Go out there with a clear conscience knowing you not doing anything wrong.when you get home make the best of it because tomorrow you going to repeat the cycle.

Im happily married, or so it might seem if I think hard about it.

My wife was my first and Ive never been with any other woman untill I recently had my first punt.

I cant exactly figure out why I decided to join the forum and try punting. I think it might be a couple of things that led to it.

The feeling of missing out on what other women can offer which I choose not to experience in my younger days due to my morals and religion.

Ive always like a certain type of woman even in my younger days but never acted on those feelings, my recent punt was with this exact type of woman I imagined. But being my first punt I can barely remember the event due to the nerves of meeting a strange woman for the first time and getting intimate with her.

I also work out of the country and is very rarely in SA, my wife offers me everything I could imagine in the bedroom but it still somehow feels like something is missing. I think I might be seeking this mysterious something and not even know what it is myself.

My wife has a high libido and sometimes I just want to have sex and enjoy it for myself and be done where as my wife wants an long intimate connection which can end up being hours. I think a punt for me is a release where I can have my quick fun and still have that short quick intimacy but afterwards is done and we both go our ways.

I feel for me and my wife to continue to have a happy marriage, I need to give myself this type of relief as I dont burden my wife with my emotional problems, stress from work or even my issues I might face. I always keep a happy face, keep her cheerfull, give her all that I can, never complain about the unhapiness she might cause me but by doing this I have never been able to fully express myself. Perhaps punting is just another emotional lie I am hiding from her as well?

On 2024-07-03 23:18:33 Need4Passion said:
On 2024-07-03 07:50:10 J_J said: Men tend to complain about their wives not satisfying their needs. But they also regularly complain, on this forum, about sex workers not satisfying their needs.

Maybe we should check our entitlement? Punting has definitely taught me to keep myself in check? I came here desperate and horny hoping to fuck like crazy and I ended up more sensible. The world doesn't revolve around me an my wants. But when those needs align, with wife/ partner or a sex worker, heaven opens up. The rest is just life, good or bad.

Kinda sucky if you think about it like that. Imagine you not getting your needs met so you actually pay someone, YOU PAY someone to meet those needs and still don't get it met.

Nah, I can't wait for alignment. Might as well take to side to dinner and try to align than pay and pray for alignment. You pay an SP to align to and meet your needs in every industry including this one. Imagine paying my dentist and hoping he's in the mood to extract my tooth today or a gardener in the hopes that he mows the lawn if he feels like it. Nope, they're getting paid by me to do the job I hired them to do. If I'm paying, that payment is damn well being made to revolve around me.

N4P

I think you missed the point I was making N4P. 'Sucky' is expecting perfection from humans and missing life in turn. So you go to the dentist, and he just had a garlic polony sandwich before his in your face pulling your tooth. Its gonna be an unpleasant dentist appointment, your tooth will get pulled, but are you gonna go on a rant on the dentist forum. Your gardener mows the lawn and accidentally busts one of the sprinklers. What you gonna do. Fire him on the spot, even though his been with you for ages. Are you gonna shit on him and make him feel less than human because he broke a piece of plastic and spilled some water?

On 2024-07-02 12:40:18 Tacotom said:
On 2024-07-02 11:51:28 irondick-2024-07 said: Curious to understand how the married men on this site grapple with the "morality". I mean, we are all generally happy at home, but lack that sexual fire sometimes.

Thoughts?

You are obviously talking about the morality taught by various religions, which often have double standards.

Who is to say if sex is moral or immoral? Is it not the most natural thing in the world?

So what is the difference if we pay?

Is it worse to visit a SP in a country where sex work is illegal or in a country where it is legal or decriminilised?

religion & criminality debate aside, if you do it in secret or would hurt your partner's trust/feelings it is by definition "wrong" (immoral if you want)

Awesome topic. Got a few married friends who just can't express themselves and their fantasies even after discussing with their wives trying to persuade them to allow their fantasies,their partners fantasies happen. But they've been saved by the purple world and other wgs,mgs who've satisfied that fantasy and freakish behaviour. It's somehow improved their married lives and once the fantasy of fetish home they've gone back to normal ordinary selves for weeks or months till it reoccurs. We are after all animals and not all of us are blessed with partners who can be open with us.

Well.

Having had a terrible last 10 years or so due to loss of a child, depression, etc etc, My wife all the sudden went form abstinence and once in 3 months vanilla 5mins get it in and finish quick, to porn star. I cant keep up lol. Quite literally.

In addition i got the go ahead for anything up to Blowjob and also keen to join for a session. Should I wish to go.

I don't know what changed but now she's out there boobies out anywhere. Will flash on command, suck on command in car or public. Lol

WE together will also explore and we have agreed that if we do swinging type things we will keep penetrative sex between us as a married couple but anything else is OK. So wine and dine and 69 mostly mff but we are considering mmff.

What has happened now is that I'm in the new weird wtf is happening situation where if I said let's to for a massage or lets go record ourselves fcking in public and post it. She's 100% on board. In fact she's the one with the ideas.

Got her one of those app controlled vibratory toys. So i can have fun or give it to someone to mess around with her. Lol

Here's the weird part

Now that i have the right to go to a WG, I rather wanna buy her lingerie with the cash I would spend and go on an adventure. She however also wants an erotic massage ( from a lady) as she now wants to also experience.

The fact that I'm writing this feels almost like it's fiction.

I literally can't complain about my sex life as wife is pretty much on board as long as we share what we do and mostly do it together lol.