On 2023-03-09 15:40:22 Mike Hope said:
On 2023-03-09 12:08:02 Need4Passion said: Less than once a week means the realtionship is already dead and you should just break up and fuck other people.
Once a week is is borderline break up/divorce. You will be cranky AF most of the time.
Twice a week is a minimum where you can maintain sanity and still manage to stay involved in the realtionship.
4-5 times a week is acceptable, healthy, and happy.
7+ times is great but after a year, it can become a bit too much and boring, especially when you having off days or other priorities that need time but you gotta take out 2+ hours of sleep every night to fuck the same person you fucking every day.
Currently sitting in the last one over a year down the line. Trying not to complain after making the mistake of getting married and ending with once in 6 months which is soul destroying but man, I think there is such a thing as too much for too long.
N4P
Very well put couldn't agree more. Been through 2 marriages and both of them I knew the writing was on the wall once a decent shag had dropped down to less than one a week.
Unfortunately to slow to realize it at the time I should have bailed earlier ie the first week it drops down to one a week get the fuck out of there!
Currently sitting at less than once a month. Soul died a long time ago!
On 2023-03-09 16:17:35 triton242 said:
On 2023-03-09 15:40:22 Mike Hope said: On 2023-03-09 12:08:02 Need4Passion said: Less than once a week means the realtionship is already dead and you should just break up and fuck other people.
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Very well put couldn't agree more. Been through 2 marriages and both of them I knew the writing was on the wall once a decent shag had dropped down to less than one a week.
Unfortunately to slow to realize it at the time I should have bailed earlier ie the first week it drops down to one a week get the fuck out of there!
Currently sitting at less than once a month. Soul died a long time ago!
Been there too. Better hustle to get your exit plan in order boet, she's probably far down that plan with already plan B, C, and D in line. The rot is too far gone if it's less than once a month and it only gets worse.
N4P
Can anyone shed some light on how/why has the sex declined after marriage?
Marriage now seems like a very soul-crushing prospect.
On 2023-03-09 17:22:09 3OfAKind said:
The post-marriage insight shared is truly very chilling. Reminds me of a joke my director told me at the office, which goes "when you see your wife smiling as she walks down the aisle on your wedding, she is smiling because she knows she gave her last blowjob". Being the only unmarried one at the office, I was quite taken aback by this joke but realised that there may be truth behind it.
Can anyone shed some light on how/why has the sex declined after marriage?
Marriage now seems like a very soul-crushing prospect.
Well, ask yourself why marriage is such a big thing for the bride and she wants such a big celebration?
Because that was the end of the line. She won the prize, she got what she wanted. The game has been won. All those blowjobs she had to give and all the nonsense she had to put up with and all the pretending of the perfect wife she had to do has finally paid off and there's no reason to work for it any more when she already got the trophy and she knows you fucked if you decide to leave/divorce so she got you by the balls in the opposite way of what you were thinking.
No need to give blowjobs now, she got you. No need to keep a figure now, she got you, no need to even be nice to you any more, she got you, no need to have sex, go use your hand because she got you, no need to cook or treat you, go buy KFC because she got you. And you wanna leave, well you gonna pay though your ass while she cashes in so she got you. You are not the prize for her, the ring and marriage is. Marriage is of zero benefit to a guy and a whole lot of stress and costs. If I knew then what I know now, I would never have gotten married.
To put it in perspective, in 10 years of being with my ex, I only managed to pay off one car and would limit my spend to to be successful so no shoes avoer a grand etc as I had to cover all her debts, frivolous spending and luxury lifestyle and she would always pick the most expensive shoes 3k up just because they were expensive and 100k diamonds.
In 4 years since being divorced despite being unemployed for a year and then taking a 35% cut in salary and no increase to date. However, I've managed to pay of a couple houses and cars, be debt free, spoil myself and buy 3k shoes etc, and got more sex in the first month single than I did the last 5 years married. I am not the exception but the norm in current day marriage situation.
If you haven't gotten married don't! Everyone including the government and the lawyers benefit but you.
N4P
On 2023-03-09 17:49:06 Need4Passion said:
On 2023-03-09 17:22:09 3OfAKind said: The post-marriage insight shared is truly very chilling. Reminds me of a joke my director told me at the office, which goes "when you see your wife smiling as she walks down the aisle on your wedding, she is smiling because she knows she gave her last blowjob". Being the only unmarried one at the office, I was quite taken aback by this joke but realised that there may be truth behind it.
Can anyone shed some light on how/why has the sex declined after marriage?
Marriage now seems like a very soul-crushing prospect.
Well, ask yourself why marriage is such a big thing for the bride and she wants such a big celebration?
Because that was the end of the line. She won the prize, she got what she wanted. The game has been won. All those blowjobs she had to give and all the nonsense she had to put up with and all the pretending of the perfect wife she had to do has finally paid off and there's no reason to work for it any more when she already got the trophy and she knows you fucked if you decide to leave/divorce so she got you by the balls in the opposite way of what you were thinking.
No need to give blowjobs now, she got you. No need to keep a figure now, she got you, no need to even be nice to you any more, she got you, no need to have sex, go use your hand because she got you, no need to cook or treat you, go buy KFC because she got you. And you wanna leave, well you gonna pay though your ass while she cashes in so she got you. You are not the prize for her, the ring and marriage is. Marriage is of zero benefit to a guy and a whole lot of stress and costs. If I knew then what I know now, I would never have gotten married.
To put it in perspective, in 10 years of being with my ex, I only managed to pay off one car and would limit my spend to to be successful so no shoes avoer a grand etc as I had to cover all her debts, frivolous spending and luxury lifestyle and she would always pick the most expensive shoes 3k up just because they were expensive and 100k diamonds.
In 4 years since being divorced despite being unemployed for a year and then taking a 35% cut in salary and no increase to date. However, I've managed to pay of a couple houses and cars, be debt free, spoil myself and buy 3k shoes etc, and got more sex in the first month single than I did the last 5 years married. I am not the exception but the norm in current day marriage situation.
If you haven't gotten married don't! Everyone including the government and the lawyers benefit but you.
N4P
Kudos N4P! Well done, you've got my respect there.
Also no salary increase in a few years for me.
My problem is also a total lack of game/skill, and I'm very concerned what'll happen after a split up.
Edited: 2023-03-10 08:43:37
"Well, ask yourself why marriage is such a big thing for the bride and she wants such a big celebration?
Because that was the end of the line. She won the prize, she got what she wanted. The game has been won. All those blowjobs she had to give and all the nonsense she had to put up with and all the pretending of the perfect wife she had to do has finally paid off and there's no reason to work for it any more when she already got the trophy and she knows you fucked if you decide to leave/divorce so she got you by the balls in the opposite way of what you were thinking.
No need to give blowjobs now, she got you. No need to keep a figure now, she got you, no need to even be nice to you any more, she got you, no need to have sex, go use your hand because she got you, no need to cook or treat you, go buy KFC because she got you. And you wanna leave, well you gonna pay though your ass while she cashes in so she got you. You are not the prize for her, the ring and marriage is. Marriage is of zero benefit to a guy and a whole lot of stress and costs. If I knew then what I know now, I would never have gotten married." [quote]
Well summed up.
On 2023-03-10 08:22:49 Sabrina said:
At least twice a day, for me. Or I start acting out of order. Ha ha ha!!
Welcome back Sabrina!
Not buying that though. Nobody wants it that much :-)
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