To raise your children in a family, marriage is the best, least complicated option.
This is about 20yrs of your life in reality.
Before an after that, being single may be better for most men.
Punting while married is what 90%??? of esa does to get through those 20yrs LOL!

It depends on who you marry.

Here is some more J_J

Romantic monogamy or sexual monogamy?

Does each not feed off each other?

Could that be the reason many a man and woman mix infatuation for "love" in a world most purple?

Believing something most extraordinary has taken place?...

Another fascinating truth is how humans "dare" to be "deviant" in their sexual exploration with a total stranger.
Could it be because it is a safe zone? A zone where judgemnt is reserved. Where one is not considered mad, weak, without moral...


Because God has nothing to do with ones moral fibre. Nor does ones Faith or Spirituality.....nor does a judgemental fickle society and its views either. The anomalies cannot be excused but neither judged... like the typical analyst i am....to sit on a sofa and we could talk for hours and hours.

One fears that which one knows not.


...and then to talk about Freddy Mercury and many more who are not as famous as he was and are going through their own hell. All unique yet , sound so similar.
To point to his wife as the reason for his demise or possible savior.....mmmm.

Still working my way through that one.


RB

No. But yes.

On 2026-02-16 12:57:15 Russian Bridgitte said:


To point to his wife as the reason for his demise or possible savior.....mmmm.

Oh no, I hope that point did not come across wrong. No person is responsible for another's demise or salvation. Let's not go down that rabbit hole. The question is complex enough on it own, which simply put...

You meet someone you are so deeply connected with that it has a profound affect on your being. You just better together. Not imply you worse apart, but to the inner feelings. But, you not sexually compatible. Is sexual compatibility a must, and if not, does it mean no soul mate whose not sexually compatible. Or in such instances, can we adapt ...

Apologies J_J

My mistake on how I worded re wive's being demise or saviors.

I did understand what u wrote and meant to say I shall post further on the point of mention of the late Freddy Mercury .


To go back to my original post on being "broken".

How many times can one tie a snapped elastic before it begins to lose complete elasticity.

Does "broken" not ask of the other to be "broken" ...tweaked?

How long before the embrace of the others different ways becomes a "burden" too heavy...a possible empowering of the very thing that will drive the "soulmates" apart?
Or is it more a crutch that eventually gives way?...and then comes the collapse for one never learnt to stand on one's own two feet and deal with ones own demons.

Life.

If only we knew how to navigate it without demise or fall.

RB.

We adapt in almost all things / relations. Why the absolutes in marriage?

Marriage is worth it if you marry the right person. Not the perfect person. So you weigh up the pros and cons.

So I married my best friend, intelligent we discuss all topics and we differ, she is kind hearted and still sexier than 90% of ladies on this site. It was a pleasure to be locked up with her in COVID.

The only con is she has little interest in sex. Now do I throw that all away. You must be an idiot. That is why I punt. Btw been married over 20 years and would do it again.

Then on the other hand I know guys that are married and are so unhappy.

Same here happy in my marriage I believe my sex life is better that 70% of the average man in a marriage regarding intimacy. My thing is i only started punting in my 40's. Wanted to experience the spice of life.

Marriage is totally wortn it till death does you apart.