Posted: 2015-11-23 23:24:25
I recently had to delete my ESA profile due to privacy issues.
I have been on ESA for over a year and had a great time punting so far.
I have been pondering whom to ask this but decided to try the forum. Most punters are cruelly honest on the forum and that is what I need.
I signed up on an online dating website about 2 years ago in the hope to find a discreet no strings attached meeting with a woman as a married man before I started punting. As it goes, nothing credible until I get an email from a woman who wants to meet. She questioned me about the choice of my nickname of my profile. When I googled my nickname, I almost had a heart attack as my ESA profile came up first with all the reviews. (I know, rookie mistake)
I had a discreet no strings attached meeting of a couple of hours which included dinner and a lot of drinks at a fancy hotel that costed more than an extended booking at HOE.
The sex was great, and as it is, I have been conditioned by punting that once you are finished the meeting is finished and that you leave. I was surprised and stunned when she told me that we can’t stop now as she has not had an orgasm yet. You don’t get that allot from a working girl.
The problem is that this girl appears to be a bit emotionally unstable. She suggested a long term arrangement. On top of it, she knows where I live and we have met before. She is an old school friend of my brother and as shocked as I was, lives in the same neighbourhood. I never punt close to home for obvious reasons.
As I drove home I had a very serious case of punter’s remorse (a word I use due to the lack of a better word for it).
My mind told me : “What the fuck did you just do, she is emotionally unstable and it is not wise to see her again, plus she probably knows that you punt”.
My gut told me : “She is too big of a risk and you are going to be exposed. What if she phones my brother or heaven forbids my wife one day”. “You don’t need a long term affair, you just need to punt”
The little man told me : “That was fun. Let’s do that again”.
I panicked and deleted my ESA profile.
The questions I have for the more seasoned, wise, experienced guys are:
I know there are married punters that have a “skelmpie” on the side. But what is the actual chance for an arrangement of a couple of years without having drama or being blackmailed?
or
Do I take up her challenge and continue to punt but less? (My budget will not allow the same amount of punting and she has already asked for a monthly allowance that will deplete my punting budget almost completely)
or
Do I end it while I can and continue to enjoy punting?
Thanks.
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