I'd rather have that than any of my previous shallow ideologies.

I know for myself, the more I grew to love myself, the less I saw bodies and the more I saw people. I believe we can only connect with others, once we connect with ourselves.

But before I finish, I must second @Nickey Blue, respect, cleanliness and self control. A lot of her list is 100%.

Normal human behaviour indicates we will be more attracted to people with similar level or beter level of looks/social status or intellect level than we precieve ourselves to have.

But this playground being transactional had kinda leveled the "attraction field".. and normal is a totally different thing.;)

Jake's statement that a girl will pick mister chilled chin over him is so far from the truth.. this industry has different rules than the normal world outside this play ground.

Mr drop dead handsome and mister plain can walk into a venue/club toghether , I will take a bet that Mr plain will attract more ladies than Mr drop dead handsome.

Why? Beacuse Mr drop dead handsome is precieved as "he is use to attention", " he can pick anyone" , "he will be hard work" , "he will be hard to please" where as Mr plain will be seen as "he will appreciate the attention", " he will be easy to please" , " he won't be hard work"

There might be one or two that will approach Mr drop dead handsome but usually that is because they themselves feel that they are still better looking than him or atleast equal and feel they are a match to his ego.

The only thing that will bring all the ladies
and their attention back to mr drop dead handsome and away from Mr plain is if his pockets seems deeper than those of Mr plain.

I have witnessed this happening over and over and over in venue and club setups.

But as far as normal individual booking situations looks make no difference..the only thing that really counts is the money and the level of respect you exhibit when making an appointment, and during an appointment. And out of that respect shown will be born a session where you will feel like the only person that matters. ( Well atleast for the time you paid for ;) )

Me personally, there is something beautiful in or about everyone and I find myself to seek out something that will make me feel genuinely attracted to someone, it had always worked for me as it makes things feel less transactional and more personal.

On 2022-04-30 11:27:26 Galaxy The Original @ Be-sensu said:
On 2022-04-30 11:03:58 Jakeburns78 said: Surely looks play a part, if there is an initial attraction to the punter then you I assume you can get into it quicker?

Jake

Ok so yes, you see this extremely sexy guy across the road and as we are all human, that does get a person all hot and bothered, until they start speaking and poooooof... that feeling just disappears.

Take for example the initial telephone call. The way the punter speaks and how he comes across over the phone, lays the groundwork for the session already. Most of the time just by speaking to him, you would want to go for a braai with him as he is just a lekker oke on the phone. Without even knowing what he looks like, there is an instant connection... or on the flipside he could come across as obnoxious or arrogant over the phone, which could leave you dreading the encounter.

Comes across the phone?

That be some kinky shit,yo.

I'm in.

If you have seen the movie Mask (not The Mask). Its about a boy with a disfigurement where bones in his face do not grow proportionately. I had a client like that and it took me about 10 mins to acclimatize but then I forgot about the face cos he was just such an awesome lover.
Looks are just that, LOOKS. If I was turned on only by looks, I would probably not even cum. Average looking guys just make more effort as a lover. Its also about how comfortable you are in your own skin, looks aside. How you carry yourself, general neatness and respect. Some guys are what my late bestie always used to say - Hy is mooi vir niks. I think cos the best lovers I have had have never been pinups.
Any lady in this game will tell you, without exception, that the best bookings we have had is NOT with the hunks ( we do have those too).