Posted: 2017-01-25 23:26:01
Ask your lady sir.
It isn't always easy especially when a couple get in to the "same 'ol same 'ol" routine where anything out of the ordinary is shocking, so what you do is ...
Slip her a roofy!
Actually don't, that's not nice. With a long term partner get her tipsy, buy her a dress or take her somewhere she'll love, look at her with longing and just talk. Maybe she thinks you are the most phenomenal stud you ever and changing anything would be messing with the natural order of life. Maybe she needs her ass slapped, her hair yanked, to be tied bound and vigorously rubbed all over with crunchy peanut butter (hey don't judge).
With a first timer just go with the flow. Don't bring up the peanut butter on a first date, but do make her comfortable enough to mention it.
A little tug of the hair here, a small smack of the rum there, a grab of the wrists or the ankles if you are exploring that part of her. Any lady will let you know.
Oh and listen to whatever any lady here tells you.