On 2022-08-08 15:28:17 Petite Maya said:
Aww sweetie, it always confuses me as to how guys would be willing to spend thousands of rands on us in the business, but its always that ONE person in our private life we don't want a price tag from that gives us abit of a head pain lol.


My opinion talk to him about it. There are many guys out here that will charm you just to get a "free treatment" it happens all the time to me, flirty flirty just to get more without paying lol. So take it in a positive light that he isn't "paying you" he rather is gifting you, he wants to spoil you still. He could be trying to make a move in a more romantic way, rather than "just doing the deed"

I feel you bcz we both are strong and independent woman, but at times you need to let your guard down and allow him to spoil you. Men naturally are providers / leaders and i think he just wants to spoil you. Be vulnerable and soft in the most beautiful way around him and you'll see...lol ;-)

Enjoy it my darling remember a Prada dress never broke anyones heart before ;-)

Thank you for your beautiful words of encouragement, we're more than likely going to talk about this tonight xxx
He explained that he just wanted to gift me so I can spoil my kids more, but I was too hard headed to see it

On 2022-08-08 15:02:39 [email protected] said:
Sorry Sabrina....
The Man sounds insecure... He feels he could possibly end up liking you and therefore pays you to make himself feel better.

I don't think that's fair to say. I agree with (Petite) Maya

Yep been there, dinner, dancing a bit of fun, only to get a message detailing how much time was spent and how much I owed. I paid and promised to never put myself in a situation like that again. Agree a fee nothing is for free.

I feel for you because most of us will view the situation with a huge amount of caution. It sounds like you are sincere enough but its a headache we just don't want as punters. He also probably feels that it would limit his punting activities, as hard as it may seem you are probably not the only lady he is visiting.

On 2022-08-08 16:01:47 しゃくはち said:
Yep been there, dinner, dancing a bit of fun, only to get a message detailing how much time was spent and how much I owed. I paid and promised to never put myself in a situation like that again. Agree a fee nothing is for free.

I feel for you because most of us will view the situation with a huge amount of caution. It sounds like you are sincere enough but its a headache we just don't want as punters. He also probably feels that it would limit his punting activities, as hard as it may seem you are probably not the only lady he is visiting.

I'm definitely not the only one, this I know for a fact. Hypothetically I wouldn't deny him the pleasure, just like I would not necessarily quit the industry.

My Advice.
This can only end up in tears. Been there .

I can understand where you are at Sabrina. I have gone through this myself, it can work.

Initially I thought it was just a compliment to floor me as a client so I could keep coming back but I realised the SP was sincere she enjoyed my company, she would love to see me outside of "business hrs". I still saw her at "her work".

Just make sure you agree 100% on the terms of reference for the "outside of business environment" thing so no one feels used, rejected or taken advantage of, a small misunderstanding and you easily feel like that.

You need a lot of trust & transparency about what's really going on from BOTH sides - know each's actual real lives (you initially were a fantasy), agree on limits of depth of feelings by building a practical connection switch / when it can be turned on/off, when to call etc.

Most importantly, the "work sex" ends up very different because there is now an emotional connection, after he leaves you are a WG. You both unconditionally need to accept that dimension of your life.

Open up to him, then go have fun & best of luck.

Minime is a complicated guy, not sure why he is paying and playing the fool with Sab

This guy has now been put into an uncomfortable situation. It is clear that he is/was setting a boundary and that should have been respected, not pushed - "how dare he?" "Why?". Now he probably feels bad and is going to relax things a bit when that is not what he wants.

My advice:-
If you not prepared to leave the industry for him don't waste he's and your time and emotions. Right now I am so heartsore fell in love with a girl and we stuck in no man's lane both with guilt regret and disappointment.

On 2022-08-08 16:45:17 shoeguy said:
Minime is a complicated guy, not sure why he is paying and playing the fool with Sab

Come on now, be serious. That's very funny!