On 2022-07-15 09:52:41 Russian Bridgitte said:
On 2022-07-15 06:11:18 RenePhillips said: On 2022-07-15 01:39:16 Dadon1 said: Please let's be real earning average 600 to 800 Rand an hour is more than minimum wage. Its more than what Cybersecurity experts earn.
The issue is money management and putting things aside for the lean periods. Next is being truthful to yourself that your value in this industry will diminish and with that your earning potential, therefore using it as a springboard to other things.

As for the emotional cost. Not my problem because unless you were a victim of trafficking it was a choice. And everyone is faced with making choices everyday. Choices will cost you something.

Everyone is feeling the economic pinch. From business owners to gardeners.

Objective insights.

All granted and yes the comment from Dadon1 is objective.

But, sometimes being objective may not be relevant ...as my post says

"...Is there an understanding, an acceptance that it is no different than any other job occupied where benefits and support are to be found?...and actually might warrant deeper support and counseling?

What is it about the sex-sensual space that does not warrant support, infrastructure and understanding among one's own and those, the Punters , that revel in all that is on offer?..."

The antagonism toward this space is very real and obvious from society as well as internally among the SP's .

Why?

Derailing any real effort of educating, setting up and supporting possible infrastructures to help whenever legitimately required by those within the industry.


Again...question...what is it that one needs to look at or ask and, taking off those rose tinted glasses be honest about and address.


RB.

P.S I still need to arrange my massage with you
lovely lady ... :)

On 2022-07-15 01:39:16 Dadon1 said:
Please let's be real earning average 600 to 800 Rand an hour is more than minimum wage. Its more than what Cybersecurity experts earn.
The issue is money management and putting things aside for the lean periods. Next is being truthful to yourself that your value in this industry will diminish and with that your earning potential, therefore using it as a springboard to other things.

As for the emotional cost. Not my problem because unless you were a victim of trafficking it was a choice. And everyone is faced with making choices everyday. Choices will cost you something.

Everyone is feeling the economic pinch. From business owners to gardeners.

Darling darling.... Girls are not booked every hour so get that out your head. They may see 3 then nothing for 3 days then 1... So please don't think the girls are killing it daily. Your body can only take so much and your brain works overtime as it's not always safe and every guy is a stranger.

R B

I had to sit down and carefully write my reply on this one...

I really want to tell the TRUTH about this year in June.

People have discouraged me to do so and I am still in two minds.

I did consider quitting the purple world.

I am still here. Just much quieter.

I wish I could open up and reveal the harm that was done to me so unjustly.

I made a mistake in this purple world. A mistake that will cost me a year in my life.

A year in the people I care about lives.

I doubt my own sanity now.

I should have trusted my instincts.
This whole situation could have been avoided. I was greedy. I wanted to do too much too fast. I listened to the wrong person. I blame myself. I have to forgive myself. Pick myself up, find the belief in myself, find the strength, sort out the mess that resulted and build up again in order to take care of those that I care about and that I am fighting so hard for.

Every person that is in my personal life knows that there is very little I wouldn't do for those I care about.

Those that know me personally are handling me with gloves. Wrapping me in cottonwool knowing just how incredibly fragile I am in this moment. They battle to hug and hold me as I am terrified that the walls may come down completely and so I withdraw and am mostly unable to let them touch me.

I am grateful for my sister (ad active) that I have shared every painful step of our life journey together.

My security guard who keeps a very watchful eye over us and looks after all of us. He might be young physically but he keeps us together and helps us with anything and everything we ask.

I am managing my peanut butter addiction. The fear is there...that I will fail, that I will not achieve what I set out to do. I am not speaking much. I try and find joy in the little things atm.

I am grateful to the regular clients that realized something is terribly wrong and sends me little messages to keep me motivated.

It is not easy living in the purple world. You cannot share your difficulties or joys in this world with the people in your personal life. You become immersed in this world and cut off from the world outside. This becomes your world.
It blends in your mind and your psyche and your body.

I give so much of myself. Every client I see I consider as someone who is asking to be loved, taken care of and desired in some way.

I provide comfort, love and joy to these strangers in my arms yet I am unable to open up to them as well.

Being a courtesan is exactly that. You love many and are loved by only a few.

I will fight alongside those for the legislation of sex workers in South Africa. I am brave and cheeky enough to go on TV. I am slowly writing a book. Making notes as I travel this journey.

Society judges and condemns. They are uneducated. We have very little support. Even among the SP's there is competition and vindication. Judgement and condemnation. SP's are abused and taken advantage of by others.

The REAL punters out there is what keeps us standing through the tough times. The ones who sees our hearts and our souls. Not just objects but people. Humans that needs taking care of and love too.

Those are the ones I love. The ones who spoils me with little things. The things I wouldn't do for myself. The treats and gifts I didn't even ask for. The little messages and songs that made them think of me.

When they walk through the door I am TRULY happy to see them. I adore them.

Maybe I revealed too much of myself here. I apologize if I did and it offended you in any way. That is not my intention.

I am sharing my truth as it is today.

Sweet kisses
Little Miss C

Dearest balasbak.

Looking fwd to that longtime in the making massage as per ur request on my return home.

x!

Miss Beautiful BB Gabby

The perception / misconception is quite "skewered" with regard to many things in the sexy sensual space.

Thank u for commenting.

Input always appreciated.

:)

Its not easy being on these purple pages. But I have found my voice here. It permeated into my personal space. A relative told me I have grown cold. No I now stand up for myself. Every now and then I just need to take a few hours timeout and be there for me, only me. I had to learn to turn away guys whose energy doesn't sit well with mine, even if I am broke because the effect on my mind/soul is something money cannot appease. I am not gonna starve by turning down someone or a service I don't feel comfortable with. The only way I stay sane is by being very selective about who I see and that doesn't mean selective in terms of guys who are affluent or not. I am very tuned in to people's vibes and if something's feels off, I rather say no thank you. I will go batshit crazy otherwise.

Dearest Caroline.

If I may...

Yours is one of those I have followed, that hint. the need to share, let go and be able to move on.

Sometime back it was commented that the forum is not an "agony aunt" space but, sometimes that acknowledgement and support, feeling that one has been seen goes a far way and lends itself to healing and understanding.

It also educates interested parties on things one might not have considered.

Maybe, just maybe someone might give direction or advise as to where next and how to try move fwd.

Of course there is a time and place for everything.

And my gut tells me now, more than ever, is the time to be kinder toward each other and learn the true meaning of being supportive .

One reads comments that most probably go above the head of most , a tiny plead for help be it advise, help in fixing something, professional services required...it reveals the need of some sort...I wonder how many see it for what it is.

But.

Yes...the fuckery (have to put it bluntly) continues...that is the reality and much good fun can be found in such a space...as long as we don't forget to be human in our behaviour toward each other.


All my strength and sincere care, I send u.

Me.

On 2022-07-15 15:12:39 Bbw Nadia said:
Its not easy being on these purple pages. But I have found my voice here. It permeated into my personal space. A relative told me I have grown cold. No I now stand up for myself. Every now and then I just need to take a few hours timeout and be there for me, only me. I had to learn to turn away guys whose energy doesn't sit well with mine, even if I am broke because the effect on my mind/soul is something money cannot appease. I am not gonna starve by turning down someone or a service I don't feel comfortable with. The only way I stay sane is by being very selective about who I see and that doesn't mean selective in terms of guys who are affluent or not. I am very tuned in to people's vibes and if something's feels off, I rather say no thank you. I will go batshit crazy otherwise.

Dear dearest Nadia.

Thank u for always giving us a look into your space and how one can possibly apply ur experience in one's own space.

STRENGTH!!!

I have mentioned before that one must not forget there are many more readers than those who comment on the forum.

Some messages i receive i ask if i may quote and post to forum.

Many say no and then luckily, in this case i was given the go ahead.


Thank u for your communication and I do hope u shall be "reborn" even if it may be ".....v2.1"


Quoted "...The physical demand, mental demand, emotional demand is what one may actually realise until deep in the grips of time spent in the sex-sensual space...."

Partaking in this industry definitely has a toll both physically and mentally. Hence why some resort to substance abuse to cope. Money might be better than us average working folks, but like anything there is a price to pay. We in corporate deal with lazy co workers and picking up their slack and dick head of departments.

Even I as a male, have preferences regardless of race there are certain triggers that attract me to women ie strong shaped legs and calves, booty for the black women etc. Now image if I had to sleep with those that I am not attracted to physically just to put a roof and a meal on the table? Nuh its soul destroying even my cock wont even get up. Add to that the ones that don't bath and groom properly, the ones that are rude and abusive man I really feel for yal.

Whether a person enters this industry voluntarily or through trafficking the toll is some what similar. Diff one has a physical pimp and one has an invisible tacit pimp hehehe.

On the positive yal play a vital part in the eco system because us men are polygamous by nature just to be blunt and wives cannot cater to some of our kinks and fetishes.

Regards, Retired Punter 8 years deep.

On 2022-07-15 01:39:16 Dadon1 said:
Please let's be real earning average 600 to 800 Rand an hour is more than minimum wage. Its more than what Cybersecurity experts earn.

;-) Just on the financial side- remember that the minimum wage applies topp people in specific occupation groups, working a specific number of pre-derermined hours.
Where is the girl who is working a full 8 hour, 5 day working week (while some works over the weekend as well. There is a difference between being available an earning.