On 2023-08-01 12:27:08 bienafv said:
On 2023-08-01 11:20:39 Ri0 said: so I should say I'm not sure cause deep down I'm not okay with it cause we made plans before she left and now it's a day before and I made adjustments to my schedule to put those plans in I am a bit disappointed but she said she tired and wants to go home and I
don't know if she really wants to be here with me or is this a loop hole to get away or is this a test to see if i will show that I'm feeling bad and disappointed

She is simply not interested, wave goodbye and cut ties. If she was interested she would not be "tired" or want to pay extra to change flights.

The are you sure is to hold herself blameless e.g you bring this up ever again the response will be but I asked you and you said its fine

Thing is I want to say something to make her feel bad but I don't wanna seem desperate also, hence I'm not sure what to say

What you're discussing has been discussed at length on the interweave, so much so that there's terminology for it. What she's doing is called "flaking" and the test she's putting you through is called a "shit test" and right now you're failing it.

So you should have told her in the first place quote firmly that you've already made plans and concessions in advance to accommodate her so you can stick to the plansor we cancel all together and you are not happy about it and left it at that. Since you've already failed the test and she's "given you another opportunity" to answer, tell her exactly that because that is the truth and you actually do want to tell her that.


There's no making her feel bad and trying not guilt her into spending time with you. It will be a shitty resentful time.

Tell her what you need to and don't get emotional. Let her decide if she's keeping the original arrangement or still changing flights. If she keeps it, happy days. If she changes, count your losses and walk away. Side note, some times they regret their decision and want to make amends. If that happens, you don't run anymore losses and inconveniences. Basically if she says she's coming to make it up to you, you say okay but you don't make plans around that or offer to pay any tickets etc. Expect she'll flake again and also don't jt rule out the fact that she may have just let someone else more her vibe on holiday or waiting back home. If she really wants to, she will book her tickets and meet you. When she phones you from the airport, then you can make some plans around seeing her. Tried and tested method numerous times by yours truly.

N4P

On 2023-08-01 12:19:46 Ri0 said:
On 2023-08-01 12:07:15 Kaycee said: On 2023-08-01 11:20:39 Ri0 said: On 2023-08-01 11:13:49 Kaycee said: Be yourself and be honest...

so I should say I'm not sure cause deep down I'm not okay with it cause we made plans before she left and now it's a day before and I made adjustments to my schedule to put those plans in I am a bit disappointed but she said she tired and wants to go home and I don't know if she really wants to be here with me or is this a loop hole to get away or is this a test to see if i will show that I'm feeling bad and disappointed

Best to be humble and explain your situation snd how you feel
I don't mind expressing myself in that way as I'm not one to go of the top in a hurry. The only thing is if I explain myself and the she will feel I'm disappointed so then she will end up staying. I feel it needs to come from one you can't be telling people, one should know where their priority lies

Whether a punter or lover,you know what your priorities are and where they lie.

If she's a lover,she needs to understand, that she's not your number one priority.
Delicate I know,but if she's like I'm hoping she is,then she'll understand and accept it. She has to know where she stands.
The truth......

Don't make her feel bad
If she's a grown ass woman,she'll accept and understand

How did things work out Ri0? Did you tell her how you felt?

Hope she decided to stick to the initial arrangements and spent the time with you.

JP69