I just read a review and the punter essentially said:

"I don't know how many times I've seen punters over-hype a lady with astonishing reviews only to get there and feel hoodwinked or underwhelmed."

It got me to think about my past experiences. In the past I've visited highly reviewed, highly recommended and highly praised ladies and I'd leave SOME of the session feeling underwhelmed. This was obviously because my expectations were over the roof because of the multiple glowing reviews.

Over the years I've learnt to lower my expectations because we all won't experience the lady the same. Heck, I still get shocked when I read a negative review about a lady that treats me like a king but it happens.

Fellow punters don't have expectations that are over the moon, especially if it's your first time meeting the lady (lol even if she has +1000 points and over 1000 positive reviews). And if you're not fully sold on the person when you meet them, just make a short booking and if it goes well, you can come back for more.

With all due respect, you've got to remember that some guys are here because they don't get a lot of pussy. No offence. But a lot of blokes are having sex for the second time, third time, fourth time, and leaving reviews.

I'm honestly not trying to be rude, but some chaps here have never had a blowjob because they got married at 22 and their wife thinks it's gross. Now they're writing reviews.

Again, I'm not attacking anyone. I'm glad we're all getting laid. But Lovejoy has a point and I think this is a big reason for it.

I think it's time for punters to write how do they meet us halfway for both parties to enjoy most of the punters get it wrong when they read reviews they think the advertiser has magic to satisfy a mannequin gentleman...This Punters play their roles aswel they are not selfish..they know how woman's body works...

I think a lot of good reviews were because the ladies r nice to them and the sex is ok. The longer the lady is here the more reviews and points she gets. All you has to do is smile, treat a man special with a big kiss and bare blow and make them come on or two time and he is very happy.

If you are seasoned Roger man with many miles of ladies under you trousers then you want more.

To be honest, I've never left underwhelmed when visiting highly rated ladies. These women have been in the industry for a while and know how to please a man.

That said, they are overhyped in the sense that I don't genuinely feel the urge to return to them. They're more of a guaranteed fix after a run of bad punts than a mind blowing experience.

At the end of the day it's just chemistry. What might be the best punt for me won't be the best punt for you.

But I agree, punters need to give more realistic reviews. There's some gents who have never given below 4/5 reviews, can't take those simps seriously.

On 2026-01-14 22:32:03 Didi said:
I think it's time for punters to write how do they meet us halfway for both parties to enjoy most of the punters get it wrong when they read reviews they think the advertiser has magic to satisfy a mannequin gentleman...This Punters play their roles aswel they are not selfish..they know how woman's body works...

I have to agree with you 100%. As they say it takes 2 to tango. The best times are had when both punter and SP are fully engaged in the session.

Unfortunately some punters are of the opinion that once their contribution to making the session enjoyable to both, stops once they have paid.

In my humble opinion, as with anything else in life. The more you give the more you get.

The review in question if anyone is interested:

www.esa.co.za/forum/thread.php

The big pull that a highly rated lady has is that she's been around for years.

At this point, she's either genuinely into this line of work or has made peace with the fact that this is her best way of making a living.

Either way, she's all in. So, at worst you'll get okay services but the chances of paying school fees are almost zero.

New girls are fun. But majority of them are not professionals. They don't have the stomach yet for this job. So it's hit or miss with them.

It is largely due to the business models the SPs use.

Some SPs advertise as MGs so as to make money from offering "extras" to the "right clients".

It makes what should have been a routine punt quite expensive and messes up the chemistry as you arrive expecting a body slide & tug to then realise she does "extras" (discussed 5-10 mins towards end of session).

I have been in this situation and declined not because I did not have the money but because you will be paying the extra R1k+ for 10mins worth. If you have already paid the base R600-800 for a massage that means the punts ends up R1.8k/hour with definitely a very rushed FH to end a massage. You then leave feeling robbed and overall reflects badly on the SP's service as she looks like she simply took you for a ride.

I once had an SP destroy it totally with the proverbial "Please cum, we are out of time". Although she was highly rated and her massaging skills were great I never returned as the experience left an overall bad taste.

On 2026-01-14 22:09:29 Bonganelovejoy said:
I just read a review and the punter essentially said:

"I don't know how many times I've seen punters over-hype a lady with astonishing reviews only to get there and feel hoodwinked or underwhelmed."

It got me to think about my past experiences. In the past I've visited highly reviewed, highly recommended and highly praised ladies and I'd leave SOME of the session feeling underwhelmed. This was obviously because my expectations were over the roof because of the multiple glowing reviews.

Over the years I've learnt to lower my expectations because we all won't experience the lady the same. Heck, I still get shocked when I read a negative review about a lady that treats me like a king but it happens.

Fellow punters don't have expectations that are over the moon, especially if it's your first time meeting the lady (lol even if she has +1000 points and over 1000 positive reviews). And if you're not fully sold on the person when you meet them, just make a short booking and if it goes well, you can come back for more.

Yep...totally understand. This has happened to me a lot of times.

I have learnt that our experiences will never be the same.

It is also human nature to have unfair bias so this can also be a contributing factor....or you 2 simply didn't click.

I have also been with ladies where the reviews were so so and I was personally blown away.

That is the nature of this business. Pick your L and move.

I've had experiences where a lady is massively hyped through reviews, and when I finally meet her, the session feels overwhelming - because she's really great at what she does, and my expectations were also unrealistically high, but she has taken me to another level altogether. However, I do agree a lot with what you're saying Bongani, sometimes you walk in expecting fireworks, perfection, and instant chemistry and anything can feel like a letdown.

Over the years, I've learned to dial those expectations right down. We all connect differently, and no 2 punters will experience the same lady in the same way. Similarly I've also been surprised to read negative reviews about ladies who've treated me exceptionally well, which really highlights how subjective this all is.

For 1st-time bookings, I think your advice is spot on: don't go in with expectations through the roof. If it clicks, you can always return and build from there. In my experience, repeat visits often lead to much better sessions once both sides are comfortable and know what each other likes.

It's also worth remembering that SP's are human. They have off days, personal issues, and health concerns like anyone else, yet they're still expected to deliver. Regulars often benefit from that familiarity and understanding, which naturally leads to a better experience. At the end of the day, hype should be taken with a grain of salt - managing expectations makes for far more satisfying customers.