As you can see I don't post a lot but have been a member for a while. I am creature of habit and normally stick to 1 girl until the time as come to make a change. Normally it's becuase the girl is leaving the industry. For some time now I can see regular WG I am visiting is get worse and worse. There might be many factors and I can only imagine the heavy toll this industry can have on a person and for the first time I am worried. When look at someone and see the pain, sadness and cry for help behind the smile. When some WG have to be strong for themselves and families but in the end they loose themselves. In this case I can see the WG I am visiting is so "high" on so something that you see glimpse of the old person.This is not the first time and is going on for long time now. The lies they keep telling you thinking you won't notice. Bringing it up only makes it worse. Telling the WG that there service is not what it used to be, creates a very uncomfortable situation underlined with anger from her. I have come to the realization that trying to help is only making it worse. I won't visit again. Most of us long for happiness and feeling of being content and I hope we all find it. Take care of yourself. There is only one of you......

Well done on you! As it sounds so cruel to say I will say it again: WELL DONE for walking away. Now I hope you do stay away.

People can only be helped if they make the effort to help themselves. We as SP/WG must realise one thing, this life we ladies live are your FANTASY life. NOT reality! UNFORTUNATELY lots of ladies play the " I'm a victim and feel sorry for me". Fuck no! Walk away. You have your private life with all its unpleasant things. No need to adopt another.

The ladies need to decide : Am I a victim or am I victorious.

This lady decided she's a victim and let herself go.

Lots decided they victorious and rise above circumstances.

Choices. We have choices.I can never accept that there will not be help if you want to rise above the shit you're in. There are always a way. Just get the fuck up and speak out,stay focused and refuse to turn back to old habits or circumstances.

And before you say
"but you don't know poverty, going to bed hungry, not having a place to stay"... First ask me. I was there! I know!

It is really heartbreaking to walk away from people.

Especially if you have know the beter version of that person.

Life is filled with the 3 C's- Chance, Choice and Change.

Everyone of us are given chances in live. Everyone of us have choices in live. And everyone of us have the power to change.

Just like you the person you walking away from had all those.

Don't feel bad for not giving more chances. Don't feel bad choosing to put yourself first. And never feel bad about changing your lifes direction that will result in leaving people behind that have not chosen to use the chances you gave them to change.

Maybe you walking away might be enough for that person to have a good hard look at themselves and realise their chances are running out and they need to step up and make beter choices and need to change their ways.

There is a saying

"The road to hell is paved with good intentions"

We form bonds of friendship and maybe more with some SP's we see them more than a financial arrangement. I'm also sure the reverse is true but if the person is not willing to admit to the problem and try to change you can't let it drag you down.

Our compassion as human beings can be stretched so far before breaking. As heart wrenching as it is if the person is not willing to change then the connection must be severed before it brings you down.

Maybe this is the catalyst to make her think and change and I truly hope that is what happens. But your own state of mind must come first.

You have made the right decision, albeit a very tough one

Stay strong and hopefully the lady will get through this

Jake

Never easy to turn your back on a damsel in distress, but you 100% doing the right thing.

Its not going to be easy, but stay strong. Find another lady, to keep your mind occupied.

I agree with all four postings on this intersting new thread.
A similar experience,whilst also feeling helpless in that why will her nearest family members not step in, take control and arrange rehabilitation.
If everybody walks away the worst is unavoidable.

I agree with the ladies and gentlemen here one has to be cruel to be kind. Especially with druggie they play on your emotions and they will say and do anything to get the money for the next fix, including telling you that they have stopped or that they are going to stop. The truth is that only they can help themselves.

In this world we are all given a body, a brain, a life and the freedom of choice. The sad reality is that we are all responsible for ourselves and as much as we care and feel for others nobody and I mean nobody can live their lives and make their choices for them. Even if you do send her to rehabilitation center this does not mean that she will stop she will only stop if she really wants to or if she's dead the choice is hers at the end of the day. I am pleased that you chose not to enable her habits. Well done to you and pat yourself on the back. The way you chose to react to this situation is the only way to handle this so really hats off to you.

It's sad that people chose this road and it's not easy if you care for the person sometimes they get help and sadly other times they are lost cases.

I ve also in the past had to walk away its not easy but necessary.

So over 2 decades ago I myself was caught in same sea of self dispare I had to start over when choosing to come clean. I have also been one that had to walk away from friends going down the same road while I was cleaning yes for my own good but also for their good.

On 2021-05-18 06:55:37 Frank the tank said:
I agree with all four postings on this intersting new thread.
A similar experience,whilst also feeling helpless in that why will her nearest family members not step in, take control and arrange rehabilitation.
If everybody walks away the worst is unavoidable.

Family will only help as far as they are able to. Often they have tried so many times before. Rehab is very expensive. I have cousins who are psychiatric nurses and have worked with addicts both in private and state institutions. What I am posting is with a bit of info I heard from them. Getting court ordered rehab isn't that easy and if the person doesn't want help there isn't much you can do.
People think its as easy as tv shows portray. All the family gets together and say their say, everybody cries and the addict goes to rehab.... as my cuz always reminds us, its staged drama with a hint of fact.
Many families depend on the wg so they say nothing as long as they benefit and in some cases are addicts themselves.
A neighbour has an addict niece. Their family have gotten her into rehab so many times. She was in rehab again a few months ago. She has relapsed again and the family has realised they cannot keep going through the drama. They are now going to child welfare to get the son placed on the care of an aunty. They are fed up now.They have decided to withdraw. Tough love. They also have to do what is right for the child which right now formalising who his legal guardian is.
Another neighbour told me he spent 40k a few years ago for rehab for his daughter. Hers was a success story first time. And it was actually more to do with meeting her bf than anything else.
If the addict wants help and wants to change and do the work, its all worth it.

Glad you walked away you can take the horse to the water but can't make him drink sober habits is the best

You are a soft soul. I hope she is OK and don't loose herself completely :'(