On 2022-03-14 11:32:19 Prean said:
Yes i do agree that it is an unfair question and i meant no ill intention in asking this.
I have just seen it destroy rather than build someone close to me.
I have my flaws as well

Eish! We all have flaws...no argument there.

I agree it is an atypical relationship but I've seen it done

I think 90% will
If it's easier to find a office job with flexible hours (to go to kids play/rugby etc)
And still have some fun to fill all our sexual needs
This life is mostly fun but there are some real @$$$ out there aswell
The double life can also be a bit too much at times
But that being said:
If it weren't for some amazing client's most of us wouldn't be doing this aswell

I personally love what I do. But having said that I don't offer full house I enjoy the more sensual aspects and giving a really excellent massage. And totally love the fetish aspects of my work.

I have met a few full house ladies and found it was heavy on there sychie after a while. It is also very difficult for them to form long term relationships as many partners would not accept there work. I definitely feel for these ladies.

Lets pose the question to the men instead, how do men in South Africa feel about having a marriage /relationship with Sex Worker/Ex Sex Worker and how does it affect the dynamic for example is the relationship Swinging/Polyamourous/Monogamous outcome or Slut-Shaming argument styles?
I would love to know, as would my readers.

And thats why i ask as well. The psychological aspect as well. Seems to be alot for some to deal with and this follows to substance abuse to numb the emotion and boom they hitting rock bottom. Its a sad cycle for some.
We all have our reasons for being here though.

@Prean
My question for Prean is this:
If you could walk away from punting, given the chance, would you do so?

Every lady can only answer for herself. Personally my answer would be NO!
What started out as a "desperate times, desperate measures" kind of thing became something i love to do. Yes just like every other job this one has its bad side as well but as @Blondie said, there are amazing gentlemen out there that makes up for all the bad days!
As far as relationships go, i dont go there...(been there, done that more than once).
Another job offer? Well lets just say it will have to be one hell of an offer for me to consider it!

I went into this industry with eyes wide open after alot of thought, and i think being in the swinging lifestyle for years before also helped me to cope mentally and emotionally. But sadly it is true that this work could break some girls...that is always so sad.

Absolutely YES
If all my bills were paid and I had the time to do the things I wanna do, I would happily walk away with zero regrets!

Only doing it for the money, if I would get enough money I would be out with no regrets... focusing on wat I wanna do.

BTW I don't feel offended by the question at all.

BTW,I don't know about other ppl, but for me I feel like this "job" has a way of "freezing" ppl's lives (for the lack of a better term)... Reason why I'm saying that is bcos I feel like it makes u stuck in a place where u living month-to-month, paying bills and the next thing u look up and a whole year has passed... Ofcos it doesn't have to be that way, but usually thats the case bcoz things ALWAYS come up, especially if u trying to improve urself nd ur situation...

So if I ever got the opportunity to be out I would grab it with both hands, without thinking twice about it.

No, I love what I do, passionate about it. It's never dull or boring. Every day is a new adventure doing what I love, diverse and fascinating.