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Can't punt as Im Bed Bound for a few weeks Post Op.
Looking at 4 walls and starring at the ceiling leaves the mind to wonder much much much more. Thank Goodness For Painkillers which have a side effect of deep sleep I guess.
Being a single dad and a survivor of divorce due to infedility leaves me analysing almost every relationship I see either in real life or social media.
I Have Some Ques For The Purple World Today:
1.) Are people truly and genuinely happy these days?
2.) Is there such a thing as True Love? Or Love After Divorce?
3.) Does it get more lonely as the years go by? Ultimately the small ones do leave the nest some day.
How does one cope with such?
4.) Is there such a thing as Karma for the ones who ruined a family?
Are there any other single dads out there who have to play dual roles?
Depending how old you are, once you get to retirement the loneliness will be unbearable. Your predicament now is just a taste of things to come.
I hope that you recover soon.
On 2023-12-27 09:33:27 Arhwen said:
You can never be lonely if you love the person you are alone with. Happiness is a inside job.
Absolutely true.
Also you can be with someone yet be utterly alone.
Edited: 2023-12-27 10:38:03
Being a single parent is not an easy task. And I think comes easier to women in general than men. It takes huge shoulders, resourcefulness, an abundance of sacrifice (make peace with it) and a totally different outlook and approach going fwd. I am sure many shall give you advise as to what is best.
It is good to listen as it may help you put things into perspective and I am sure you will be able to sift through the "shit" and the "help".
The infidelity must be painful on its own and an issue to be dealt with without dwelling too much on it for the wrong reasons.
It seems it is a fresh wound and still needs to be processed. Even if not, the scars do leave a ripple effect on one going fwd and being cynical about many things between woman and man.
Just to remember no woman or man is the same and, what one woman may bring out in you another might not. ...good or bad. Thus don't paint every woman with the same brush .
Time does its thing. It either heals or makes one more cynical and thus feeling a deeper loneliness.
In general there is that lonely feeling in societies, simply because of the world we live in at present. Many feeling alienated from self and are asking those personal deep questions ....which multiplies your struggle at present and anybody else's too .
Find your feet again.
It will not be easy.
It will feel as if the world is falling apart especially coming out of a relationship that has left you questioning many things...especially relationships.
Make use of EVERY positive resource at your disposal from friends (supportive sort and not the ones waiting to verbally bash your ex), family, change of infrastructure as to nannies, transport etc.
Focus on your life. And once you know your life, boundaries, new values and anything that comes your way then, only then think of partnerships and the like.
Will that help with the loneliness? We all feel lonely at some time or other in our lives. It is a human trait .
What one must not do is make it ones "friend ".
Sometimes putting oneself out there may be the hardest thing but, the effort is worthwhile. Someone else's smile does know to leave a smile on one's face and a positive gait in one's step....if nothing else, and that is how it starts.
May 2024 bring clarity and treat you with kid gloves and shower your with strength immeasurable.
As to happiness.. yes there is happiness but I think we have inflated it into something unrealistic as we have done with "what is love" and then think it does not exist.
We ask too much of happiness and love because we are so far removed from self and thus question it even if it slapped us in the face.
Quick physical recovery I wish you.
RB
On 2023-12-27 09:33:27 Arhwen said:
You can never be lonely if you love the person you are alone with. Happiness is a inside job.
Truer words have never been spoken.
Have yourself a Bells Arhwen!
On 2023-12-27 11:07:40 TheMuff said:
On 2023-12-27 09:33:27 Arhwen said: You can never be lonely if you love the person you are alone with. Happiness is a inside job.
Truer words have never been spoken.
Have yourself a Bells Arhwen!
Thank you care to have one with me ;)
On 2023-12-27 09:15:14 YourChunkyFunkiness said:
I can say that the loneliness will eventually get to you.
Depending how old you are, once you get to retirement the loneliness will be unbearable. Your predicament now is just a taste of things to come.
I hope that you recover soon.
Jeez! Are you trying to get the guy to off himself?
On 2023-12-27 09:08:34 Modestlover said:
I Have Some Ques For The Purple World Today:
1.) Are people truly and genuinely happy these days?
No - they are not. Masks is a real thing.
2.) Is there such a thing as True Love? Or Love After Divorce?
No there isn't (in my opinion) - you view everything with suspicion.
3.) Does it get more lonely as the years go by? Ultimately the small ones do leave the nest some day.
How does one cope with such?
Yes - it gets more lonely.
How do you cope - you put on a mask and entertain the whole fucking world.
4.) Is there such a thing as Karma for the ones who ruined a family?
Nope - they are happy and don't know how to spell Karma.
Are there any other single dads out there who have to play dual roles?
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