Edited: 2022-03-29 07:30:12
Thank you Ms Le Roux and Galaxy for sharing.
My biggest challenge was with my eldest son.
Strange complaints, weight loss and really struggling through school between ages 5 to 19
Oh gosh the frustration!
Eventually doctors specialists, tests you name it year in and out.
He was resembling a skeleton by the time he fell unconscious one afternoon aged 20.
Provincial hospital
Diagnosed type1 diabetes :(
Such a manageable condition but the damage was done
Phase 3 heart failure
Kidney and severe nerve and eye damage, prognosis 8 years.
The shock to me was severe but for him...
I guess he just gave up.
It's now 2 years past his expire prophecy
He is doing much, much better.
At age 30 he just started his first job ever a month and a half ago.
I'm proud of him.
There's no guarantees in life
Just make the most of every minute you get, be happy.
On 2022-03-29 00:35:50 Albavg17 said:
Single dad. Mum left us when he was 2 months, post partum. The first fever I freaked out but somehow I knew if it was serious or not. I still have that 'knowing' and I trust it. He's 6 years old on Wednesday and we're still fine!!!! He goes to grandpa sometimes and that's when in here on ESA to still just be a man....no time for relationships.... He's my world.
You remind me of my fighting fish
Brave devoted fathers!
They do not tolerate any threat to their offspring and will even kill the mother if she's left with him after spawning
Your parents must be very proud of you.
I'd be if you were my son.
On 2022-03-28 23:54:54 Russian Bridgitte said:
With my daughter - she was bullied in high school.A small pvt school where one did not have a choice of friends. A jail cell nearly became my destination for it took quite a few to stop me from breaking a few parents and 'teachers' heads.
I felt as if i had failed her. We went to therapy together so that i could understand her better and know to help her and myself too.
With my son - a party animal running around with rich brats from his private school knocking on the door of taking drugs and becoming an alcoholic. When the signs began to show there was no sweeping it under the carpet and forbade him his friends, threatened to have him locked up and kept him under "lock and key", again therapy sessions for the both of us...to understand how to help him and help myself too.
They both wiser people now and adults in their own right. Both university graduates.
Both working and making huge inroads in their fields of profession.
The heart does ache and the tears do know to flow but, one things is for sure....i love them unconditionally and looking at them now, i know i did not do a bad job after all. There is no regret, no matter what.
RB.
Prime example of a long suffering mother.
So good that you have not alienated them through the stormy, wild years
On 2022-03-29 00:37:58 Ms Le Roux said:
The joys of parenthood, being a single mother is honestly tougher than it seems especially with 3 teenagers.
I have my son, who's head is screwed on right. He is on the straight and narrow, a gamer and geek/nerd, yet at times loses his temper with me. Still I love him with all my heart
Then my daughter, the one who gives me such a hard time, worshipping the ground her father walks on even though he is absent and only present when it suits him. Constantly I get the rolled eyes, the "I hate you" and "you're too strict" the temper and attitude. Never appreciates anything I do for her, believe me she shows it the little rebel. Yet I continue to love her and do all I can for her even though in her eyes I deserve "worst mom of the year" award
Then my youngest one, sets high standards for herself. Very responsible and willing to help where possible. The one that cooks, cleans and can knit and crochet. My little perfectionist
All in all I think I'm doing a pretty damn good job raising them on my own, being strong in front of them, yet weak when I'm alone. Three very different personalities, yet all three my flesh and blood.
Do I have regrets? None just wished their fathers were more active and present in their lives
Oh yes the cliche absent dad
You are much stronger than you appreciate MLR just stay tenacious and before you know it you will have beautiful adults that have nothing but admiration for you.
On 2022-03-29 07:50:36 J_69 said:
My biggest parenting challenge is the wife always intefering with how I father my boys :-((
You guys MUST be one the same page.
This is a horrible situation I do feel for you!
Respect to the Warriors in here.
Wish whoever reads your stories are inspired to:
1)make more effort with their own
2)Spend their cash on you.
This is a great thread.
A boy 7, full of energy and always happy.
My daughter 15, super focused and loves school.
Last year they were both kicked out of their private school because with lock down I struggled with the fees.
I honestly don't have issues with either of them, we have a good relationship.
The hardest part of parenting for me, is the pressures of always wanting the best for them.
I love this post because as we know, being a parent is really tough, makes me appreciate what I have more but also shows that we should show kindness more because we don't know what people are dealing with while they smiling.
Xx
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