On 2024-07-02 16:27:37 depends69 said:
This is a interesting question and like many I find myself constantly having to justify my choices to myself.

I've slow eroded my personal values around honesty. Its really not something that can be restored - not while in a relationship and having a habit of deceit while trying to find love and affection.

As an old punter, I am well know person in my professions, with a great family (which I've tried to protect). Over the years, I have a built a persona as a mask. It is a false narrative of name, work, habits, phone, etc. I even have an older car which I use when I punt. All to protect myself from being caught out again.

I was separated, the first time my wife found out about my punting habit and casual sex with women. With marriage counselling we got back together, but the trust was broken and like most women she never forgave or forgot. So with time, I started punting again, but this time I got wiser. I started creating a double life.

Now I have 2 persona's, 1 to my family and friends and the other to the ladies to visit and casual sexual partners I encounter when I'm away from the family.

Outsourcing my unmet sexual needs to keep the home front harmonious, while started as a fun escape has ruined my personal life and has prevented my from living an authentic life.

I'm just a lie - often torn by quilt and shame, but I still try to find connection and warmth from punting rather than in my marriage!

A cautionary tale

I loved this read.


A narrative that inspires much conversation on various levels.

RB.

On 2024-07-02 17:38:28 Russian Bridgitte said:
On 2024-07-02 16:27:37 depends69 said: This is a interesting question and like many I find myself constantly having to justify my choices to myself.

I've slow eroded my personal values around honesty. Its really not something that can be restored - not while in a relationship and having a habit of deceit while trying to find love and affection.

As an old punter, I am well know person in my professions, with a great family (which I've tried to protect). Over the years, I have a built a persona as a mask. It is a false narrative of name, work, habits, phone, etc. I even have an older car which I use when I punt. All to protect myself from being caught out again.

I was separated, the first time my wife found out about my punting habit and casual sex with women. With marriage counselling we got back together, but the trust was broken and like most women she never forgave or forgot. So with time, I started punting again, but this time I got wiser. I started creating a double life.

Now I have 2 persona's, 1 to my family and friends and the other to the ladies to visit and casual sexual partners I encounter when I'm away from the family.

Outsourcing my unmet sexual needs to keep the home front harmonious, while started as a fun escape has ruined my personal life and has prevented my from living an authentic life.

I'm just a lie - often torn by quilt and shame, but I still try to find connection and warmth from punting rather than in my marriage!

A cautionary tale



I loved this read.


A narrative that inspires much conversation on various levels.

RB.

Completely agree. What a wonderfully insightful response. As someone who has been on the fringes of the industry for many years, only very occasionally delving into what it offers, this really gave me something to contemplate. From what you describe, your casual encounters sound regular and the ladies you visit numerous. Something that obviously requires a fair amount of time and resources, which is why I expect you need to commit so much into maintaining those two persona's. I sit and wonder, with your cautionary tale now in the back of my mind, if I should commit more of my time and resources to this private aspect of my life. A regular lady to visit on a monthly basis for an hour or two of escapism. Is this sustainable? Or do you just keep falling deeper into the rabbit hole?

We just don't give a fuck

Wife and I used to have a crazy sex life. The adventures we had would have made great porn, and there was no reason for me to punt when things were great.

But over the years, certain things happened, resentment crept in, then menopause arrived, and now we are just awesome friends and roommates.

I started punting again around 2015 - there was immense guilt in the beginning but now I feel nothing. Punting is something I do when I need to and I likely would have lost my mind without this alternative.

Looking back, I don't regret any of my decisions and glad that I am able to fulfill my needs and fantasies while I am still able to.

Both men and women have desires which aligned perfectly when they met, got married and possibly for a few years after that. They were insatiable and did everything to make each other happy.

Then life happens.
Interests change.
Desires change.

So divorce?

I don't want to.

My wife and I are compatible in 99 ways out of 100. Our likes, interests and dislikes all match.

The 1 thing that in which we are not compatible is sex.

So I punt.

And feed all my kinks and fetishes that she won't.

On 2024-07-02 20:21:22 FMS said:
Both men and women have desires which aligned perfectly when they met, got married and possibly for a few years after that. They were insatiable and did everything to make each other happy.

Then life happens.
Interests change.
Desires change.

So divorce?

I don't want to.

My wife and I are compatible in 99 ways out of 100. Our likes, interests and dislikes all match.

The 1 thing that in which we are not compatible is sex.

So I punt.

And feed all my kinks and fetishes that she won't.

Perfectly said!!

On 2024-07-02 20:44:53 Gav31 said:
On 2024-07-02 20:21:22 FMS said: Both men and women have desires which aligned perfectly when they met, got married and possibly for a few years after that. They were insatiable and did everything to make each other happy.

Then life happens.
Interests change.
Desires change.

So divorce?

I don't want to.

My wife and I are compatible in 99 ways out of 100. Our likes, interests and dislikes all match.

The 1 thing that in which we are not compatible is sex.

So I punt.

And feed all my kinks and fetishes that she won't.





Perfectly said!!

I agree absolutely too. My married and family life is awesome and I receive 99% of what I need in a relationship. But, I just don't get the sex I need, although I used to. Starting punting was a revelation for me and I can honestly say it has saved my marriage. I reached the point where I was eyeing up and fantasising about other women, including my wife's friends...and my wife noticed which obviously caused friction. Now, because I give myself the relief when I need it I don't feel the need to salivate over women in my life and I'm very content. I can provide my wife with what she needs emotionally despite the fact she hasn't given me a blow job virtually since the day we married 18 years ago, and she gave awesome blows. Punting has enabled me to enjoy phenomenal blow jobs and incredible sex and satisfies my libido. I've met some awesome ladies, inside and out(as well as the reverse of course). As an "older" punter who loves women and sex, I've made the decision to enjoy it while I can physically and have recently stepped into sexual exploration that I never thought I could contemplate.
Do I feel guilty? No. I know it would create huge hurt if it came to light but I have to trust my secretive instincts to protect me and my double life.

I have a question, how would WGs feel if they found a partner, quit being a WG then find out after some time that the partner is still visiting WGs? Love is cursed by monogamy.

You owe it to yourself to be happy.
Toh pacchi just go out and have fun.
If your fun is not to family liking,that is their problem,na?
Why you must feel it the guilty when body is calling for girl with acchi bosdi?
The bhagwaans,they do not strike Putin or Trump down with their furious angries for all bad they do every day to peoples,vy you thinking you to get punishment then?
You not so much special for that kind of attention from whichever God you do the believing in.
Paise karlo aur ladkiyon thokdo,ok?

Men tend to complain about their wives not satisfying their needs. But they also regularly complain, on this forum, about sex workers not satisfying their needs.

Maybe we should check our entitlement? Punting has definitely taught me to keep myself in check? I came here desperate and horny hoping to fuck like crazy and I ended up more sensible. The world doesn't revolve around me an my wants. But when those needs align, with wife/ partner or a sex worker, heaven opens up. The rest is just life, good or bad.