On 2022-03-24 20:37:09 Pomi said:
Then perhaps the better question is how much $$$ would make you walk away to never return in this industry? What's the figure that would never make you worry about bills for the rest of your life
I don't even need much to walk away... If all my bills can be paid for about 4 to 6 months then I would be sorted, it would be enough to Kickstart me into another industry... nd I don't think if I mention a figure I would stick to it, but I would be fine if I would get in the industry that I wanna be in.
On 2022-03-24 20:55:56 JHB22 said:
Yes, there are ways and means around things, but it's just so much tougher to deal with banks, rental agencies, etc in this line of work. It's much easier with a normal job, you don't have to set up a company, or get fake payslips like some girls do, etc.
Its not tough in this day and age... With a 6month bank statement and a constant income in ur bank acc u can get rental in ur name and a tiny bit of credit, which is better than nothing.
On 2022-03-24 20:55:56 JHB22 said:
On 2022-03-24 20:51:07 Russian Bridgitte said: Dear JHB22
I never understand why one cannot get proper credit or proper paperwork for rentals or or or..
I have most of my life been a sole proprietor with a registered company and contracted .
Nothing has changed walking into this space and i do not see why it should.
There are many more positive liberties at ones disposal and can be put to good use....as long as one deposits consistent "earnings" in ones "business" bank account as opposed to ones "personal" bank account.
Need to add...this is another discussion on its own and would warrant an in depth debate .
RB.
Yes, there are ways and means around things, but it's just so much tougher to deal with banks, rental agencies, etc in this line of work. It's much easier with a normal job, you don't have to set up a company, or get fake payslips like some girls do, etc.
I absolutely agree. There is no reason any lady in this business can't have a decent credit record. I have been on my own for 20 plus years and have managed just fine with renting a house, having a credit card and access to any financial institutions offerings. The ladies just need to learn how to manage their business and finances. I offered to teach ladies this a few years ago and not many ladies were interested. My offer still stands.
Arizona
She knows what she does when it comes to service and has the years to prove she aced the rest as well.
You go girl!
Another thing I've noticed is alot (not all) wgs are reckless financially and by the time they are in their mid 40s still have not done tangible things with the money they made bar looking after their kids.
On 2022-03-24 21:55:27 Arizona said:
There is a lot I can say about this subject as I have been around the block and then some. I love what I do, but after many years of living two lives I find myself wishing for some kind of normality.
I quit this industry a few years back because I fell in love. I learned very valuable lessons.
Whilst we all have our own opinions, I can tell you from experience that Ladies do not need a Knight in Shining Armour to save us. There is an old saying "Don't give a man a fish, but rather teach him how to fish.
So Number 1, Ladies don't go expecting a man to pay your bills. And Gent's don't go offering to pay her a monthly retainer to quit the business.
The ladies here are all very independent and by offering to give her a monthly allowance you are still somehow "buying or paying her for her time" which is a kind of ownership. Rather help her find, guide and invest in a business or career where she can still retain her own financial independence rather than be a financial liability on you.
Arizona
You are a breath of fresh air! Pouring you a figurative Bells. Hit the nail on the head.
On 2022-03-24 22:05:07 Arizona said:
There is no reason any lady in this business can't have a decent credit record. I have been on my own for 20 plus years and have managed just fine with renting a house, having a credit card and access to any financial institutions offerings. The ladies just need to learn how to manage their business and finances. I offered to teach ladies this a few years ago and not many ladies were interested. My offer still stands.
Arizona
That's good to know and a great offer. By far the majority of wg's I know have nothing to show for their time in the industry. If they had to leave tomorrow they would be no better off then the day they joined. There are people that are far worse off financially like domestic workers that I know that managed to achieve a lot financially like building a house back home for their family or giving their kids an education with the little that they have, because every cent is put to use for the betterment of themselves and their family.
Unless you want to to this job for the rest of your life a portion of the earnings of every single booking should be put towards your exit plan and future (living and work necessities and other non-negotiable obligations excluded). Otherwise you are just getting stuck, day by day, booking by booking.
Edited: 2022-03-25 08:31:54
On 2022-03-14 15:18:11 Godivah The Intimacy & Relatio said:
Lets pose the question to the men instead, how do men in South Africa feel about having a marriage /relationship with Sex Worker/Ex Sex Worker and how does it affect the dynamic for example is the relationship Swinging/Polyamourous/Monogamous outcome or Slut-Shaming argument styles?
I would love to know, as would my readers.
Personally I would quite happily and easily have a relationship or marriage with a massage only girl. Ofcourse I'd like her to stop doing it once we get together and I stop punting. With a full house girl I think it would just mess with my head the whole time.
On 2022-03-14 17:06:03 Bella Pink said:
BTW,I don't know about other ppl, but for me I feel like this "job" has a way of "freezing" ppl's lives (for the lack of a better term)... Reason why I'm saying that is bcos I feel like it makes u stuck in a place where u living month-to-month, paying bills and the next thing u look up and a whole year has passed... Ofcos it doesn't have to be that way, but usually thats the case bcoz things ALWAYS come up, especially if u trying to improve urself nd ur situation...
So if I ever got the opportunity to be out I would grab it with both hands, without thinking twice about it.
Would you be open to a long-term arrangement.
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This option can also cover some of the gaps on your c.v.
If you do any charity work, you can also put that on your c.v to fill some gaps.
For the punters that say you can't marry a working girl - you have clearly not looked past the working girl persona. At the end of the day - love and respect goes a far way. If you hide her from your family, you are making her feel that she is not worthy of love. If you meet a lady of this industry, and decide to help her by offering to take her out and support her financially. Take the time to help her create goals for herself so that she may become financially independent - and teach her - from budgeting, saving towards something like a monthly retirement fund or purchasing a car or property to paying taxes.
Let her do these things on her own name.
Let her go see a therapist if she struggles on an emotional level.
Let her go to rehab if she was used to using narcotics or alcohol.
Teach her to love herself in a positive environment.
It's a long journey, especially if she has been in this industry for a while. And every single lady in this industry - is worth it.
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