On 2023-12-20 14:04:23 J_J said:
Best not to mess with the mind of your dick, you will only make the little head go 'mental'. You can't control your dick with your conscious mind. Yes you can influence it by feeding it false information (a distraction if you will), but it will eventually adapt and get screwed up. You might find that it will expect granny to call during every session, and you end up with a limp dick mid session, even though you not even using that trick anymore.

Impotence is generally a sign of a confused dick. Rather work with positive reinforcement than negative reinforcement. And see a lady, like those recommended above, who know how to manage gasms.

Impotence is the total opposite of what he is struggling with. He is not struggling to get an erection or to reach orgasm. So I respectfully disagree. I also didn't say think about your granny, I used it to illustrate a point in the extreme and then went on to suggest some solutions. Read what I posted.

Zayn. Try edging it might help but be careful no heart conditions. Have had similar experiences of late every now and than. Also blood circulation and fitness plays a part. There's a certain wg here that one day surprised even myself by how long and intense our session was I definetly connected with her that session more than others. Hope your problem gets fixed and u don't get turned off punting for weeks, months, years.

Thanks kingkk! Any recommendations in PTA or JHB?

Relax JHB, I did read your post, and I am just using your mention of "Granny" as an example of the long-term consequences of short-term inappropriate interventions. My point was that if you mess with your mind, it has long-term consequences, of which impotence is very common. Did not imply he has this problem. Just warning him not to try any shit or quick fix, and to think of the mental problems his creating for his little head in the future.

Vaginal edging (which you allude to in your post) has some merit, but better to start with baby steps (outside of the vagina) and work your way to being able to just develop a rhythm of increasing and decreasing intensity without having to pull out, enjoying all of your partner, not just the vagina.

And NO, NO, NO; you don't ever want to go anywhere else while engaging in pleasure, stay in the moment, stay present (and allow the pleasure to take you to another place, not one you've made up yourself). Enjoy every stroke, hear every sound, smell the scents released, open your eyes and stare deep into her soul. Feel everything. When you awaken all your senses, and allow the energy created in the pelvic region to spread through your whole body, you may find your problem with time being resolved.

But till you get there, rather enjoy 5 minutes fully in the moment, completely engaged; than trying shit that will only damage you mentally in the long term.

Find a lady that will work with you to 'feel' rather than 'last'

Forget about performance. If your focus is on performance, you won't find pleasure (real pleasure). Rather use that motivation in your job, where performance pays better dividends.

I usually rub one out about two or three hours before my session. Works well and I last longer.