One of my shortfalls in life is that I overthink and am always working at improving my realistic and multiperspective understanding of things.
So this morning I'm pondering on if we should not consider changing the rating criteria in reviews.
As example, we give ratings for her face, but we do not rate the care with which she treats my "feelings". When interpreting a "service" rating, do we think that refers to how enthusiastic lyk she acts physically or do we rate hoe she makes me feel?
I know body service and emotional service are both elements of service, but similarity face and body are both elements of beauty yet both get a score which slants the scoring in favour of the young entitled ladies. They may have a great phone experience (the con up front) and they may be lithe enough to do all the positions in the kama sutra, but the entitled attitude often only becomes clear in how she responds/does not respond. Not because a response is required but because it is good manners.
The true winners are the ones that make a difference longer than the vistit and the hour thereafter.
Test my hypothesis: who are the first 3 ladies you think of right now (I don't say 1 as then the last may have an unfair advantage).
Now look for the common denominators in these 3. Why do they jump to mind? Why do you remember them?

In my case (and I know that is subjective and you don't have to agree) the common thing is if she made me feel welcome and "enough". I don't want to look back and feel tolerated only. So I guess you may say to me the lingering emotional aftertaste is THE thing for me.

Yet that we do not rate.

@ESA, kindly consider a "one year later" review option? That could include categories of return visit (eg, none, 1-5, 6 - 10, more than 10). That would say much more than a words only "will you return" which I guess mostly does not really happen.

Do we give enough credit for the total effort a lady puts in to make it special enough?

If not, how do we fix this shortfall?

This I support. The cornerstone of this website is reviews and the risk mitigating effects of such, better reviews will only serve to make the site better.

Well thought and said C . Amstel agree

As much I agree with everything said, especially this part:

On 2023-07-07 10:32:19 Cunilinkiss said:
I don't want to look back and feel tolerated only.

I don't think what you are looking for can ever be captured in a review in a value-adding or actionable way. And I'm on-board with your thinking. The SPs I go back to most often are the ones that make me feel like they want me to be there and not just to render a service. But they don't know who's coming through the door next and if you rock up and they just aren't attracted to you, it's going to be that much harder for them to put on the lovey-dovey attitude even when it was always their intention to do so. Unless we are measuring their acting ability...

Number of repeat visits can also be skewed by the reviewer's logistics and options in their area.

I know I'm not offering solutions and I'm sorry for that, but personally I don't even bother looking at the numbers. When assessing "service" in a review I read the written part of the review and take note of objective comments about what happened ("she answered the door wearing lingerie"/ "there was a heater in the room") and what didn't happen ("she didn't have oil/wipes") or mechanics that may impact the customer experience ("had to wait in the room while she fetched stuff/paid money to the house"). How "good she makes me feel" is part of the experience and can be practiced similar to how waiters and air-hostesses can consistently leave you feeling "looked after" but any emotion beyond that is down to the 2 of you and how well you two gel together I think.

Have you ever had a girl who really liked you and followed you around like a puppy but you didn't notice her at all because you were not attracted to her? An SP like that could give you objectively excellent "service" but still not give you an "emotional aftertaste" because the spark was just not there.

On 2023-07-08 19:37:58 Jason_Nix said:
As much I agree with everything said, especially this part:

On 2023-07-07 10:32:19 Cunilinkiss said: I don't want to look back and feel tolerated only.

I don't think what you are looking for can ever be captured in a review in a value-adding or actionable way.



Have you ever had a girl who really liked you and followed you around like a puppy but you didn't notice her at all because you were not attracted to her? An SP like that could give you objectively excellent "service" but still not give you an "emotional aftertaste" because the spark was just not there.

LOVE. LOVE. LOVE.

RB

Tnx for the beer Jack

True words Jason