There is a difference between list and love and man and woman and blah blah.
The truth is men are there to get their load off ever they might need to do that.
Woman wont just do that. They need to establish that link of intimacy values attraction of the inner not really the outer. All of that spells disaster for an existing relations. Because she is falling for the guy or the lady.
Some guys just have a very high testosterone level. And need that action every day and thats that the women complain thats it tiring it drains them etc etc. So thats why we punt. And thats why it hurts to find out she is having an affair. And thats why i say leave the cheating bitch. Because now she will always emotionally blackmail you if you go back. She will bring up how she has always taken you back and let you dare mention her infidelity. She will milk you dry with her emotions.
She wont wake up and make your lunch for work. But she will have an affair with a guy because he is bringing lunch for me he cares for me.
She wont compliment you ever but she will keep track to say he compliments me everyday not only when i dress in what he likes. Like why the hell wouldnt he he knows what he is aiming for.
Women aee not forgiving they are patronizing.
And even with knowing all of that i love my wife whole heartedly and would not continue a relationship with anyone else if i feel it becoming more than just a good time.
My wife has never caught me not because i am that good but i will not repeatedly visit a certain wg because there will be a sense of obligations begining to form.
The worst she gives ne kak for is watching porn and that i may be masturbating.
However she i have got 3 times building a relationship to an affair.
Yet i have forgiven her and moved on without even a second thought to it because they hadnt gone through with the affair as yet and according to her she stopped immediately so i believe and trust her.
However all this years she patronized me of loving one of my ex girls and i admitted sleeping with with her. Which was a lie. But she stopped talking, interacting with me completely. And till to today 12 years later she reminds me of how i told her that and she can never be the same. But truth is if i have to ever mention one of her attempted affairs she will have an emotional, mental meltdown.
Women demand equal rights but they play the victim to everything and expect special treatment.yet i cant live witout her because she is by my best friend, my partner, my supporter in my corner, my biggest fan, my biggest critic, my soulmate. But if she has an affair i will leave he fucked up ass where it is. Because i have told her if i am not good enough talk to me and we can explore this world together. Her answer was hell no i cant let anyone touch you or sleep with you. So ok theb so be it. But now if she does on her own and i get her.... thats where my Iron fist will fall.

TLDR

It's because of the meaning. Men cancan often do fuck other people and it's purely sexual. They really truly do love their partner butntheybwamt sex too if they not getting it or they want anal and she don't or BJ's or whatever but it's probably just sexual orbs fetish.

For a women to do that, it means she mentally and emotionally bonded with that person and it's far more than sexual. Wasn't about getting an orgasm or getting person or something but she genuinely had feelings for another and wanted them over the partner.

WTF @Need4Passion....

Do you stutter when you talk.... or only when you write...!

Sorry, couldn't resist...;))

Been there.
I know my other half had had at least a couple of flings, but I also know the context, and the guys in fact! There was no serious feelings involved, and to be honest I am glad she had the courage to have a fling or two...she knows my history before we married, and she knows of my punting and playing away. So for me it hasn't made any difference...if anything I find it a bit of a turn on (especially as I seem to rate highly in comparison!!).
So the dude who was serial cheater, but then can't take it in return, well he has a self confidence and trust problem clearly..Shame, as it sounds like his wife wants to stay...and MOST women, in my humble experience, are a lot less likely to mess around than guys.

In addition to previous notes, I should say I am seriously thinking of encouraging my wife to indulge in a "sympathy fuck" with a guy I used to work with and I know fancies my wife. He is definitely not experienced sexually...seems he got married years back (after we first met him), only to find his wife was totally gay, and we understand he got nothing from her...so he may actually be a virgin in his 40s....
But obviously don't want him to then get fixated on my wife, though he lives and works hundreds of Kms away, so will probably just leave that well alone...

Interesting thread this.
Wife cheated on me a couple of years ago.
Stay with her for the 3 small kids. Do not love her or respect her. But I want to teach my children still how to treat a woman with respect etc.

I fucking trust no one at this point in time

On 2020-02-14 17:01:39 ouman punter said:
WTF @Need4Passion....

Do you stutter when you talk.... or only when you write...!

Sorry, couldn't resist...;))

Lol, was rushing. Didn't even re-read it until now

On 2020-01-28 08:03:26 KICKASS said:
Having an affair is absolutely awesome until it starts turning out to be like a second marriage. I have been having an affair for almost 5 yrs fantastic times but it got abit to much for me.

Didn't you mention earlier up this thread that you're not married " so you can punt lekker" now you're referring to a Second marriage and you've been having an affair ??

On 2020-02-14 19:40:11 Mr3 said:
Interesting thread this.
Wife cheated on me a couple of years ago.
Stay with her for the 3 small kids. Do not love her or respect her. But I want to teach my children still how to treat a woman with respect etc.

I fucking trust no one at this point in time

Are you still staying together? Man a couple of times wow she does not learn ..

On 2020-02-14 23:27:15 S247 said:
On 2020-02-14 19:40:11

Are you still staying together? Man a couple of times wow she does not learn ..

I think he never learns or likes been a martyr, come doormat, come on man teach your children that happiness matters, to have respect for themselves, not some garbage sticking together so everyone can be miserable is a good idea..