So far I only got caught watching porn. Wife was out for dinner with a friend. I was doing my thing in the bedroom and then realized kids need to be fed, so adjourned activities.

Went downstairs, cooked some food, fed the kids and the dogs, washed the dishes and forgot about previous activities. Unfortunately, and carelessly left the laptop open. Wife came home while I was cleaning the kitchen. At that stage impressed by how well she trained her husband, but that didn't last long, as she was very disappointed when she went up to the bedroom.

On almost being caught. I have a bad habit of keeping receipts, including deposit slips when making an advance deposit at an ATM for services. I once found a slip on the dressing table, intertwined with other slips from other purchases made on the day. Someone obviously took it out of my pants when doing the washing. Given that I wasn't asked to explain, I can only assume she didn't look at what the slips were for. Now I just throw it away immediately. If I get into a dispute with a SP over money I'd rather loose the money (and the SP) than the wife.

On 2023-11-16 09:49:25 J_J said:
At that stage impressed by how well she trained her husband, but that didn't last long, as she was very disappointed when she went up to the bedroom.

Imagine the dismay! Hahaha sorry :))))

Many times caught with porn. Dont think wife likes me watching, but not a big deal either.

On 2023-11-16 09:49:25 J_J said:
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Went downstairs, cooked some food, fed the kids and the dogs, washed the dishes...

Wife came home while I was cleaning the kitchen. At that stage impressed by how well she trained her husband, but that didn't last long...

Off topic but I remember the time doing all the that while the wife went out with friends. Just before divorce. Just saying.

Losing yourself and letting the wife wear the pants may sound fairytale and what society "says" it right and good but it's a recipe for disaster. Never again!

To put it in perspective, the ex's desire was waning. I started doing everything, all that, whatever she asked and more to make it better but it only made it worse because she just wanted more, basically for me to do and pay for every single while she just lived large and went out for suppers and parties with her friends. Now back story is the first 5 years I did whatever I wanted, she just tagged along and enjoyed the benefits and she of a better life I lived while she did all the traditional wife things like all the cooking, cleaning organising and life was great. With the ring and a child, I lost myself and gave her authority and started doing all the things her friends husbands were doing and what society made sound right. The more I conformed, the more I lost her.

Skip to today! I got trophy perfect 10 girlfriend, body and looks, great sex everyday for hours. So the natural instinct was I wanna keep her and do everything to make her happy, cook one in a while, help with house work etc. Then the requests started. How about doing more? How about cooking twice a week and working towards 50/50 since her father used to do most of the cooking and cleaning etcvsnd that's what she knows. At first I tried but the requests got more. See the pattern. However, it didn't take me long to get my head right and realise that I was gonna lose myself again. I decided I didn't want to do or become that person. I mean my father never touched the stove a day in his life to date for nearly 70 years and has a collection of chicks my age seeing to him. Fuck that shit, I got back in my masculine frame and I was willing to rather lose her than lose myself again so I told her "It's not who I am. I don't want to do that shit so if that's what she wants, I'm not the man for her, nor do I want to be or try to be that man. She's free to go find that man but I won't try to be him." Her response after insisting/asking for that and wholeheartedly believing that's how it should be? It's fine, you don't have do any of that and we'll make it work. Now things are even better than when it started. HER love and attention and investment is even stronger/more and she's even pushing for marriage which is something we both agreed we didn't want from the start.

Sorry for the long story but there's a lesson in there for all married men that hopefully will make or keep your relationships strong and you happy.

N4P

@N4P
Then i am on the right track. The missus often complains i do to little around the house! :-)

On 2023-11-16 15:30:04 Vrik said:
@N4P
Then i am on the right track. The missus often complains i do to little around the house! :-)

Sounds like it but if she's still complaining, do less. Show her what's it like without even having the little that you do ;-)

N4P

@N4P, I think it's a balance. Don't do so much that it's not appreciated anymore or it's just expected. You don't want to take the excitement out of it when you cook dinner. Also don't do nothing, I know many women that have started affairs because their husbands don't lift a finger around the house, and now some random guy off the internet is banging the wife because he is a lazy bum. Women do appreciate the effort men put in. But agree, don't become the mop around the house and in the same token also don't let her become the mop.

Back to the topic, had an argument about something with the ex, she decided to go through my phone and I forgot to close ESA on the browser. She shouted: "don't those women have diseases?!". I just played it cool and said I read an article in a men's magazine about escorts so I googled escorts South Africa out of curiosity and the website came up. She believed me and we went back to arguing whatever it is we were arguing about.

On 2023-11-16 15:57:10 JHB22 said:
Back to the topic, had an argument about something with the ex, she decided to go through my phone and I forgot to close ESA on the browser. She shouted: "don't those women have diseases?!". I just played it cool and said I read an article in a men's magazine about escorts so I googled escorts South Africa out of curiosity and the website came up. She believed me and we went back to arguing whatever it is we were arguing about.

Lies!!!!!! U got caught. The whores described ur two color toned cock to her. Smelly breath. Could be std symptoms???

I got caught many times
I snuck out the house last night only to find the wife sitting straight up at 1 30 am
Where did you go? For a drive i repied ... at this time?
I couldn't sleep?
R u having an affair or what?
How can you think that of me ???
This morning all was forgotten