I'm not sure what you are saying here, to be honest. If you treat people with respect, respectful people will respect you. You don't think these girls are also taking a massive risk catering to our needs.

There's 0 regulations or protection for sex workers in South Africa. They are at way more at risk than any punter. It's a volatile income stream. We write about them behind screens and here they are putting themselves out here for all to see. You just bang to get uitgevang.

I think my point has been missed by a few people here, I acknowledged that service providers also have something to lose. I obviously can't relate with them because I'm not where they are.

But just to be clear, what I'm cautioning against is over-familiarity with service providers and punters. People's situations and views change, who you might call friends in this industry today may be enemies tomorrow and you don't know what they know or what they can do, it's all I'm saying. Respect is a non-negotiable, we all know that, but that is at a superficial level when compared to how drastically your life can be changed by one person by simply revealing more of yourself than you should.

ThatTittyMan...
So do you value your life more than a WG's?
Asking for a friend

LoL

lol he talks as if we aren't literal professionals - just a bunch of girls / besties who sit around and gossip about our clients (obviously using their real names lol) - not like this is our job or anything.

babe your assistant, who sees you come back to the office after 72mins with your tie undone? that person, too, can change your life drastically by misplacing information. again - what good reason does a provider have to out *herself* as well as you, unless you're dangerous or a bad client

I don't really see why this thread has kicked up some controversy -

1) Just like in "real" life, some people are worthy of trusting, some are not, and it can be *REALLY* hard to tell which are which. Personally, the people who have done the most damage to me over the years have been family members and business partners that prior I would have gone to war for.

2) Just by being here, you're putting yourself at risk of exposure.

3) As a general principle, when it comes to secrets, the more information you give someone the more power you give them to destroy you.

Combine those and it seems like OP asking "how close is too close?", is not a controversial question.


(BTW the "we ladies are risking our lives" response is a bit odd. Yes, yes you are. But its not a competition of who is at "greater" risk. The question at hand is how much info etc. should you share with a lady? The fact that the lady faces greater (physical) risk has zero bearing on how much of your private info you can safely reveal.

Similarly, saying things like "the vast majority of ladies would never..." is true but also not really helpful, because of point 1 above - even if its a tiny minority, the fact that its impossible to know who to trust means you shouldn't tell anyone anything you don't want coming out (For the ecos nerds its a classic case of asymmetric information leading to market failure)

We are all human beings. And should treat each other with respect and dignity. And be fair and honest in our dealings with each other. Live up to our obligations and never infringe on other's rights. If we all lived this way, then we could all live without fear.

But sadly, that is not the world we live in. I call them the "5%" who have spoilt it for everyone. They have always been there. They are not something new. But, they perpetuate the cycle of "take, or be taken".

I for one try to conduct myself in a way that allows me to never have to look over my shoulder.

On 2023-11-28 13:58:07 Hazel Arabia said:

As within, so without. Assumption is stronger than manifestation. and if thats what a man thinks of us, then that is PRECISELY what he will receive.

@Hazel Arabia, I think this part went over a couple of heads. Beautiful insight and I can see why you are a growing favourite amongst many on here