I prefer punting over dating every day of the week en twice on a Sunday. If you think it is silly to connect monetary value to a relationship and all the intrinsic benefits, wait till you get divorced. That will fuck you up. Then the lawyers monetize things such as ironing your clothes and making you meals. For the money I gave away to my ex-wife after the marriage, I could have punted every single day for the rest of my life. And I did try and date. It is a shit show. Yes, pussy is free. But is it really? After a while your name gets known and the freebies dries up. You are only a catch if there is a reasonable chance one of these chicks can get a ring out of you. When they figure out you want to play the field, free pussy is over. I watch rugby when I want, I drink when I want, I eat what I want and when I want to fuck I just pay and get on with my life.

On 2026-07-10 11:53:14 voete2006 said:
I prefer punting over dating every day of the week en twice on a Sunday. If you think it is silly to connect monetary value to a relationship and all the intrinsic benefits, wait till you get divorced. That will fuck you up. Then the lawyers monetize things such as ironing your clothes and making you meals. For the money I gave away to my ex-wife after the marriage, I could have punted every single day for the rest of my life. And I did try and date. It is a shit show. Yes, pussy is free. But is it really? After a while your name gets known and the freebies dries up. You are only a catch if there is a reasonable chance one of these chicks can get a ring out of you. When they figure out you want to play the field, free pussy is over. I watch rugby when I want, I drink when I want, I eat what I want and when I want to fuck I just pay and get on with my life.

That's why he didn't mention marriage. Considering we're here, we probably can all agree that marriage is a stupid and costly idea for a guy, especially if all you gonna measure it by is sex.

JP69

Are the objectives not different? Would dating for sole purpose of "cheap sex" not be, dishonest in your intent? Not saying people dont hook up casually (both parties in agreement) for sexual pleasure, but does dating not have an objective which is more than just sex? Or am I just old and out of touch with what happens today ...

I went through something similar. Here's my take after coming out the other side.

Punting, at its best, is to just live out fantasies and indulge in some of your kinks. Occasionally book that one SP you have chemistry with for a marathon fuck-session.

Sometimes just being spoiled by a MG is worth it. Sometimes you just want to bang a Thai that can barely speak English. Sometimes you just want to blow your load in someone's mouth.

Punting just to release some tension because you don't have anyone to call usually leads to you punting more than you should and that leads to more post-nut clarity in my experience.

After a certain point, you just become numb to sex and punting becomes boring.

Maybe you need to go through that phase to gain a new perspective.

I enjoy both.
Must have clear objectives of each.You date to enjoy someones company and do amazing fun things as a couple.The free sex is a bonus.

As previous comments.... Punting brings out that inner dark side of u :-)

Different strokes for different folks is all.

Sometimes the price of dating is too expensive for people who are ultra independent. Punting probably suits these types well.

Others do well with enmeshment instead. They need to breath someone else's air, be needed and need.

Most of us are in the spectrum inbetween. I don't believe anyone is wrong. You just need to understand where you sit, what your needs are and unapologetically align your life to it.

No one else can tell you that you're living your life wrong if it feels right to you.

On 2026-07-11 11:10:06 J_J said:
Are the objectives not different? Would dating for sole purpose of "cheap sex" not be, dishonest in your intent? Not saying people dont hook up casually (both parties in agreement) for sexual pleasure, but does dating not have an objective which is more than just sex? Or am I just old and out of touch with what happens today ...

Depends if you're male or female. Traditionally, women in the past with date with the intent of marriage

Now most women date for free food, drinks, gifts, validation and money and in use sex and sexuality as a tool to extract those resources via dating.

Most men just want to fuck that chick, without even having to go on a date but have to go through the process of dating and probably parting with those resources to get there.

Sometimes, people find there's more to each other and end up in a relationship or marriage.

JP69

Great takes, thanks for the engagement.

I see that some people seem deluded from the expensive experience of relationships and casual dating/sneaky links of today and I won't shy away from that point. Social media and exposure has lead to it.

In most cases being in a relationship or something casual often results in the woman calling and asking for a favor. The courting stage also requires some financial backing of going on dates and all that stuff.

Most women today are all looking for that 5% unicorn man (rich, spoils them, good looking, faithful), which is why some are happy to be side chicks for years to married men.

Sometimes you meet a career driven woman who seems to be doing well but only to find she's the same - looking for the 5% unicorn man. Unfortunately for them, these men have no incentive to just be with them only, because most women want them.


So it seems to me that protecting my peace and only using my money for an occasional nut with a fulfilled fetish/kink could work.
This until I someone on the exact same page as me pops up.

From my experience most women are selling pussy, just talking to some women at braais and chills has also shown me this, they say it without saying it.

So it's actually cheaper to punt and get exactly what and who you want than to go on dinners/drinks or do financial favors for someone just because they're having sex with you and they tell you they love you.

On 2026-07-08 14:08:23 Loves-HerGapedHoles said:
Those I want I don't get to be with, those that want me don't really cut it for me.

I'm still curious what you mean by this.

On 2026-07-17 00:07:00 Littlerascal said:
On 2026-07-08 14:08:23 Loves-HerGapedHoles said: Those I want I don't get to be with, those that want me don't really cut it for me.

I'm still curious what you mean by this.

Exactly what you said before. Everyone wants more than they can offer. 2's and 4's want 8' and 10's on both sides but 8's and 10's don't want 2's and 4's leaving them all feeling like this. People now think their standard is their worth.

Kinda like saying "I want a mansion. I deserve a mansion. I'm worth a mansion". Meanwhile that's their standard, expectation and desire, not their worth. Meanwhile they only have enough money to buy a studio apartment. That is the value they have/bring. That is their actual worth.

This is the delusion of the current world where everyone thinks they deserve and are worth more than they can actually bring and get disappointed when they don't get what they want.

JP69