On 2022-03-05 15:23:30 MuffBuff69 said:
The ones that really need the help you can see a mile away. The ones that are there because uts easier than actually doing something that requires a but more effort you can also see.

A friend of mine used to spend probably 2k to 3k a week for some woman that used to stand at a particular corner every day and plead with the cars as they drove past. I mean sobbing her heart out.

This went on for the better part of a year until the lady that stood at the robot made the papers as being a drug user and she used to take all her donations and go buy her and boyfriend/hubby drugs.

They lived in a shithole and didn't made their 4 year old use a bucket as a toilet.

Maybe I am hard and uncaring but the ones that I can see really just need someone to help and tell them it will get better and instill a little hope are the ones I stop for. The rest. Sorry no.

Also if I go to a new shopping center I will give the car guard something but not my local. I mean I don't mind the R2 or the R5 but every day because the expect it because your car wasn't gone in the seven and a half minutes you were in the shop to me is a bit much. Again maybe that is just me

I agree with you.
People give money to make themselves feel better that they did a good deed, without realizing that In certain cases they actually doing more harm and becoming a source of income for people who have an addiction problem

Good topic.

I think some people make the contribution in recognition of their ability to do so and give thanks by sharing with others. Whether the recipient is in real need or not is secondary to the gesture of good will. Unfortunately you will never know what the impact of the gesture will be, you trust it will do good.
Be good upon others, one day you might be in need of something

On 2022-03-05 16:13:38 you53 said:
I think some people make the contribution in recognition of their ability to do so and give thanks by sharing with others. Whether the recipient is in real need or not is secondary to the gesture of good will. Unfortunately you will never know what the impact of the gesture will be, you trust it will do good.
Be good upon others, one day you might be in need of something

100% this

On 2022-03-05 15:09:27 Jade @ Sensual Spa said:
On 2022-03-05 14:34:29 johnyafrica said: On cash, i used to judge, but more recently I have tried not to judge, because as Sylvia mentioned, you don't know what the next person is going through. It's easy to happily judging them for trying to run away from their problems, forgetting you have your own vices (good or bad) to 'balance' yourself and even extending to the privilege of being able to afford the purple world to "run away' from your problems

I agree @johnnyafrica. @Jakeburns also makes valid points.

I help where and when I can, because I used to really struggle and people's kindness meant a lot to me. If I give money or whatever to someone, it's theirs. Whatever they use it for, is up to them. Respecting people's agency is important. And if you can't give money, you can still give friendliness and respect.

xxx

4 years ago I was deep in the s..t . I know how it feels to be hungry, not knowing which way to turn, homeless etc
I will always help where I can, even when things are rough financially, I reach out to help with a good heart

Giving is a gut feeling for me and I believe in the saying that "the more you give the more you receive" and as long as I've got cash on me to spare why not?