Even though some of these quotes may seem harsh, there is a positivity in ALL of them.

Our desire to be accepted, understood sometimes is our own worst enemy, not realizing the toxicity that we have allowed around ourselves.

And thus...

Going into the new calendar year 2025 maybe to remember some of these and lighten your burden, be kinder upon yourself and learn to fly more free!

All quoted, none are my thoughts.

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"...What's a truth you have learnt the hard way and will never forget?

A person who betrays you once will betray you a thousand times. You don't need to drink the entire sea to know it is salty"


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"...They will wonder why you're no longer the person they once knew, but they will never admit they were the ones who taught you to build walls out of the bricks they threw.
You didn't just survive their chaos, you learned to carve order from it, crafting a life they'll never have courage to understand "


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"...People only see the decisions you have made, they rarely stop to consider the impossible choices you were given. They judge the outcome but never the struggle, never the weight you carried or the sacrifices you had to make. It's easy to criricise when they've never had to walk in your shoes."


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"...If you never heal from what hurt you, the pain. Will linger, bleeding into every relationship, every interaction, every moment of your life.
You'll find yourself lashing out, doubting love, or building walls so high that even those who truly care can't reach you.
And worst of all, you'll end up hurting people who never caused your pain- people who only wanted to love you, but instead became victims of wounds they didn't inflict.

Healing isn't just about letting go if the past - it is about protecting your future and the ones that deserve and wish to see you whole."

x.

2nd January 2025.

How time flies.

We have shared a lot. Felt it to the pit of our tummies and gotten through it.

Now to remember much of what has become a revelation, a new found empowering truth and make 2025 a year to be embraced whole heartedly.

Have faith.


No reason we cannot chat even though the "season to be jolly is over".

Looking fwd to hearing from you.


x.

To carry ones own cross for the deep love and respect one feels for ones mother.



And thus to let go of some of those burdens that have no place in your life for, if one were to look at it more positively, maybe they were never yours to bear.

Quoted, and touched my heart ...deeply. Not just for me but for you and you and you.


We all have our struggles and no less heavy than another persons


".....if my mom could truly see and feel the weight of the mental struggles I carry, it would tear her apart to realise that the child she raised with so much love is silently battling the pain within, hiding it all to protect her from worry. She would never imagine the depths of the battles I fight behind the smile I wear. "

And should your household not have been a supportive and loving one , try not forget that even those who may have come from loving homes, have their demons to slay.

Blessed strength to YOU.

x.

Even though we may know many many things, sometimes it is good to be reminded of them.

And this one is something I have always but always lived by.

I promise you...one may be the centre of ones own bubble but, when one realizes one is just another in the pool of many, then things make much more sense and becone less burdensome and ones blessings all of a sudden, are acknowledged and embraced.



Quoted -

" Train yourself to take nothing personally, and you'll free yourself from the chains of overthinking and the weight of unnecessary pain.
Not every harsh word is a reflection of you.
Not every rejection is a jusgement of your worth and not every cold action is meant to hurt you.
People act from their own battles, fears and insecurities more often than from anything you have done.

When you learn to separate their actions from your identity, you'll find peace in places where chaos once lived.
It's not easy, but it is the kind of freedom that protects your Soul."


And above...in a previous post, the one Quoted about healing , pairs well with this quote.

May the first weekend of this new calendar year 2025 know to bring new outlooks and positivity ABUNDANT!

RB.

It is a fine Sunday.

The first Sunday of a long year ahead - 2025 - yet, it will pass quicker than ever imagined.

Be careful who you befriend and don't confuse acquaintanceship with friendship.

When one feels a little lonely that mistake very easily made.

And thus keep this in mind...

Quoted -

"I have shared laughter with people who have whispered the cruelest words behind my back, and they walk beside me, convinced I am unaware.
But the silence I keep isn't ignorance - it's a,strength , a choice to rise above their pettiness while they drown in their own deceit. "

Emotional maturity is a strength many shall see as a threat.

It isn't. It just makes you more aware of the fickleness and hypocrisy that lives among us all.

Strength to you and never forget you ARE one in a million!

x

Challenges new await all of us.

It need not only be in a new year. To some, a new year is just another day.

Today , I was reminded why my new year looks nothing like that of another and, how regret may tarnish the goodness one wished to see in another.

Not everybody is cut of the same cloth and if anything ones life can be a platform for many to bring you down without remorse or care.

I hugged him close and I hoped he felt I truly cared.

And thus again quoted..

"What's a piece of advise that could save me from regret?

Stop sharing every piece of your life with people who only see it as entertainment. Most people don't truly care about your struggles, and some listen only to see where you'll stumble.
Keep your dreams close - because not everyone is a supporter and some are just waiting for the day you fail."

STRENGTH be yours.

x.

2025 begins in earnest.

Once again , to put ones unresolved personal issues aside and,like headless chickens, immerse oneself into the fast paced rat race.

In some way, a savior replacing lonely nights where tomorrow brings another day of holiday, a weekend aimless and full of introspection, making the loneliness and aloneness a looming heavy darkness blinding one to hopes and resolutions and solutions attainable.

Those baby steps to self help.

Those realizations that one can pull oneslef out of that bad habit of thinking oneself worthless and incapable.

And not to undermine anybody's state of mind for, we all come from a different experience and background.... the willpower to reach out with optimism ACKNOWLEDGING that if one can work oneself into a stupor , waking every morning being part of the rat race, then no reason one cannot find time to ACKNOWLEDGE the self...work on the pain, the frustrations, the loneliness

Understand it for what it is.
Where it comes from and ....why.

YOU are not only your own happiness and blessing but, most definitely for many others too, even though you many not see it in those moments of darkness.

And thus, quoted again from a source -

"The devil couldn't reach me, so he gave me a heart that cares too much - a heart that carries the pain of others, that bleeds for those who don't deserve it, and aches for what it cannot fix.
He thought it would break me, that the weight of love and empathy would crush my soul.
But what he didn't realise is that the heart, though scarred and weary, is my greatest weapon.
It may crack under the pressure, but it never shatters - it beats stronger, fiercer, and more relentless every time."


Save a little time for yourself.


x.

I agree with you 100 percent. When I visit a wg I am looking for a intimate connection. I enjoy chatting and getting to know the person I am going to engage with physically. In order to have a good physical interaction you have somewhat connect emotionally as well..

Dear master28

Sometimes it takes courage to let the walls down.

Trust that that which is shared shall not be used against one, shared with many and then spewed on the "front pages" of the purple forum looking to shame one.

A light tete-a-tete does know to settle the nerves, make it more than completely transactional, I agree.

My go to is always that...even discussing politics can be with banter leading to a complete surrender most intimate.


...even a silence serene and welcoming because two people have found each other in the sincerity of words shared and unguarded.

....and without purpose to sit in judgement.

RB.

Self sabotage.

Realise it.

Take it by the horns.

OWN it and...CORRECT IT.

We are our own worst enemy many a time.

Quoted -

"Listen.

Tell me something people don't know about you.


It sometimes confuses people, but...
I have a happy personality but a sad soul.
I am bold but shy.
I love deeply but sometimes I feel heartless.
I am healing and hurting at the same time.
I am dedicated to growth, but I self sabotage anything that is good for me."

YOU are allowed to be human.

Strength.

x.