Why would someone pay you for bookings and enjoy what he paid for, but when you see him outside of work and you make it clear it's okay to make a move, he doesn't?
Then he still wants to send you money after you sent him a heartfelt message you'd like to spend more time with him and not be paid every time?
I'm so confused.
I know you're going to read this, and it's fine... if I wanted to talk to you about it in depth, I would be. I'm just asking other opinions because I'm feeling heavily disappointed and don't know how to process these emotions.
There might be a lot of negative comments, but I can handle it. I look forward to the insightful ones.

Isnt he married, or in a relationship? Maybe he just dont have more time available? Cant think of any orher logical reason.

On 2022-08-08 09:27:24 Minime V10.1 said:
Isnt he married, or in a relationship? Maybe he just dont have more time available? Cant think of any orher logical reason.

The issue isn't regarding the free time he may or may not have, but the constant rejection from his side. Though he's paid me for fun at work before?

On 2022-08-08 09:20:58 Sabrina @ Le Belle said:
Why would someone pay you for bookings and enjoy what he paid for, but when you see him outside of work and you make it clear it's okay to make a move, he doesn't?
Then he still wants to send you money after you sent him a heartfelt message you'd like to spend more time with him and not be paid every time?
I'm so confused.
I know you're going to read this, and it's fine... if I wanted to talk to you about it in depth, I would be. I'm just asking other opinions because I'm feeling heavily disappointed and don't know how to process these emotions.
There might be a lot of negative comments, but I can handle it. I look forward to the insightful ones.

It seems that you are heart broken, and I'm sorry this is happening to you. Stay strong. Alot of men are purely transactional
Don't let this consume you..
Light and blessings

On 2022-08-08 09:32:30 Sabrina @ Le Belle said:
On 2022-08-08 09:27:24 Minime V10.1 said: Isnt he married, or in a relationship? Maybe he just dont have more time available? Cant think of any orher logical reason.

The issue isn't regarding the free time he may or may not have, but the constant rejection from his side. Though he's paid me for fun at work before?

Hi Sabrina don't mean to be insensitive but maybe all he is looking for currently is fun... Maybe he doesn't want the relationship drama... Maybe he doesn't know if he could handle dating a girl in the industry? Just a few thoughts. Wish you all the best though!

You may or may not like what I have to say...but gonna say it anyway...

Most men do not pay us for the sex but for the option of it being transactional and unattached...as a guy not long ago said on forum.. "I pay SPs to leave".

If they wanted the emotional baggage that usualy comes with fucking a women they would be out dating and not paying SPs.

Falling for a guy/lady and the feeling being reciprocated..is very hurtful..hope that you do find a way to work through it without putting your own emotional well-being at risk.

Personally it will only make sense to sit down and show (said person) how you feel. It will clear the air and you will know what the future holds. Wish it was me, not all men are transactional. (Had the same thing happen with a sw, and it didn't work, just because you had one failure does not mean you are, keep trying you will get the prince you need)

Send a text and take it from there. Wishing you the best.

There has been no fun outside of work, but he feels the need to pay me? I told him to keep the money

@Sabrina maybe he enjoys the fact that he feels empowered by paying you? Your work will make it difficult to have relationships, i know we dont always see eye to eye but i do wish you love and happiness.

Thank every single one of you for your input.
I understand what you guys are saying, and I would've accepted the 'transaction' had I not mentioned to him I don't want payment every time. I saw him without expecting anything other than the time spent together as two human beings, and he threw it in my face.