On 2022-04-28 13:43:47 Sabrina said:
Depression is something completely different from allowing people to dictate how you feel about yourself.

Whose to say she has not got depression.
Many people ignore the sign and that very dangerous.

Many people ignore the sign and that very dangerous.


Thank you Gabby - the most sincere words said all day. Lets look out for each other and use our mouths and ears in the proportion they were given to us - two ears one mouth :)

On 2022-04-29 12:55:16 landy said:

Many people ignore the sign and that very dangerous.


Thank you Gabby - the most sincere words said all day.


....Lets look out for each other and use our mouths and ears in the proportion they were given to us - two ears one mouth :)....

I love this. It is good to be reminded.

RB

My 2 cents - it's a good reminder to take care of each other and for punters to be cognizant of the mental strength SPs have to handle their own issues, and to attend to punter issues, let-alone insecurities and other less acceptable behaviors.

I have had a couple of good punts recently, where I got a chance to escape from my reality, and be accommodated - and I do try to reciprocate similarly, where I value mutual respect.

That said mental health/illness is a real issue (and often misunderstood), and I have seen it in both family, as well as partners, and as some of the previous responses have pointed out, can we just be a little bit kinder to each other in a very very cruel world.

Lady Caroline, I for one constantly seek the regular that you describe. The way it should be. Don't give the scum any time of day.

Johny, very well said! Could not have said it better.

In this game we on both sides Punter and SP aim for sincerity and an honest good time. Sometimes it doesn't workout. Who's to blame maybe both but that's the game. Both have to endure. And find that group of people that makes it worth it. Good luck to us all!!!

Avoid people who

People who mess with your head
People who intentionally and repeatedly do and say things that they know upsets you
People who expect you to prioritize them, but they refuse to prioritize you.
People who cant and wont apologize sincerely.

At the end of the day you are responsible for your own happiness.
Take your time to your self before you start work meditate take a nice bath while listening to positive quotes remember the universe listens Speak life over yourself and happiness you will attract them.

If you always negative and sad everyday waiting for some to put a smile on your face for a few mins what's happens next when that smile fades away?

Always try to be positive.

If life pushes you then you get back up and you push back.

Some people are more sensitive than others. What you say to me might roll off my back but hit someone else's wind out of their sails.
Carolyn, pls consider counselling should you find things getting too much for you. Get help if you're not coping- no shame in that. The forum is often not the kindest place.

To those who care

I don't suffer from depression. I am hurt. Things happened. Things so profound that it knocked the wind clean out of my sails. A series of events actually:

1) Punters hurt me badly - very badly.
2) I had a massive data corruption in my business due to the ignorance of an employee. (Data which I have still not been able to fully recover.)
3) Hardware failure due to Eskom affecting my general progress.
4) I caught a staff member trying to steal property with a value in excess of R5000.
5) I have been physically ill for over half of April (I had conjunctivitis for a week - can't work with THAT) and then 2 weeks later I developed a sniffle.
6) People in my personal life crossed a line that caused me a lot of personal pain.

So to clarify: I don't suffer from depression in general. I am trying to build up my once successful life back from nothing.

I don't keep many friends. I have aquintances. I have found that it is safer for me to keep people at a distance. My trust in others was betrayed too deeply.

For those of you that reached out. Thank you. I am at a loss for words. Every kind word, every word spoken in love, care and concern... every single one has made a difference. They were the enveloping, smothering hugs, gentle pats on the back and soft gentle kisses on the tip of my nose that I needed.

I had experienced so much pain from the purple world previously that this is ointment to the lashes across my back.

I took a few days and I am taking stock of my life. Deciding which way next.

I know only hard work will help me to put the pieces of my life back together again.

I will be beaten. I will be judged. I will be criticized. I will cry on some days.

I WILL NOT BE DEFEATED. I am just too stubborn.

C.

Hang in there, stay strong.